TTC/Preg Check in June 18th
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MSJ
Cathlete
Hi everyone--
Yesterday, as dh and big kids were coming home from tae kwon do, someone left the door open and ds 6 (with down syndrome) and dd 2 escaped and none of us realized it because we were chatting about tae kwon do. God is so good. The drug dealer neighbors came and told us that they'd just seen them run down toward the field and had sent their 6 yr old twins after them (we live just above the local middle school.) And dd2 was butt naked and dirty from playing outside all day. Oh the things that could have happened--I felt like bad mother of the year. I'm going to make a big batch of cinnamon rolls for neighbors this weekend, because if it wasn't for them, we may not have noticed they were missing for 10-15 minutes.
I'm still freaked about the whole thing, but praising the Lord it all ended well.
Saw the ob today. I'm only measuring 2-3 weeks ahead, which is good for me. I'm usually 6-7. I had to take a post partum depression quiz. He'd like to put me on anti-depressants toward the end of the pregnancy. I really didn't think my answers warrented that--I tend to be somewhat emotional and moody anyway and it's just been a bit worse due to pregnancy--but I'm not very good with arguing with docs. He can write the scrip, but I don't have to fill it. I don't like taking medications because the side-effects are usually nasty. No judgements on anyone who feels differently--just my quirk.
I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one that has naked, nudey children
Okay--personals--
Melanie--I'd be embarrassed to have a maid come over--it's that bad (but getting better). Your schedule sounds grueling and with morning sickness on top of it all, I agree that something will have to give. I'll keep praying for a miracle buyer to show up really soon.
Mikkia--yes, cleaning is the weak link around here. I do have lots of help with the big kids, but it still gets bad fast. I agree that other things are a lot more important than a clean house and it shows Oh and yes, Candra's potty training method worked well for me, it's just the fall out is that they don't want to wear clothes for some time. I wonder if our various neighbors think that they are neglected. ((hugs re the nausea))
Candra--yes, you and I use the same potty training method. I didn't use it for the first three, I was much more formal and it took a lot of energy. For the last three, I just let them go and they figured it out. It was almost effortless--a few messes, but they caught on pretty quickly. Bummer about your friend's daughter-- I hope she heals up quickly. I'm sure she will be really glad for your company.
Kate--another let em go naked potty trainer. I really though I was wierd. Wow--I mean people write whole books on this subject and we've condenced it to one sentence. We have bible study tonight also--studying 1 Peter.
********alert********one of the missing leopard geckos has been found, and there was much rejoicing (but not by me)
Susan--sorry about the spotting. Your workouts look great. I hope you have a good time with your weekend guests.
Stephanie--as a big gainer myself, I'm going to have a hard time kicking your butt, but I do feel your pain. I work out quite a bit, but I'm not sure how much it helps, because I can hardly do cardio right now. I'm lifting as heavy as ever, but the cardio is just, well...let me put it to you this way. I'm going to do Tracey's walking workout today--the marching on the floor version. I would have totally scoffed at that 6 months ago. Your minestrone looks fantastic. We are eating a lot of soup right now because it saves money.
Hi Trish! Hi Jen! Hi Lisa! Hi Anne! Hi Morris! Hi Kristan! Hi Alicia!
If I forgot anyone, I'm sorry ((hugs))
take care all--I'm off to workout
Maggie
31 weeks, 2 days
Yesterday, as dh and big kids were coming home from tae kwon do, someone left the door open and ds 6 (with down syndrome) and dd 2 escaped and none of us realized it because we were chatting about tae kwon do. God is so good. The drug dealer neighbors came and told us that they'd just seen them run down toward the field and had sent their 6 yr old twins after them (we live just above the local middle school.) And dd2 was butt naked and dirty from playing outside all day. Oh the things that could have happened--I felt like bad mother of the year. I'm going to make a big batch of cinnamon rolls for neighbors this weekend, because if it wasn't for them, we may not have noticed they were missing for 10-15 minutes.
I'm still freaked about the whole thing, but praising the Lord it all ended well.
Saw the ob today. I'm only measuring 2-3 weeks ahead, which is good for me. I'm usually 6-7. I had to take a post partum depression quiz. He'd like to put me on anti-depressants toward the end of the pregnancy. I really didn't think my answers warrented that--I tend to be somewhat emotional and moody anyway and it's just been a bit worse due to pregnancy--but I'm not very good with arguing with docs. He can write the scrip, but I don't have to fill it. I don't like taking medications because the side-effects are usually nasty. No judgements on anyone who feels differently--just my quirk.
I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one that has naked, nudey children
Okay--personals--
Melanie--I'd be embarrassed to have a maid come over--it's that bad (but getting better). Your schedule sounds grueling and with morning sickness on top of it all, I agree that something will have to give. I'll keep praying for a miracle buyer to show up really soon.
Mikkia--yes, cleaning is the weak link around here. I do have lots of help with the big kids, but it still gets bad fast. I agree that other things are a lot more important than a clean house and it shows
Oh and yes, Candra's potty training method worked well for me, it's just the fall out is that they don't want to wear clothes for some time. I wonder if our various neighbors think that they are neglected. ((hugs re the nausea))Candra--yes, you and I use the same potty training method. I didn't use it for the first three, I was much more formal and it took a lot of energy. For the last three, I just let them go and they figured it out. It was almost effortless--a few messes, but they caught on pretty quickly. Bummer about your friend's daughter-- I hope she heals up quickly. I'm sure she will be really glad for your company.
Kate--another let em go naked potty trainer. I really though I was wierd. Wow--I mean people write whole books on this subject and we've condenced it to one sentence. We have bible study tonight also--studying 1 Peter.
********alert********one of the missing leopard geckos has been found, and there was much rejoicing (but not by me
)Susan--sorry about the spotting. Your workouts look great. I hope you have a good time with your weekend guests.
Stephanie--as a big gainer myself, I'm going to have a hard time kicking your butt, but I do feel your pain. I work out quite a bit, but I'm not sure how much it helps, because I can hardly do cardio right now. I'm lifting as heavy as ever, but the cardio is just, well...let me put it to you this way. I'm going to do Tracey's walking workout today--the marching on the floor version. I would have totally scoffed at that 6 months ago. Your minestrone looks fantastic. We are eating a lot of soup right now because it saves money.
Hi Trish! Hi Jen! Hi Lisa! Hi Anne! Hi Morris! Hi Kristan! Hi Alicia!
If I forgot anyone, I'm sorry ((hugs))
take care all--I'm off to workout
Maggie
31 weeks, 2 days
melanalyus
Cathlete
Wow Maggie. I"m glad everyone's okay. Those little raskels!!!
~Melanie~
Jadon born 11/23/05
Justin born 1/17/04
Jory born 4/9/94
~Melanie~
Jadon born 11/23/05
Justin born 1/17/04
Jory born 4/9/94
chefkate
Cathlete
Maggie, HOW SCARY! I can't imagine how fast you travelled to retrieve them! Yikes! I feel the same way about meds - absolute emergencies only. You sure don't seem depressed to me. Bible study always helps more than any old drug ever will! Centers me and reminds me what is most important - depression pills ain't got nothin' on the GOSpills! (gospels).
Had a great nap with DDs - they're still conked out. Roast is in the oven and I'm starving!!!
Oh - I made "the muffins" again. Didn't have C.chips so I put in butterscotch chips - YUMMMMMMYYY!! I've only had one thus far but more are on the horizon I'm sure!
Centers me and reminds me what is most important - depression pills ain't got nothin' on the GOSpills! (gospels). Had a great nap with DDs - they're still conked out. Roast is in the oven and I'm starving!!!
Oh - I made "the muffins" again. Didn't have C.chips so I put in butterscotch chips - YUMMMMMMYYY!! I've only had one thus far but more are on the horizon I'm sure!
dlandkk808
Cathlete
I haven't read through all the posts yet, but just wanted to drop in and say hello. You guys are a busy bunch! I'm at work and I'll read through everything when I get home, but wanted to just say I'm still here!
Maggie - I did read your post about the kids. Thank God they are alright and believe me, all mothers including me have had moments like that where we're like "I can't believe I let that happen."
I gotta workout tonight. Probably pull out Bootcamp. We'll see. BBL.
Lisa
Maggie - I did read your post about the kids. Thank God they are alright and believe me, all mothers including me have had moments like that where we're like "I can't believe I let that happen."
I gotta workout tonight. Probably pull out Bootcamp. We'll see. BBL.
Lisa
Stephanie0523
Cathlete
Hey guys,
I just have a quick minute to post because soup's on the stove, and I'm upstairs. The kiddos and DH are at the park (praise God).
Maggie--Just wanted to tell you that I am SOOOO glad that everything worked out well with your kiddos. You are not a bad mommy!!! These things happen sometimes, unfortunately, to the best mommies--which I am SURE you are! About the meds --I had to go on meds after the birth of DS #2. I was very ashamed to admit that I was depressed, but finally did when he was about 6 months old. I had a really bad time two weeks out of the month --the week before my period and the week of. My doc put me on meds just those two weeks of each month, and they made all the difference. I wish I had just asked sooner. I was able to enjoy being a mommy and enjoy my kiddos so much more. I stopped taking them after about 7 or 8 months. I told my new doc about that and that I may need to ask for the same assistance after this baby. BUT I'm going to try to just achieve emotional harmony by eating really well post partum. I have heard that Omega 3 fatty acids are very good mood boosters. So stock up on flax seed oil, walnuts, salmon and/or supplements. ((Hugs)) And remember, we've probably all been there!!
I just have a quick minute to post because soup's on the stove, and I'm upstairs. The kiddos and DH are at the park (praise God)
.Maggie--Just wanted to tell you that I am SOOOO glad that everything worked out well with your kiddos. You are not a bad mommy!!! These things happen sometimes, unfortunately, to the best mommies--which I am SURE you are! About the meds --I had to go on meds after the birth of DS #2. I was very ashamed to admit that I was depressed, but finally did when he was about 6 months old. I had a really bad time two weeks out of the month --the week before my period and the week of. My doc put me on meds just those two weeks of each month, and they made all the difference. I wish I had just asked sooner. I was able to enjoy being a mommy and enjoy my kiddos so much more. I stopped taking them after about 7 or 8 months. I told my new doc about that and that I may need to ask for the same assistance after this baby. BUT I'm going to try to just achieve emotional harmony by eating really well post partum. I have heard that Omega 3 fatty acids are very good mood boosters. So stock up on flax seed oil, walnuts, salmon and/or supplements. ((Hugs)) And remember, we've probably all been there!!
MSJ
Cathlete
Thanks, everyone, for the nice comments about how I'm not a bad mother. The whole family needed a good reminder about the importance of keeping the doors shut when loading and unloading. Malcolm has "escaped" before (like twice), but hasn't left the block. A lot of down syndrome kids do this type of thing, apparently....and this is the first time a sibling took off with him.
Kate--thanks for the encouragement--So far, the Lord and his promises and frankly probably the prayers of other people have carried me through a lot. Dh and I talked about it. I've been functioning just fine--getting everything done that needs to get done, I'm just more emotional and introverted than usual--it's not like I'm lying in bed unable to function or crying every minute of the day...anyway...my ob hardly knows me, he just goes by the score on the paper. (I did have ppd after baby #2, but lots of other stuff was going on--wintertime, a major betrayal by extended family, financial difficulties, no real support system--so it's hard to tell how much was ppd and how much was all the other stuff)
Stephanie--thanks for sharing your experience. I have nothing against anti-depressants and I think that if I got to a point where I was unable to function or dh felt that I was a danger to myself or the kids(like after baby #2), I'm sure we would take a much closer look at taking them. I'll have to look into the omega 3 stuff. I do know that when I eat really clean, the moods tend to level a bit. Enjoy your alone time--I know I do
take care all!
Maggie
31 weeks, 2 days
Kate--thanks for the encouragement--So far, the Lord and his promises and frankly probably the prayers of other people have carried me through a lot. Dh and I talked about it. I've been functioning just fine--getting everything done that needs to get done, I'm just more emotional and introverted than usual--it's not like I'm lying in bed unable to function or crying every minute of the day...anyway...my ob hardly knows me, he just goes by the score on the paper. (I did have ppd after baby #2, but lots of other stuff was going on--wintertime, a major betrayal by extended family, financial difficulties, no real support system--so it's hard to tell how much was ppd and how much was all the other stuff)
Stephanie--thanks for sharing your experience. I have nothing against anti-depressants and I think that if I got to a point where I was unable to function or dh felt that I was a danger to myself or the kids(like after baby #2), I'm sure we would take a much closer look at taking them. I'll have to look into the omega 3 stuff. I do know that when I eat really clean, the moods tend to level a bit. Enjoy your alone time--I know I do
take care all!
Maggie
31 weeks, 2 days
Hi,
Last night, we got home from Hershey Park at 9:30p.m., and after putting DS to bed I worked on one of the two grad projects I have due tomorrow night. Aside from walking around the park for 3 hours (up and down hills), I didn't do a "structured" workout. Today was busy as well. DS and I played, read and put puzzles together this morning. After his nap, we went to a friend's house for dinner. DS was in a "mood"}( , so we didn't stay that long.
I was so gung ho with potty training a few months back, but DS was NOT. I stopped because we weren't getting anywhere. I started again, with the timer, rewards, etc. last week, but it still wasn't going anywhere, and he was getting SO frustrated (and so was I even though I tried not to show it). I am thinking of doing the naked thing, but what happens when you have to take your child on errands? Diapers or underwear/training pants? I really do not want to buy a book about this topic, so any advice would be great. By the way, he is 3 years, 3 months. So, we need potty training yesterday (ha-ha).
I plan to do a quick upper body workout when I am done working tonight,but if it gets too late, I will have to set my alarm and wake up early to do it. DH is in NY at the Yankees game, and he will get back tomorrow.
Melanie-Don't worry about not getting a ton of workouts in. Your body needs to rest now. You'll get them in soon enough, especially when your Elliptical gets there.
Mikkia-Don't feel bad about not going to brunch. You probably wouldn't have been much fun (no offense). I thought my baby was going to be a boy, and I was right. I had nausea with both pregnancies (both boys).
Susan-Hopefully your spotting will end soon. I have heard of Ashton-Drake before, but not sure how or where. That's the doll company, right?
Stephanie-Thanks for the recipe-I love minestrone! Don't beat yourself up over the weight gain. What month are you in? I gained some pounds over the last two months (a lot). I know that I am doing the best I can, and that I will get it off soon after the baby is born. You will too. Now...what workout did you do today?
Candra-Too bad about friend's DD. I couldn't stand being stuck in the house.
Maggie-Thank God your kids are o.k. I am sure we could all tell stories like that. You are not a bad mommy! I wonder where the other gecko is...?
Kate-I want to know your opinion of Preg Bellies when you get it. I looked at them on ebay, but they are expensive. Where did you buy yours?
Hi Kristan, Hi Anne, Hi Lisa, Hi Alicia, Hi Trish.
-Jen
Last night, we got home from Hershey Park at 9:30p.m., and after putting DS to bed I worked on one of the two grad projects I have due tomorrow night. Aside from walking around the park for 3 hours (up and down hills), I didn't do a "structured" workout. Today was busy as well. DS and I played, read and put puzzles together this morning. After his nap, we went to a friend's house for dinner. DS was in a "mood"}( , so we didn't stay that long.
I was so gung ho with potty training a few months back, but DS was NOT. I stopped because we weren't getting anywhere. I started again, with the timer, rewards, etc. last week, but it still wasn't going anywhere, and he was getting SO frustrated (and so was I even though I tried not to show it). I am thinking of doing the naked thing, but what happens when you have to take your child on errands? Diapers or underwear/training pants? I really do not want to buy a book about this topic, so any advice would be great. By the way, he is 3 years, 3 months. So, we need potty training yesterday (ha-ha).
I plan to do a quick upper body workout when I am done working tonight,but if it gets too late, I will have to set my alarm and wake up early to do it. DH is in NY at the Yankees game, and he will get back tomorrow.
Melanie-Don't worry about not getting a ton of workouts in. Your body needs to rest now. You'll get them in soon enough, especially when your Elliptical gets there.
Mikkia-Don't feel bad about not going to brunch. You probably wouldn't have been much fun (no offense). I thought my baby was going to be a boy, and I was right. I had nausea with both pregnancies (both boys).
Susan-Hopefully your spotting will end soon. I have heard of Ashton-Drake before, but not sure how or where. That's the doll company, right?
Stephanie-Thanks for the recipe-I love minestrone! Don't beat yourself up over the weight gain. What month are you in? I gained some pounds over the last two months (a lot). I know that I am doing the best I can, and that I will get it off soon after the baby is born. You will too. Now...what workout did you do today?
Candra-Too bad about friend's DD. I couldn't stand being stuck in the house.
Maggie-Thank God your kids are o.k. I am sure we could all tell stories like that. You are not a bad mommy! I wonder where the other gecko is...?
Kate-I want to know your opinion of Preg Bellies when you get it. I looked at them on ebay, but they are expensive. Where did you buy yours?
Hi Kristan, Hi Anne, Hi Lisa, Hi Alicia, Hi Trish.
-Jen
melanalyus
Cathlete
Your friendly neighborhood pharmacist to chime in on antidepressant use---which is much much more common than you think.
There's no shame in needing antidepressants, in fact, I applaud anyone who takes care of themselves enough to get them if needed. Major stressors in life (new baby, new home, death, new job) are often so hard to handle, that one does need short term help. Sometimes, a person will need it long term, or even for the rest of their lives.
I am a very go lucky positive person. However, this summer, I found myself just not myself. I felt like I couldn't be the wife, mother, friend, employee that I was meant to be b/c my saddened state. I began and antidepressant and felt much better within a couple weeks. I continued to take them for about 6 months. I am not longer on them, and feel okay now. It was a "season" that I needed help with. It was hard for me to begin it (b/c I had never been depressed more than 2-3 days consecutively in the past).
In short, I"m glad I did in hindsight.
~Melanie~
Jadon born 11/23/05
Justin born 1/17/04
Jory born 4/9/94
There's no shame in needing antidepressants, in fact, I applaud anyone who takes care of themselves enough to get them if needed. Major stressors in life (new baby, new home, death, new job) are often so hard to handle, that one does need short term help. Sometimes, a person will need it long term, or even for the rest of their lives.
I am a very go lucky positive person. However, this summer, I found myself just not myself. I felt like I couldn't be the wife, mother, friend, employee that I was meant to be b/c my saddened state. I began and antidepressant and felt much better within a couple weeks. I continued to take them for about 6 months. I am not longer on them, and feel okay now. It was a "season" that I needed help with. It was hard for me to begin it (b/c I had never been depressed more than 2-3 days consecutively in the past).
In short, I"m glad I did in hindsight.
~Melanie~
Jadon born 11/23/05
Justin born 1/17/04
Jory born 4/9/94
chefkate
Cathlete
Which Bootcamp Lisa? 4DS or Original?
I am drooling Susan!!
Stephanie/Maggie/Melanie, I *so* do not mean to downplay ppd!!! I hope I didn't come across as insensitive. I know exactly what it's like as I suffered with it 2x. I probably should've gone on something for the 2nd one but I was too stubborn. Huge apology if anything I said was offensive. Stephanie, I will def. take note of the natural things you mentioned and I'm looking into some other stuff too.
Jen, I think Hershey Park WalkMax sounds like an official workout to me! I got PBellies at Collage - not cheap - $30 with shipping. Yuck.
Headed to bed soon - g'night!
I am drooling Susan!!
Stephanie/Maggie/Melanie, I *so* do not mean to downplay ppd!!! I hope I didn't come across as insensitive. I know exactly what it's like as I suffered with it 2x. I probably should've gone on something for the 2nd one but I was too stubborn. Huge apology if anything I said was offensive. Stephanie, I will def. take note of the natural things you mentioned and I'm looking into some other stuff too.
Jen, I think Hershey Park WalkMax sounds like an official workout to me! I got PBellies at Collage - not cheap - $30 with shipping. Yuck.
Headed to bed soon - g'night!
Jen, I took diapers away completely. I told my boys we didn't have anymore. So if we went out I put big boy underwear on them. I made sure they tried to potty b/f we left to go anywhere. I only had one accident in public and it was my fault for not getting him to the potty fast enough. I did put them in pull ups at night.
Candra
Candra
dlandkk808
Cathlete
Stephanie - I am an emotional eater also. I hate to admit to that fact, but when I get stressed at work I just want to eat, eat, and eat. We're all here to support one another and I've had many confessions done here on my bad eating as well! And speaking of, I told myself stop the sugar, but ended up having a bowl of chocolate truffle ice cream as soon as I got home from work because work was stressful.
Jen - Potty training is not one of my favorite things to do. I'm not a very patient person and I hate making my kids feel bad because I'm annoyed at myself and the process and not them. I did a lot of high fives with dd and she loved it. DS was a whole different story. He went when he was ready and I just had to let it go until he was ready. BTW, I love putting puzzles together.
Kate - I just got through doing the original BC. The 4DS is just a little too high intensity for me right now. That and the fact that half the things she does I can't because my belly is just in the way. I can't believe how much bigger I am this time around.
Susan - That doll looks way real. I think it would freak me out a little, but it is cute and I can see why a little girl would be so fascinated by it. Sorry about the spotting. I hated that stage after my miscarriage. It was like I gave birth or something the length of time I spotted.
Melanie - I slowed down a lot on my workouts during my first trimester because of my constant nausea. And I wasn't eating a whole lot so my energy level was really down. Just take care of you and baby and your energy will be back before you know it.
Mikkia - Don't feel bad about missing the party. People will understand that being nauseated is not fun. I was way more nauseated with my ds than with dd and I don't know what I'm having this time, but the nausea was really bad with this one. I'm guessing boy, but I'll find out in another 18-20 weeks.
Candra - Ouch about your friend's daughter. Which workout did you end up doing?
Hi Trish! Hi Kristan! Hi Anne! Hi Morris! Hi everyone else! Sorry if I missed anyone, it's not intentional, but pg brain is kicking in recently big time.
So I got BC done today and I feel good. We're heading out to the park after I post this so the kids can run around and I can take the dog out also. I realize that I really hate sleeping on my side. It is so uncomfortable and I can't wait to be able to lay flat on my back. I need to invest in a body pillow, but I haven't been able to find one! I got my last one at WalMart, but they didn't have one the last time I went. Anyway, most of you are probably sleeping by now, but I'm way behind in hrs from most of you so I hope you guys have a great night!
Lisa
Jen - Potty training is not one of my favorite things to do. I'm not a very patient person and I hate making my kids feel bad because I'm annoyed at myself and the process and not them. I did a lot of high fives with dd and she loved it. DS was a whole different story. He went when he was ready and I just had to let it go until he was ready. BTW, I love putting puzzles together.
Kate - I just got through doing the original BC. The 4DS is just a little too high intensity for me right now. That and the fact that half the things she does I can't because my belly is just in the way. I can't believe how much bigger I am this time around.
Susan - That doll looks way real. I think it would freak me out a little, but it is cute and I can see why a little girl would be so fascinated by it. Sorry about the spotting. I hated that stage after my miscarriage. It was like I gave birth or something the length of time I spotted.
Melanie - I slowed down a lot on my workouts during my first trimester because of my constant nausea. And I wasn't eating a whole lot so my energy level was really down. Just take care of you and baby and your energy will be back before you know it.
Mikkia - Don't feel bad about missing the party. People will understand that being nauseated is not fun. I was way more nauseated with my ds than with dd and I don't know what I'm having this time, but the nausea was really bad with this one. I'm guessing boy, but I'll find out in another 18-20 weeks.
Candra - Ouch about your friend's daughter. Which workout did you end up doing?
Hi Trish! Hi Kristan! Hi Anne! Hi Morris! Hi everyone else! Sorry if I missed anyone, it's not intentional, but pg brain is kicking in recently big time.
So I got BC done today and I feel good. We're heading out to the park after I post this so the kids can run around and I can take the dog out also. I realize that I really hate sleeping on my side. It is so uncomfortable and I can't wait to be able to lay flat on my back. I need to invest in a body pillow, but I haven't been able to find one! I got my last one at WalMart, but they didn't have one the last time I went. Anyway, most of you are probably sleeping by now, but I'm way behind in hrs from most of you so I hope you guys have a great night!
Lisa