TTC/ Post-Miscarriage Support 1-4-08

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melanalyus

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Hello ladies (and fellow FB buddies). I'm so impressed that ya'll have FB accounts. I'm there alot more than I am here now-a-days.

For the past 3 days I've been downright PISSED at DH. He will not be intimiate with me at all. I cannot even attack him. This goes much deeper than even TTC (and the fact that I was on fertility meds and he still wouldn't "perform"). I'm a sexual person, and am deeply saddened that he won't be intimate. Out of despiration, I ordered some naughty toys for myself this afternoon. It won't get me a baby,....but it will relieve some tension. :p:p

I've taken up a spot in the spare room. When he's ready to be intimate, he can come find me. Until then, I'm PISSED!!!!!!!!

Okay, enough of that. Today I did Cardio Coach 4. I have all of them.:rolleyes::rolleyes: Love them.

Any new action at your homefronts?

Jen, that's great about your HCG levels.

Fig, you seem like a busy gal (and very energetic).

Bethany, did you get busy?!?!?

BBL :)
 
Melanie, just today I was asking DH (yet again) if there is anything I can do to help him boost his sexual desire. A few weeks ago he blamed his low libido on his truck that was having problems...now that it's fixed things haven't changed (not surprisingly:confused:). I've been jumping him at least every other day this past week or two but like you said even that doesn't always do it. *sigh* I strongly believe that if DH felt better about himself or took time to care for himself (read: exercise, eat right) that he'd want sex more. But as much as I can motivate patients to exercise as part of my job I CANNOT get DH to move an inch! Good luck with this issue and if you find some sort of solution - I'm all ears!:D

Today I did KPC drills and abs + L&G standing. I had to split it up into 2 parts though bc DH's aunts came over for lunch from out of town so it was a mad rush this morning with cleaning and cooking (shish-kabobs and salad...about as crafty as I get:p)

Did you see the link posted for the updated 16 week fat loss rotation in the rotation forum? It looks really good! Now to figure out whether to do the Jan. rotation or the 16 week (but it's really just 4 weeks).

On another note, tomorrow I begin working full time again. I've been working M,W,F since coming back from maternity leave and LOVING that schedule. I really treasure my Tues and Thurs with Taylor right now. She's growing so fast and starting to pull up on everything (and getting into everything) - she's so much fun to watch! BUT, wintertime means our busy season with all of the snow birds coming down so they needed extra hours at work. We'll see how it goes.:(
 
Bethany, I'll be praying for you....that things go smoothly with your work schedule. It's so hard to be a working mommy....and I know how it is to long to be with your wee-ones. *sigh*....I know you've made the most of your extra time with her. I remember when I went back to work after maternity leave....it was all I could do not to cry....for like the fist couple weeks....and I only worked 30hrs/week!!

Ditto on libido thing. Let me know if you find anything. I'm even considering a homeopathic remedy or something that he can take daily. We tried a couple doses of Viagra,...and it didn't even work! Which leads me to believe that it is psychological. It's so hard not to think it's me (if I were cuter, sexier, wore more make up, blah blah blah). It's not me, it's him. But man!!! I hope he can get over it soon b/c I am NOT getting younger!!!! :confused:

LOL Don't you just love our conversations we have here.

A fellow Catheite contacted me and wants to give me her ovulation machine/kits she no longer needs. Isn't that just awesome?
 
Hey ladies! Well, I'm finally back to a full work week after the holidays. Hopefully it stays quiet this next week so I can get caught up on reports and such.

I'm sorry to hear about your DH's libido (or lack therof) right now for both of you ladies. It's pretty difficult to get pregnant when that is happening. I'm sorry but I don't really have any words of wisdom or advice. The times when I felt like that in the past with my own DH, I also tried to remember that me nagging or making snide comments wasn't helping his mental state. My DH had finally admitted at one point that his lack of libido and my hurt feelings made him feel bad but me making him feel worse didn't help either. :( Maybe you can give him some cocktails to help relax him but not enough so he can't perform. Maybe then there wouldn't be so much pressure?????

Bethany-I can't imagine having to leave your little one to go back to work. I'm not even pregnant and it breaks my heart. I wish you lots of love and strength as you get through the next couple weeks. I haven't tried any of the rotations yet. I always print them out and think I am going to do one but I end up doing my own thing depending on how my body feels that day. Maybe you could give me some words of encouragement??? :)

Well I almost didn't get a workout in last night and then decided last minute to do GS Legs and boy am I weak from a month of not working out!!! I had to sit some stuff out but at least I got through it and I finally got my leg workout in for the week. Today might be a rest day because DH is off tonight and we can finally spend some time together.

Jen
 
Jen, you're absolutely right about how making DH feel pressured or bad about himself can make things worse. DH told me that he already feels bad that he isn't interested in sex, then feels worse when I feel bad...like a vicious circle:p Great job on your workouts, it sounds like you're really getting back into the swing of things.

I love doing rotations bc they force me to do workouts that I normally wouldn't (like MIC - I despise that one)...it seems to get results that way. Someone said on the forums that the things that we hate doing are the things we often need to do the most. I hate cardio but that's all I've been doing lately and I think I've lost some body fat - I can see my ribs and sternum poking out.:eek:

Hope you have a nice evening with your DH!

Thanks for the enouragement about returning to work FT. I never thought I'd be a mom that cried as I dropped my baby off at daycare, then guess who was bawling as I pulled out of the parking lot on her first day? It's almost harder now because she knows who I am and cries for me when I'm gone and smiles big and races over to me when I get her. I'm sure it'll get easier though eventually.

What's new with you ladies?
 
Bethany- Your post brought tears to my eyes about bawling when you drop your daughter off. What an amazing feeling to have her smile and run to you at the end of the day though. I can't wait for that with one of my own. :) Your post about the rotations and sometimes "what we need most" has gotten me thinking. The problem with some of the rotations is that I don't do step...whatsoever. I am the most uncoordinated when it comes to it. Don't get me wrong, I have tried it and I get so frustrated with it that it is no fun. On the other hand, I love kickboxing and never have any trouble with the combos. Weird....That is why I wanted to try Amy Bento because my middle slims down when I do more kickboxing from all the twisting I guess. I just want to be in really great shape when I get pregnant again so I have been really trying to work hard.

Nothing new on the TTC front here. I've been monitoring my CM (which I finally have again after the m/c) so I am hoping to O soon. I really really want to try again this cycle and I have to force myself to wait. I know it is the best thing for my body and my uterine lining to wait but it is hard. I'm on another forum and all the girls that are in the TTC board are getting BFP's (and I am soo so happy for them!) but it makes me even more impatient and anxious for mine! I'm thinking of not visiting the site so much until next cycle when we really get down to business. What's going on with you ladies? Melanie- Did you O yet? Bethany- Did you decide if you were going to call your dr? Lainie- Any symptoms???

Hope you guys have a great day!
 
Hi there. :)

I had relations with DH!!!!!!!! Yahoo! Seems like a holiday, more than an event. :p:p Okay, I"m being naughty now. It was not our fertile time, but was nice neverthless. I expect my period in 10 days or so with ZERO hope of pregnancy....we were not intimate ANY time near ovulation. I"m out this month.

Laine, how many days out are you?

Jen, all your bleeding/cramping done?

Bethany,....there's hope for YOU this month!!! Keeping my fingers crossed (toes too).
 
WWWOOOOOOOOOOOWWWWWWWWWWWIIIIIIIEEEEEEEE!!! I'm not usually one to kiss & tell.........but we did it AGAIN!!!!

Too bad I"m not ovulating. :(


On a sadder note, I just found out that my brother & his wife just miscarried. :( I feel sooo bad. I especially feel bad because I was so jealous of them. She was about 6 weeks along. I'm not sure what to do. I don't feel strong enough to call her. For now, I will send her a card. She is in her early 40s so I'm sure this is especially hard for them. :(
 
Melanie, I'm so sorry to hear about your brother and his wife.:( Do they have any children? I'm glad to hear you're finally "getting some"! Maybe this will start a positive trend of more sex for you/more often.

Jen, it must be really tough to wait it out another cycle before TTC! It sounds like your body is resuming its reproductive functions quite quickly.:) Kickbox is really great for my waistline too. However, I LOVE complicated step routines bc I feel more like I'm dancing. I'll even smile really big as I do it and pretend I'm on camera so I give my all and execute each move perfectly (I know, I'm such a nerd:eek:)

I can see your point about how tough it would be to do rotations if you don't do step though - your options are pretty limited! You look like you're in great shape though and I bet you won't have any problem getting your figure back after you have your baby:)

I called the OB's office today and left a message for a nurse to call me. I didn't get a phone call back, which is unusual because they are always good about getting back to me. If they don't call tomorrow, then I think I'll call the appointment line to schedule one. Hopefully they'll let me do that. DH often says I should be more assertive and my health is definitely something to be assertive about!
 
Melanie- I am so sorry to the sad news about your brother and his wife. I hate hearing about other women's miscarriages now-it just really tugs at my heart strings. I think a card would be nice and thoughtful. But on a happier note.....WOOO HOOOO for gettin some! I'm glad you guys were able to be intimate. It probably helped that you weren't fertile because it took the pressure away.

Bethany- You're right, you are a nerd. :) But my DH calls me a dork all the time so I think we are two peas in a pod. :) Your post put such a smile on my face about smiling and pretending to be on camera. Thank you for the compliment also. I just worry that I will get lazy after having a child. I'm glad you called the dr's office....good for you for taking initiative! It's good to be assertive about your health but it is also helpful to be patient with your dr's office too. I think waiting is fine and then if you don't hear anything you can make an appointment.

No more bleeding and cramping. I still spot very light brown but I guess that is to be expected right now. I'm still temping and no real sign of Oing anytime soon. The dr's office called and wants me to go one more time (thank god!) for blood work tomorrow. I'm pretty sure my HCG will be at 0 now. I've read that once it's at 0 I should expect AF to return but I hope I actually O in between so I know everything ready to go for next month! How great would that be to have a BFP in February for Valentine's Day! I don't think I would know then but maybe I will O for the second cycle then!

Lainie- How is going with you? Any symptoms? Busy bloggin away?
 
Jen, after my m/c I bled for 2 weeks or so (very lightly b/c I had a D&C). Then it stopped & I literally started ovlulating the same day. I had sex again as soon as possible---it was emotional---I quitely cried afterwards. It felt good though to get that milestone done. For now, there's just a ton of milestones.

My brother has one son, who's a month older than my youngest. They are "overwhelmed" with their child. The cannot answer the phone, send Christmas letters, keep in contact with family, or anything else....b/c they cater to this child (who has no disabilities). It's really curious...seeing as he's a pediatrician and all. But eh, different strokes for different folks, right?

Bethany, did I miss something? Why are you trying to get ahold of your dr??@

Laine, you out there?
 
Boy, I feel way behind here. I've been super-busy with the kids going back to school this week and spreading my Figness around the 'net a bit too much.

I just wanted to pop on and say "hi"--still in that waiting time--should start by the 8th. No symptoms of pms nor of pregnancy at the moment.

Hope to pop in tomorrow and catch up--no absolute plans other than getting kids to and from school and working out.
 
Melanie- Thanks for telling me what happened to you. It helps to hear it from other women. I'm barely spotting on a panty liner so I am thrilled with that. I go for my last blood test this AM and should find out Friday if all of this is over. I'm pretty sure it is. I know February will be our month! Ya know, its weird because now that I haven't been trying, I've been thinking maybe I don't want a child. But then I talk to some of the other girls on another forum who are preggo or just getting their BFP's and I feel that initial feeling all over again of when I first got my two lines. This m/c crap can really mess with your head....Thank god I have you ladies!

Well, I finished all of CC V1 last night and felt great. My legs were still really sore from GS Legs on Sunday but the stretches afterwards felt so great! I did MM abs again too. I put CC V3 on my MP3 player last night and will hopefully try it for the first time either Thursday for Friday. Hopefully tonight will be something UB if I don't get called out.

Have a great day ladies! Lainie-Glad to see you are ok! We miss you!
 
Hey Gals!
Melanie Im so glad you and dh are "getting along better"!! Do you think he feels pressured about having a baby and thats what the problem is??
My dh is a total horndog and I SITLL can't get pregnant! I thought I timed it pretty well this month but AF is due tomorrow and I can feel it! Oh well. I knew my age would play a major role in ttc. BTW I turned 42 yesterday..YIKESSSS.
Jen-My m/c lasted 6 weeks. I was still testing pos 3 weeks into it! I did not have a d/c.
 
Susan- Happy late birthday! It's good to see you back on here! It's not over til AF shows! Good luck!

AGGGG!!! I am so aggravated right now! I went to go get my blood done and first off, the woman that works the front who is usually nice was rude and snippy. So she asks for my paperwork and I tell her that the dr was supposed to fax it yesterday. So she looks for it and snips to me "its not there you will need to call your dr." So I ask her to double check because the last time I was here it was misfiled and I almost left and then the girl found the orders. So the lady snips at me "what's your first name?" So I tell her and then say under my breath "you don't have to be so rude" and the other girl that works there heard me and laughed. So I don't know if she realized this woman was having a bad day or what but agghhhh! I can't stand it when people treat other people badly. I understand that everyone has a bad day but I was always taught that you should always treat someone else better because they could be going through something worse than you are. Needless to say, I did not get my blood done because I needed to get to work. I am not calling my dr's office either because this is the second time they have not faxed the orders when they said they would. My levels were at 37 last week and I am sure they have dropped. I will wait a few weeks and if I have any problems I will call them. But I did almost call them and chew them out for screwing this up once again! But.....I am not like that so I didn't want to be nasty to people. Then I would have just been stooping to that mean ol' lady's level at the lab!

Thanks for letting me vent guys! Now I can go on with my day! Lord, do I need a good long run right now and some heavy weights! :)
 
Jen, what's your dr's phone number? I WANT TO CALL THEM AND CHEW THEM OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!! That's ridiculous....and that lady's rudeness is totally unprofessional....this is a very stressful time for you, you do not need the medical staff treating you with disrespect, I WANT HER NUMBER TOO!!!

After I ovulated (and didn't conceive) post m/c....my period came exactly 30 days to the day of my D&C. It was really hard for me, but I"ve been super emotional thru all of this. Anyway, for me my periods were super strange. My first couple periods lasted almost 3 weeks!!! Lots and lots of brown discharge...not a heavy flow...but a constant reminder for me. It sucked, big time.

Why is it so important to know that HCG levels are zero? If they're going down...isn't that enough? Or is it peace of mind? I do remember Susan going a long time... Speaking of which...Happy Birthday, Susan!!! Your DH is a "hounddog". Ha Ha LOL, that was great. Well mine was pretty incredible yesterday. I cannot believe how horny I am...almost constantly. GRRRRROWWWLLLLL. I blame my lack of fertility on my age, I can relate. We just aren't as fertile as we age. I was so busy in school when I was younger, and now that I'm older,....well, we'll see. I still have my fingers crossed for you! Have you heard from Anne?
 
Melanie-If I remember right...they want to make sure HGC levels are 0 to make sure everything is out and gone. If anything is left infection can occur. I had to go test numerous times.
 
That would make sense (about the HCG levels). Would they do a D&C then if the levels didn't continue to decrease? I never even had a follow up after my D&C.

Do you know how we could get ahold of Anne?
 
melanalyus said:
A fellow Catheite contacted me and wants to give me her ovulation machine/kits she no longer needs. Isn't that just awesome?
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Melanie,

I have a bunch of ovulation testers that you're welcome to if you want them. Just pm me and I'm happy to send. :D
 
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