>Question 2: what the heck will I name her? (give me some
>gender neutral names please)
I don't think it's possible to fairly name a cat (or any pet) before you get to know them, or to have someone who has never met them name them. Wait until s/he is home with you before you decide on a name. Just to give you some ideas on how pets in my family (and some I named at the shelter) got their names, which may inspire you:
Tiger (a Tiger striped cat...my parents weren't to inventive)
Tom (a stray tom cat we took in...again...parents idea)
Punkin' (I was going to call her "Salina," but when she crawled into the pumpkin my stepmother and I were carving, and had left unattended in the kitchen, she got her name. She was a calico. The name fit her perfectly---I came up with the spelling).
Sweet-Pea (she had this name when I adopted her. She was a blind, 4-year-oldish tortie who had been found in a barn and was brought to a vet for euthanasia. Some folks in an animal rights group I was in saved her and named her. I was going to call her "Peanut," because "Sweet-pea" seemed like a rather weak name, but she ended up being so darn sweet her 'original' name stuck.
Frisco (a big black cat with a white spot on tummy and neck. The same two women who saved Sweet-Pea rescued him from a trailer park, and named him Keiko. Didn't quite fit, but he liked the "k" sound. I tried several names on him--including some of my favorites, like Sam and Max--but they didn't quite fit. Then I tried "Sam Francisco"--the film Alien Nation was out about that time, and a character had that name. He reacted to the "Francisco" part, which I turned into Frisco.)
Scooter (a smaller version of a Maine Coon, but he's all street cat. He was small when I adopted him, and he had to scoot out of the Frisco's way at first, and the name just stuck...even though the people who found him called him Max, and it's a name I like, but have never used on a cat).
Tina (a petit black stray I fed, had spayed, and later adopted. She was very tiny and feminine, so Tina fit well. You see I have a penchant for 2-syllable names.)
Simon (a big black cat. He looks a bit Jewish to me, and the name just fits!)
Bobsie (a tortoise shell bobtail... also known as "Miss B" or "BB"...most of my cats have had several nicknames as well as their official names!)
Mandy (I don't know why, it just fits her. She seems rather elegant and old-fashioned. The *$@ who had previously adopted her---and had her declawed and brought her back because she was 'moving''--called her Sadie, but it didn't fit, IMO.)
Rascal (just a big old rascally stripped tom. He is a Rascal...and a scardey cat!)
Some shelter cats I have named:
Schmee (a very strange looking cat with a huge nose and cross eyes. Though it was a he, but the name fit HER anyway. Kind of like a name for a Hobbit or something).
Bunny (a tailless Manx calico).
Emily (she just looked like an Emily).
I've seen a web site before with cat and dog names (separate lists). If you need more inspiration, check that out.
