luckyruns
Cathlete
My father is dying of cancer. He will need a kidney removed but prior to that he will need to have a tumor removed from the liver. He will need to travel to a hospital about 3 hours away. MY parents informed my DH and I the other night of what was to happen--not knowing when the appointment is. I saw my mother yesterday at my daughter's soccer game and told her to call me in the morning regarding the appointment. I heard nothing all day today-- I called three times. I finally got a hold of them at 4. She explained he had more tests but hadn't heard about the one in the other hospital. I told her she should have told me about the tests-- I could have sat with them.Tonight she called and told me the office called. Its set for next week, Wednesday. They will be leaving tuesday and coming home thursday. I interupted her and asked "Mom wait you arent driving alone?" (It's a place 3 hours away--someone healthy could make the trip in one day- maybe two if you wanted to take your time) She said your sister is taking us. MInd you she works retail. I said "She can take time off like that?" My mother said "Oh its all set-- she has sick time." I then asked about her son--- "what about alex?" My mother informed me they will be bringing her 8 yr old with them. MY sister is divorced and does not get along with her ex at all. She is controling and spends alot of time with my parents. Basically they help her out alot. My reply to it all was -- "wow you guys have it all planned" She slipped and said "Your sister has been working on it all day--" hence the reason I coudln't get a hold of them. NOw my dad is dying-- I do not want to start a fight and have something terrible happen and upset my mother. BUt tell me when is it time to stand up for myself. I mean if they wanted her to go -- I could have watched her son-- I have in the past---. Since he has been dx with the cancer-- my sister has taken right over. Right now-- I feel hurt and left out -- but I also know this is a trying time for them-- and I do not want to upset anyone.But I honestly can not help but feel left out.
Side note: I am a stay at home mom.... kids are older. I am also a nurse--- she claims to know more and I let her get away with it.
Am I wrong? Should I not say a thing? Or should I put her in her place-- risking her going to them and upseting them? (which she will and she knows I don't want to start anything)
Side note: I am a stay at home mom.... kids are older. I am also a nurse--- she claims to know more and I let her get away with it.
Am I wrong? Should I not say a thing? Or should I put her in her place-- risking her going to them and upseting them? (which she will and she knows I don't want to start anything)