TGIF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thank you calvillo and melanie! I will be in touch Mel. I feel emotionally exhausted. October is not a good month for our pregnancies..... my last m/c was in October. I don't want to wait for a natural m/c. I wanted a d&c at 1:30 today.

This pregnancy was an unexpected, welcome blessing, and there is a spark of hope for another child. Since I was pregnant with DS, our 2nd, I have felt our family would be complete with 3 kids, but now I feel as though maybe our family is complete with the four of us. I am ready to accept that and so thankful for the two blessings running about as I type. I've certainly been blessed with more than I deserve. TTC or fertility has been an issue in one way or another for 11 years now. I am just emotionally exhausted. Of course, as I told DH, I may have a completely different attitude when my libido is through the roof at ovulation. :) I may be grieving but I still have a grip on reality and a sense of humor..... as inappropriate as it may seem....... but this sense of humor has gotten me through a lot of grief.
 
Autumn~ we all grieve in diffrent ways and it is totally normal what you are feeling. I too had a m/c at 10 weeks and I didn't want to wait either. I had a D&C and it really helped me to have it over with so I could begin to process it and heal. It could be weeks of waiting it out and I am willing to bet your dr. will do a D&C if that is what you want. I also wanted to share that my sister has had 5 m/c's and she has 2 dds.. both of her girls were concieved the month directly after a m/c. She also had her last m/c and had a D&C and then decided not to try anymore.. enough was enough she said. So if you decide to try again there is hope.. ((hugs)) If you decide that 2 kids is it then that is okay too. I hate that anyone has to go through this .. : ( It was really one of the toughest things to go through. It's so not fair. We are all here if you need to talk about it.
 
Autumn--I mostly just lurk now, when I have a brief, rare moment for computer time. But I had to post to you. I am so sorry. I'll be praying for you. ((((hugs))))

May the God of all comfort, comfort you.

Maggie
 
Fitmommyof2 said:
Autumn~ we all grieve in diffrent ways and it is totally normal what you are feeling. I too had a m/c at 10 weeks and I didn't want to wait either. I had a D&C and it really helped me to have it over with so I could begin to process it and heal. It could be weeks of waiting it out and I am willing to bet your dr. will do a D&C if that is what you want. I also wanted to share that my sister has had 5 m/c's and she has 2 dds.. both of her girls were concieved the month directly after a m/c. She also had her last m/c and had a D&C and then decided not to try anymore.. enough was enough she said. So if you decide to try again there is hope.. ((hugs)) If you decide that 2 kids is it then that is okay too. I hate that anyone has to go through this .. : ( It was really one of the toughest things to go through. It's so not fair. We are all here if you need to talk about it.
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Thank you for sharing this!!! I really want the D&C so I can move on. I am hoping the end of next week I will be on my way to recovery.

Your sister's story gives me hope, and I feel a lil' hopeless. Did she conceive before her first post-D&C period? I've been thinking I don't want to avoid for 1,2,or 3 cycles...... every doc is different. I just want to resume our pre-pregnancy sex life and trust in God and be open to life. I'm much happier that way because of my AR (anal retentiveness). That is how we've been approaching our fertility.
Autumn--I mostly just lurk now, when I have a brief, rare moment for computer time. But I had to post to you. I am so sorry. I'll be praying for you. ((((hugs))))

May the God of all comfort, comfort you.
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Thank you Maggie! I was feeling pretty lonely, but God surrounds us with the people we need. :)

I will be back and let update you all when there is news.

Thank you all so much for your support, prayers, and friendship. God bless each of you!
 
Autumn.. she had 3 m/c's first.. over a few years.. the 3rd one she had a D&C and then she I think had a period after and then got preg. that cycle.. not sure if she waited for the first period or if they tried between the D&C and her first period. Then she had her first DD and at about 1 year she ttc again and got preg. first try.. she m/c at about 6 weeks and didn't have a D&C.. I know that time she got preg. before another AF. I just got preg. w/ my 1st right after her m/c and then a week after I found out I was preg. she found out she was again. So I know they didn't wait for a cycle that time.

I know just how heartbreaking it is and for me it did help in the healing to get right back to ttc. For me it was a little while before we got preg. again, but I think a lot of that was poor timing and not so much the D&C effecting it. My cycels went right back to normal after that first period.
 
Autumn, I did NOT wait to TTC, as it seems so many people get pg right after a m/c. I've had two periods (both heavy and spuratic)---but we've used no protection. Like you said, it's in God's hands. I've decided that this womb is God's womb & he can have His way (to bless it according to His riches and glory).

I could NOT wait for natural m/c, no way no how. I cried non-stop and was devastated. I felt so much better after D&C it was a huge milestone in my recovery...that I have since learned will take a lifetime.

I"m so sad you have to go through this. :(
 
Thanks again ladies! I will update you when I have some news. Hopefully, I will rejoin y'all again.

Melanie ~ I emailed ya.

Take care ladies! You are just an awesome group of women!!!!!!!!
 
Oh Autumn, I just read your news. I'm so sorry. My heart is breaking for you because I know it's been such a long journey for you to get pg. Please don't feel alone about the miscarriage because it has happen to even the women on this board including myself and we're here for you if you need someone to lean on. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

Lisa
 
dlandkk808 said:
Oh Autumn, I just read your news. I'm so sorry. My heart is breaking for you because I know it's been such a long journey for you to get pg. Please don't feel alone about the miscarriage because it has happen to even the women on this board including myself and we're here for you if you need someone to lean on. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

Lisa
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Thank you Lisa (((((HUGS)))))
I am doing much better than I expected. I didn't handle the '02 loss well. I am cautiously optimistic about my current mood and reaction to the loss. I appreciate the thoughts and prayers.
 
Autumn, I just saw your news as well. So sorry to hear this. ((((Hugs)))) to you and your family and you are in our thoughts.
 
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