The summer from hell continues

buffettgirl

buffettgirl

Cathlete
First, a fire at camp cancels my special needs son's 2 week vacation from us, and our break from him. Therefore, no one get a vacation this summer.

Next, my mom falls, ends up in ICU the weekend of the Roadtrip, which I have to miss.

The following week, the only week I have off this summer, I spend packing, moving, and unpacking my mother-in-law, who moved into a nursing home nearer to us.

This past Saturday my daughter was in an accident. No one was hurt, but our "good" car was totalled.


Will life ever get any better? I have been forcing myself to exercise because I know it helps with the stress, but I don't even want to see Cathe anymore.
 
Hey robin,

Sorry things are going the way they are for you. I know everything seems so overwhelming,but it will get better. Just try to deal with these things and then try to go back to cathe.

I will send positive thoughts you way!

kim
 
Robin,

Sorry to hear about the rough time your having, things will get better, they always do, you just have to struggle right now for whatever reason, god wants you to. But after you pass the test, things will start to look better and better.

And these things happening too you might be a blessing in disguise. You could have sent you son to camp and then the fire came. Or your daughter could have gotten hurt in that accident. Someone is looking out for you, as it looks like. Just a lot of times they don't look out for the money factor but rather just humans.

Kit
 
Oh Robin, you have had a lot to deal with and I beleive it WILL get better but whatever happens remember this, the most important thing is that, for better or bitter, you embrace your life. I think you have handled all these things gracefully with perhaps a little regret, which is understandable. You don't sound angry, just a little discouraged and who wouldn't be with all that going on? We learn wonderful lessons from times of strife as much as it stinks to do so! :) Thank goodness your daughter is okay! Robin, if you can handle this stuff, those little things that can annoy the heck out of some people and make them irritable all the time so that you think, what would you do if somethig really difficult happended, well, they will not throw you off at all and that could indeed be a blessing. I leave you with the hope that it's smooth sailing for you. You deserve it. I give you credit for hanging in there and doing your best too. It is so much nicer to appreciate how great life is going because you have gotten through a tough time than to appreciate how good it WAS because tough times are a-raining down on your head, lol! You will want to see Cathe again and this will pass and fade in memory but you'll be able to appreciate the things most take for granted. Every new day is a gift and a chance to begin anew. This summer goes down as a clinker but you have many to come and they'll make up for this because you have all the ingredients for happiness, stress or no. A family you love, the wisdom to take care of yourself through all of this. That's huge. I am sending you cyber hugs and every postive vibe I can muster for your life to flip back to the postive side. Much love..... {{{{{{{{{{{Robin}}}}}}}}}}}}
Bobbi http://www.handykult.de/plaudersmilies.de/chicken.gif "Chick's rule!"

Tell me, what it is you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? -Mary Oliver
 
Robin, I am so sorry you are going through "Jonah" times, as my grandmother used to call them. It's little comfort but remember "this too shall pass." Good thoughts your way.

Sparrow

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Sparrow -Thanks. It feels more like Job times, but you are right. They will pass.

Kit - Yes, I try to keep remembering that these set backs could have been alot worse.

Bobbi - Thank you for your wise and encouraging words

I knew I would get the support I needed from my fellow Catheites. Thank you all for the prayers and hugs. They are helping me get through this awful summer.

At least I have lots of good stories to tell.
 
Wow. I'm sorry about all of that stuff happening to you and your family. Hopefully there won't be any more disappointments in your near future. Fall is just around the corner......
 
Robin, I'm right there with you!! My summer kicked off with my mom having a stroke. My sister and I flew to Portland and spent 2 weeks in an intensive care unit with her. (THAT is a parallel universe let me tell you!!) She needed brain surgury and then she came home with us, time split between us, for the next 2 months.

Just as that was winding down, my uncle's cancer was found back with a vengence. It has gone into his spine and bones. Mercifully, his battle was not horribly long and he passed away three weeks ago.

The real struggle has been in trying to salvage any time left over to help my kids at least have fun. I feel fairly good about what we have managed to squeeze in for them, thanks to friends and family helping out. A day at the beach with friends or a few days with grandparents helps a LOT.

I only hope to encourage you a bit by knowing that you are not alone. I think there has always been someone who has come along at the exact right moment for me to say hang in there. I have called that the "mercy in the middle" of my circumstances. I hope and pray that you have the same sort of moments. Small but meaningful times all through the chaos:) It will get better!!
 
Dani,

Wow, you've had one heck of a ride too. I'm sorry about your uncle and hope your mother is well on the way to recovery. My husband keeps reminding me that there are a whole lot of folks worse off then us. Sometimes it seems like the bad news never stops though. It does help to know others share in the hard times as well as the good.
Thanks for the kind words.
 
Thankfully, my mom is a walking miracle. None of the doctors can explain why she is alive. At the minimum she should have been in a coma, yet she is back home and doing very well all things considered.

Intensive care is an amazing place. Nothing like that sort of reality check to make me feel fortunate. Passing the 17 year old boy in a coma from a skateboarding accident each day on the way to my moms room was humbling.

I think I have always been the sort of person to look at situations worse than my own to get encouraged. It certainly helps me to know that my own problems are not as bad when I see what other people have to struggle through.

Again, I hope your wild ride of a summer gets better soon!! It will get better, and enjoy it when it does:)
 
Robin
I am sorry about your string of bad situations. It will get better soon. (((hugs))) to you friend.

And you are right. Keep up with yor workouts; it will help get you through.
Judy
AKA "Likes2bfit"
 
Robin, there ARE many people worse off than you but you have had so much come upon you, one right after another, I want to tell you it's okay to feel angry, sad, scared, overwhelmed. It's what I'd expect anyone to feel when life rolls out of control. No guilt allowed. :) One of the things I love about the forums is being able to unload this intense stuff and not only find someone who's experiencing something similar but to get the love and encouragement we all need to take on those "slings and arrows of outrageous fortune". ;) I have alsays said that I hate when someone else's misfortune causes me to count my blessings. I just want to be aware of them because they are blessings. Somehow in the everyday hubbub of life it's so easy to lose track of that. You sorrow and frustration over giving up a much needed break from a child you love, your fear for your mother, your relief for your daughter, that she's okay but the loss of the car. That's a lot of emotion and turmoil to deal with. Yet you sound calm and you have continued to work out and to take care of you. That shows wisdom and strength and I am impressed! It means you will gradually put life back in order and you'll come away stronger for it. And when someone calls out with a life gone mad and all the emotions that go with it, you will be there. I hope it all starts coming together smoothly but I have faith in you. You'll overcome all of this!

Dani and Robin, bless you. You ladies are amazing and I am so lucky to get to know you. When I forget that stress and sorrow are much better when accompanined by appreciation for the love and joy that are still there, I will think of you and know. I am holding you in my heart and prayers. Please let us know how things are going and let us know when it all seems too much so we can hopefully ease your burdens. :)
Bobbi http://www.handykult.de/plaudersmilies.de/chicken.gif "Chick's rule!"

Tell me, what it is you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? -Mary Oliver"
 
Bobbi, thanks so much for your kind and encouraging words. My husband is of the "buck up" school of mind, so your (and everyone else's) thoughtful posts are more help then you can imagine. You've helped me put a positive spin on circumstances that have had me feeling guilty for wallowing in self pity. Besides, things are looking up. I just got a clean bill of health from the dentist and don't have to go back THERE for 6 months.

Hey Dani, I'm so glad your mom is doing well. Mine is doing well too. If she follows the doctor's orders and takes better nutritional care of herself, all should be well.

Thanks all. Bobbi is so right. This is a wonderful place to unload and receive guidence and support. Long live the Cathe forums!
 
No guilt allowed, Robin. Our feelings are our feelings and we need them to work through this stuff. It's not self pity as much as grief and there are stages we must go through until we reach acceptance and then we can move on. Those "buck up" types never get that! :D I am so happy things are looking up!
Bobbi http://www.handykult.de/plaudersmilies.de/chicken.gif "Chick's rule!"

Tell me, what it is you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? -Mary Oliver
 
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