This drives me crazy!

C

cookiebaby

Cathlete
Hi everyone! I hope you are having a good day. I just wanted to vent and share my frustration over something that I see quite alot and it irrates me! I am in the supermarket. There is a couple in the same aisle as me. The man is big, about 6'4" and has a very large potbelly and let me just say, looks like a beer drinking coach potato! He had to be 350 pounds! The woman is petite and very skinny. She is hanging on his arm. She goes to get some muffins, probably four. Her husband (Bubba the Hut) says "Honey, you can only get two muffins. I am sorry but you need to lose weight." I want to screan "Where? Her eyelids?" So I decided to follow them around, not obviously, but just to see what would happen. She had to ask for his permission to get every little thing she wanted. Then he piles like 14 boxes of frozen Elios pizza in the cart but tells her she can only have salads and a small pint of nondairy icecream and also that she needs to slim her waist, thighs, legs etc. Together, they made a perfect 10, her the 1 and him the 0! It upsets me. I would kill my husband if he did that to me. Then to top it off, they buy a cake and he says "You are only allowed one piece. I am only thinking of you dear." I would tell him I am thinking of him too as I kicked his butt!! Cookiex(
 
Sounds like a very dysfunctional relationship to me. But maybe they deserve each other: if she puts up with him, she can have him!
 
That's scary. It's abuse. Maybe not physical, but definitely psychological. He's doing a power-trip over her. She allows it to happen and obviously doesn't have the self-esteem that you do to stick up to him. I'm willing to bet he probably physically abuses her too, or that he will.

"Bubba The Hut". That's funny.
 
OMG what a jerk! He sounds like my ex hubby. :p Except my ex was buff so I guess he was just slightly justified, except for the fact that he was just MEAN!

Now on the other end of the spectrum, my BF called me on Sunday morning & told me it was a holiday so I should take the day off from the gym. I have never ever had a man tell me I work out TOO much! :eek:

Can't these morons just find a healthy balance & realize their job is to make us feel good about ourselves? Sheesh!

Edited to add: I did NOT take the day off from the gym yesterday. ;-)
 
So sad! Wow, to think that there are women in this world who would believe this from someone like that. How some just give their power away and others take it. deb:(
 
I'm not on the dumbass' side but it's a POSSIBILITY she asked her husband to "control" what she buys from the store? I know when I first got married, when I was trying to lose 25 lbs, I asked my husband to control what I pick from the store as I had a bad habit of buying junk we didn't need. It's possible she used to be very overweight as well and uses her husband as a guide even though he's big. My husband would say a couple of the same things he said to his wife. After that, we just stopped doing that and I buy whatever I want. I just burn it right off working out! LOL Unless you live with them or know them very well, you kind of have to give the guy a benefit of doubt. Like others have said, he could be a nasty jerk. Who knows?? I don't sweat on things like that unless I know them personally and know what really goes on. We don't know what really goes on with them.

Lisa
 
Sounds like he's really ugly (on many levels), that's why he needs a trophy wife. Eye candy dangling on his pudgy elbow.

I hope she, whoever she is, wakes up and gets out of that relationship soon.

Pinky
 
Ugh! I'm glad i wasn't there to witness that! you would have heard "CLEANUP ON ISLE 4! WE'VE HAD A SPILL AND THERE IS A GIANT PUDDLE OF JACKASS. WATCH YOUR STEP PLEASE!":p i can't stand that crap!x(


jes
 
LOL Jes! U R too funny!:+

I agree...I HATE that too! Shame on her for allowing herself to be treated that way! The guy is sooo wrong for doing it but the girl is to blame for putting up with it as well. It's a shame....

Have a great work out!

~Wendy~

I smoked my last cigarette on March 17, 2004 at 10:00 pm!

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That reminds me of some of my patients that come in with their husbands & their husbands do all the talking. They answer everything from "do you have any allergies?" to "when was your last period?" I try my best to not look at the guy & make eye contact with the women so they can speak up, but it rarely works. Big, macho, "Man-of-the-House" has to answer for her.

Give me a freakin' break!!!x(

Marla
 
My husband lets me do pretty much ALL of the talking. If we're talking to a financial advisor, I talk. If we're buying a new car, I talk. If we're shopping for childcare...you get the picture.

He compares us to Marge and Homer Simpson. I'm the smart one when it comes to "big people" stuff. At least, that's what he thinks. I don't really know any more than he does. I just fake it better.
 
You know, it's such an unusual and an obvious situation that I can't help thinking--as someone in this post already suggested--that the woman asked him to help her control what she buys. There's no way to know for sure without talking to them, but it seems so odd that I hesitate to jump to the conclusion that he's just a controlling jerk. It could also be a strategy that the *woman* decided to use to help her husband lose weight--sort of a stealth way to help him learn how to eat better, for instance. It could even be an inside joke between the two of them and a way that they've developed to deal with the man having to be on a diet.... It could be a million other things. You just don't know.
 
If Jes was there, I'm sure she would have asked him "What the heck is your problem?!". Then we would know for sure. LOL! :7
 
It is funny, though. Last week, my computer crashed & I was unable to format & reinstall Windows. My DH & I were so fed up, we went to buy another PC. When we went to a couple of stores looking at the PC's, the salespeople kept looking at him & answering MY questions but directed at him. DH has NO CLUE when it comes to PC's. That's my expertise, but the salespeople kept talking to him like he was the one in charge. LOL! Idiots.

Marla
 
Marla's post reminded me of the day I went into a sporting goods store to buy a new barbell. When I told the sales guy what I was looking for he asked me what kind of weights my husband uses on the barbell. I just smiled and said "it's for me". I'm not sure he even believed me but he was stumped. He didn't seem to know how to sell weight equipment to a 45-year-old woman. I picked up the weights I needed and headed for the checkout. ;-)
 
That's disturbing and it is to be hoped she will somehow realize it for what it is and assert herself or get out of the relationship. It can swing both ways. I have seen many domineering women as well as men. We all just have to remember that chick's rule and ensure our men know that at least subconsciously. ;)
Bobbi http://www.handykult.de/plaudersmilies.de/chicken.gif "Chick's rule!"

Man improves himself as he follows his path; if he stands still, waiting to improve before he makes a decision, he'll never move.

-Paulo Coelho
 
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