the "helpful" co worker returns...

[ldy_solana]

ugh i love this woman at work she is a ball of sunshine most days and funny but feels the need to comment on what i "need" to do to lose weight. i know my diet needs a bit of work, its getting there but i refused to go on endless hours of cardio a week like she suggested. i say its not my goal, but her claim "if i were you i would worry about getting rid of fat". sheesh i am not huge or anything i look healthy i am getting pretty strong with my weight training and kettlbells cardio is just something i do so i don't leave it out b/c hey its good for you but not over an hour a day IMO. some ppl it works for them but doesn't work for me! mixing it up but mostly strength is me.

i just need to vent why do ppl think they know it all i really really hate that and to say anything or argue with them is like banging your head against a brick wall. even going as far as insulting the trainers at my gym "well a good trainer would tell you this or that" shoot these trainers have DEGREES from college let alone their certification! i wish i could make a billboard that pretty much states "unless you have a degree then don't comment on what ppl need to do fitness wise". i don't do it to anybody else, even if they ask i am vague with advice b/c i am not a professional. i hope to be one day but until then let all that be up to pros who are trained in it.

i feel good about myself most days and this week has been rough with fatigue and stress so i guess i look bloated but it wasn't bothering me. ppl just have to open their mouths at the wrong time,dont' they think ppl will be offended.

just had to get that off my chest

kassia

 

[RapidBreath]

I know how you feel!!!

I remember about 10 years ago I was in college and on a really low fat diet (bad idea but it was the wisdom at the time.) and I had literally just walked out of my advanced step class and this little b-ch says to me, "Do you ever exercise? You don't have to be fat." She just couldn't believe that I exercised, never mind how red my face was from my workouts or how sweaty I was! Lol! I was not kind. She proceeded to tell me to eat low fat, I told I was (bad mistake for a person with insulin resistance) and she just couldn't believe it. I told her I was fat, not stupid.

Srsly, why do people comment when they don't even have a clue? (ok, if thats me sometimes I am sooooo sorry, I take it all back.)

Sorry for the rant.

 

[spyrosmom]

Next time, just smack her upside the head with your shoe

Nan


Or a kettlebell

 

[SirenSongWoman]

Next time, just smack her upside the head with your shoe

Nan


Or a kettlebell

I vote for the kettlebell.

 

[JanetP1507]

As soon as she starts next time, cut her off with "I'm happy with what I'm doing" and smile and walk away.

 

[ldy_solana]

I vote for the kettlebell.

LOL hey that counts as my cardio!! and i wouldn't want to hurt my bell on her hard head. i try to avoid any talk(i stopped saying anything about my gym time) with her but she seems to be bringing it up lately. i just can't say anything that she won't throw back in my face. even the i am happy part turns into "i don't know why i wouldn't be". i guess she means well b/c she seems to be so misinformed on exercise. she eats breaded chicken nuggets and powder mashed potatoes and talks about what its going to take to burn that off. my BIG salad with turkey and barely 2tbsp of dressing will certainly be less calories then that and won't take nearly as much to "burn off". she is really delusional on the calories in and out thing to eat chicken nuggets(esp. school food LOL).

don't know why i let it bother me i really don't. i know what i need to do i need to stop eating so damn much. its not the food its just how much. i don't really eat any junk unless TOM rolls around. i don't drink or smoke like she does. great god blessed her with some good genes to be thin he didn't build me to be a ruler shaped i am more curvy and i have curves in spots that woman should have them i guess to ppl like that its "fat". just hurtful we get along otherwise that is not something you say to ppl.

kassia

 

[lcobb2]

ITA. People ask me for advice all the time as I am certified. I tell them, "You do what works for you." If you're not getting what you want, then change it up. I'm extremely assertive. When my co-workers found out that I was pregnant and started giving me advice, I literally put up my "talk to the hand" motion and told them that I don't want any advice and if/when I do, I would let them know. That shut them up. But that's just me and my style.

As soon as she starts next time, cut her off with "I'm happy with what I'm doing" and smile and walk away.

 

[cakebaker]

You go, girl!

ITA. People ask me for advice all the time as I am certified. I tell them, "You do what works for you." If you're not getting what you want, then change it up. I'm extremely assertive. When my co-workers found out that I was pregnant and started giving me advice, I literally put up my "talk to the hand" motion and told them that I don't want any advice and if/when I do, I would let them know. That shut them up. But that's just me and my style.

Laura -

I LIKE YOUR STYLE! That's really the only way to shut up some people like the one the OP was describing. Nobody has to listen to that crap.

 

[dr.mel_PT]

one of my coworkers was the same way. she always offered UNWANTED advice. we started going to weight watchers together and she would linger around the scale when it was my time to get weighed. if it wasnt a number i was happy with, she would ALWAYS say "you just need to totally stop lifting weights and just do cardio. the weight lifting is messing you up." oh really ms know-it-all who doesnt know sh!* about working out?! eventually i quit going to ww with her because she just got way too annoying.