The Worry Wart Thread

[Netta]

Sometimes I worry about our vehicles and what could happen to us or someone else making a mistake while driving. I'm the worst back seat driver so once I start making comments, my DH pulls over and lets me drive. Then, I'm much better and don't worry anymore. Guess it's the control freak in me. It's just that I drive very defensively and he doesn't. To me, he just barrels along like we've got the right of way. Me, when I see someone pulling up to a stop sign, I slow down and make sure they are stopping and not running through the stop sign into my path. I am much more careful and he is more your typical man driver.

However, I've worried about our pickup truck ('95 Dodge) and that it rides really rough in the front. I'm always mentioning this and DH says they all ride rough. Well, the other morning I was on my way to work and I hit a bump and the whole truck went into the "death wobble". Shook the truck so bad, my purse fell off the seat, I thought I'd lost a wheel or a drive line or tie rods or something. I could barely hang onto the steering wheel it was bucking and bouncing so bad. I finally got it under contol, drove to work and found out that what I needed is a new stabilizer bar. I KNEW something was wrong. The truck is parked now.

I worry about other stuff from time to time, but the truck incident came to mind first.

Jeanette

 

[dogs2birds]

Prayer! That's the only thing that ever helps me - and I'm a worry wart. So I pray a lot.

Suz

"Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawakened." - Anatole France

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[newswoman13]

The Language of Letting Go

Hi.

Yes, I know about worry. I think it's a distraction from living fully, from living peacefully. Think about changing the things you can (or taking action), and making peace with those you cannot. Pray for the wisdom to distinguish between the two.

Also, think about it this way: "It's all okay. I am fine." Really though, there can be a certain security to knowing things will be fine. Do what you can, and let go of the rest.

I recommend Melody Beattie's "The Language of Letting Go" -- Copy that, google it, find it on amazon. It'll take a load off your shoulders.

Best,
Caroline

 

[sparrow]

RE: The Language of Letting Go

Wow Ladies, I have been away and just got a chance to see the responses. While I don't wish worry on anyway it helps to know that I am not a solitary freak of nature

Just a couple of comments:

Lisa: isn't it the worst, knowing that you are wasting your time with all the worry but not able to find successful ways around it? Sometimes I think worrying about worry is worse than the worry!! In fact I said to DH the other day, I wish people would just let me worry in peace, instead of trying to make me feel better, lol. Makes no sense BTW I love your bird!

Nancy: interesting way to think of it, that the world needs worriers Unfortunately I find that my writing is drained by the worry, not enhanced by it. Also, I too have anticipatory dread in my human interactions, even on the phone! I have to rehearse what I am going to say beforehand or I get tongue-tied. Ugh.

Janie: I'd never heard of GAD either until I started seeing a therapist. I went to her because I was having trouble getting over a faile relationship - next thing you know I have a condition!! I like being a worry wart better than having GAD. Having something that can be diagnosed makes me stressed out that I should be doing something to cure it.

Meg: Nancy has great advice, as usual. Things will get better. Keep your chin up!

Yvanna: I going to look into her book, thanks!! Your post reminded me of a quote from a French philosopher: My life has been full of terrible misfortunes, most of which never happened."

Bunbun: you and I have the same coping skills. I usually freak out to DH, who puts his hands on my shoulders and reminds me to breathe. I honestly don't know how to change it either, but I am determined. Too much of my life is passed in worry and acid stomach.

Meredith: I think perhaps we were separated at birth! Seriously, your comments really struck me, especially the one about people thinking you are laid back without realizing how much self-control is happening behind the scenes. Also, I recently read something about people who pick up on other's emotions (I'm the same way). Researchers now think it's actually something going on in the brain, though I can't remember what exactly!!

Melrose: DITTO and DITTO again!!

Caroline: Thanks! I'll check that book out too.

Whew! Too long I know, but you guys had great comments and I feel better just reading them. I think I may work on putting a list of worry wart resources together. I'll post it here when/if I do.

Sparrow

Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming ‘Wow - what a ride!’ — Peter Sage

 

[megadoo]

RE: The Language of Letting Go

Thanks for this thread, and the support Sparrow! I agree, Nancy is great, and you are too for the encouragement!

Maeghan AKA megadoo

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[exercise forever]

RE: The Language of Letting Go

Well this is just the thread I need! Yes I worry constantly about things. I worry how i will eat the next day, whether I will workout and will I physically be able to do it. I have been dealing with my foot for a year and now my darn hip is starting to act up! It seems so frustrating when one thing has consumed your mind and life that another thing comes along. Sometimes I wonder why all of this is happening to me. But things happen!

I worry about my dr's. appt. for my hip tomorrow,cause I know he will tell me to lay off of cardio for a while. That stinks!

I try to not complain alot cause I know that people will think you're a negative person. I guess we need to open up to people sometimes!

Thanks for hearing me out!

kim

 

[megadoo]

RE: The Language of Letting Go

I feel you Kim and I wish you the best of luck at the doc's! Keep us posted!

Maeghan AKA megadoo

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[melodygirl]

RE: The Language of Letting Go

Kim! I've been looking for you. I hope that the appt tomorrow gets to the source of the problem, and I certainly hope it's nothing serious. Let us know.

Take care

 

[thinkgod1]

Matthew 6:27 (New International Version)
New International Version (NIV)
Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society


27Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life[a]?


here is the king james version
Matthew 6:27 (New King James Version)
New King James Version (NKJV)



27 Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature?

its from www.biblegateway.com

 

[thinkgod1]

let me put a funny twist on this people tell me that i am worried things when i am not could care or less

 

[LuckeeLaydee]

I really find this thread interesting. I do have a question for all you worriers. Do you dislike being around people who don't worry? Does it drive you crazy? I have a sneaking suspicion that is the case and am very curious to see if that is true!