terrible loss

LAEnggren

Cathlete
Hi everyone
I am Lisa
I have suffered a severe loss 2 weeks ago february 6th My neice Christine 17 years old was killed in a car accident. She is my twin sisters daughter My sister was in Mexico and I was watching her children They live right next door I have helped her raise them since her divorce 10years ago. Our lives have stopped I am trying desperately to function but the grief is overwhelming I have 3 boys Adam Chris and Harry Chris is also 17 and he was not only Christines cousin but her best friend schoolmate and co worker. All of the boys thought of Christine as the sister they did not have She is the daughter I don't have. Ilive in MN the weather was bad that night when I heard of the accident I was so sure she just went n the ditch and would be fine. I called the police tolet them know I was her guardian and to be please give me some info on where I could go get her They tolm me the sargeant at the scene would call me The accident was not far from my house maybe 1 and a half miles I waited at home even thugh this was difficult. My son Chris and harry were there and also Taylor Christines brother and Quentin Christines boyfriend. I found out about the accident about 9:45 pm as I was getting up to go to work It was nbow about 11pm and I looked out the window and saw 2 polioce cars I ran outside They told me she was dead I screamed like never before I feared for the boys inside how to tell them I could not bare the thought of calling my sister to tell her evry Mothers worst nightmare.Somehow these things happened I have no recollection how But what now? I am back at work tonite for the first time It si 2a.m. I have not logged on to the forums since that day I really have not done much of anything except wonder how we will get through this I need to be strong for my sister and our children We have a wonderful close family And many friends but the pain is so great If you could all say aprayer.
Thank you
Lisa
 
Lisa, I am so sorry. There is nothing I can say to ease the pain. I can pray for you and your family and hope you can get through this. My niece, at 19 years was killed in a car accident in November. My brother and his family have had a really hard time getting through this. Holiday season was very hard for all. I can really feel your grief and wanted to let you know my heart goes out to you.
Diane Sue
 
Lisa, I cannot even begin to imagine what you must be feeling right now. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time. Let yourself grieve in whatever way your body tells you that you must, and surround yourself with those you love and who love you. Together you will get through this.

Carol
 
Lisa,

I am so sorry for your loss. I will say a prayer for you and your family. Please be comforted to know that God takes care of everybody and everything. God bless you and your family...

babydollsea
 
Lisa,
I am so sorry. Please know we are all here for you.

My friend lost 2 teen daughters, in 3 years. One in a car accident, the other was murdered by her boyfriend. It took her many, many months after the trial before she could return to her life on some level. Please take care of yourself.

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

KeliJean
 
I'm so sorry that you've had to experience this. I wonder how I would ever be able to cope under your circumstances. A suggestion I would make is usually there are groups for grieving parents that meet once a week, or once a month and you and your sister (and the whole family) might benefit by attending some of their meetings. I know of a family that lost a small child, and going to the meetings helped them cope. At these meetings you are around people who have experienced what you have, and they can guide you through the grief. Your family doctor, the hospital, or even the yellow pages might help you find the organization you need to contact. I pray that you find what you need to get through this.

Jackie
 
HI Lisa,
I am so sorry to hear of your loss.I can not imagine what you must be going through.It is hard to be strong in times like these b/c no one understands why it happened.Death is somthing that no one understands.We are suppose to die when we are 90 and lived a full life right? And we are NEVER suppose to die before our parents.BUt the world is a very un fair place, where bad things happen to good people.
You must be strong for your own self and for everyone else.You also need to be strong so that depression doesn't set in.Most importantly...just b/c you were her guardian at the time, does not make you responsible.And I am sure no one looks at it that way.
There is nothing you can do to change what has happened but as the days go by the pain will ease.You will always miss her, but instead if mourning for her,you will remember the good times that you shared and how blessed you were that she was in your life for 17 yrs.
God bless,
Lori
 
Lisa , I'm so sorry for you and your family's loss. I can't even imagine what you all are going through. Hugs and prayers going out to you and yours.
 
Lisa, I am so sorry for your sisters loss of a child and yours and your childrens too, its gonna be rough, and yes I will pray, God can make anything bearable if we let HIM. I do know what your going thru even though a child wasn't killed in this case, but my nephew and neices mom was killed in a car crash just 4 days before last thanksgiving.
I pray things will get easier for you to deal with all this, stress and heart break are hard to handle.
Please take care of yourself, God will give you the strength to get thru this ................ God bless you and your family in the days to come ............ Rhonda:*
 
I am so sorry for your tremendous loss. I know there are no words that can help but please know we are thinking of you.
Lisa
 
Dear Lisa, I am so sorry and you and your sister and your family are also in my thoughts and prayers.
Bobbi
 
Lisa, I am speechless. I wouldn't know how I would handle it had I been in your or your sister's place. I am so sorry for your loss.

Pinky
 
I am so sorry for your sudden loss. I can only imagine the pain. I did loose my father suddenly 6 years ago, but not in a car accident. I know my friends and family were a wonderful support for me. I have since joined the church my sister went to as they were so good to us at that time. We all grieve different and time does help. You and your family are definitely in my prayers....God Bless...Carole
 
My heart goes out to you. I know after meeting the MN Cathe ladies at the Mall of American what a sweetheart you are. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
 
wow thank you jllybean I was so bummed I could not make that how nice of my firend kathy to speak of me that way
Also thank you all for your kind words I have actually made it through my first 12 hour night shift almost that is You guys help lots
Lisa
 

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