honeybunch1
Cathlete
I've been working with this woman for 16 months now (personal training), and I want to tell her I won't work with her anymore. I need your help get the message across to her in a way that won't hurt her feelings.
Some details:
1. At our fitness center we don't charge extra for personal training, so my time is not costing her anything.
2. Age: early 50's; does not work outside the home; is about 40 pounds overweight; has been successful with weight loss before working with a body sculpting tape
3. I believe I have allowed her to take advantage of me because I felt it was "my job" to work with her as long as she wanted to come in, which for a long time was 3 times a week, but I will now not work with anyone more then 2 times a week. She certainly has the time to come to my classes, which I have encouraged her to do, but she won't, claiming it would "interupt her day," but I've come to realize she likes the one-on-one attention.
4. She will not take any advice I offer as far as losing weight, like keep a food journal, read certain books, wear a pedometer, etc, etc, etc. She's only lost 10 pounds in the whole 16 months. She doesn't want to have to keep track of anything.
5. In other words, she's not very motivated and is not getting results that I know she could get if she really tried. I've been able to help others achieve their goals, so I know it isn't me.
Since I've come to realize that she comes to the fitness center just for something to do, I want tell her I won't be working with her anymore. Now would be a perfect time because she hasn't come in for almost 2 weeks because she has several minor ailments going on at the same time, and does "not have the energy."
Now, Oh, Wise Ones, how do I tell her? I know she'll be crushed if I don't word it right. I was thinking of telling her I don't think whatever I'm doing is helping her reach her fitness goals and that I think it's time to stop meeting with her. What do you suggest? By the way, my boss is OK with my just cutting her lose - I'm under no obligation with my job to stick with her, especially if she' spinning her wheels.
"It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt." Mark Twain ;-)
Some details:
1. At our fitness center we don't charge extra for personal training, so my time is not costing her anything.
2. Age: early 50's; does not work outside the home; is about 40 pounds overweight; has been successful with weight loss before working with a body sculpting tape
3. I believe I have allowed her to take advantage of me because I felt it was "my job" to work with her as long as she wanted to come in, which for a long time was 3 times a week, but I will now not work with anyone more then 2 times a week. She certainly has the time to come to my classes, which I have encouraged her to do, but she won't, claiming it would "interupt her day," but I've come to realize she likes the one-on-one attention.
4. She will not take any advice I offer as far as losing weight, like keep a food journal, read certain books, wear a pedometer, etc, etc, etc. She's only lost 10 pounds in the whole 16 months. She doesn't want to have to keep track of anything.
5. In other words, she's not very motivated and is not getting results that I know she could get if she really tried. I've been able to help others achieve their goals, so I know it isn't me.
Since I've come to realize that she comes to the fitness center just for something to do, I want tell her I won't be working with her anymore. Now would be a perfect time because she hasn't come in for almost 2 weeks because she has several minor ailments going on at the same time, and does "not have the energy."
Now, Oh, Wise Ones, how do I tell her? I know she'll be crushed if I don't word it right. I was thinking of telling her I don't think whatever I'm doing is helping her reach her fitness goals and that I think it's time to stop meeting with her. What do you suggest? By the way, my boss is OK with my just cutting her lose - I'm under no obligation with my job to stick with her, especially if she' spinning her wheels.
"It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt." Mark Twain ;-)