Nancy, I am just like you. I NEVER lie, even if it's to make someone feel good about themselves. My friends often tell me that they'll ask my opinion about something because they know I'll give them an honest answer. But if someone gets a haircut I don't like, for instance, I would never tell them I didn't like it unless they asked me point blank, and then I would say something like, "I prefer the other style on you" or something like that. I often tell people things I like about them, but I always mean what I say and I really appreciate straight-forward truthfulness in others as well.
Tell the truth: do you lie?
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nancy324
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"I think if it's done in the context of shopping with a friend, and that friend asks the question when trying on something, then it's doing her a service to tell the truth.
On the other hand, in some cases, I guess you could consider that the clothing isn't what makes her look fat, it's her excess body fat, so saying "no, of course not" isn't really a lie, but a different interpretation of the question. ;-)"
I agree with everything you've said, Kathryn. If I go shopping with someone, I'm definitely going to say things like "they're both nice, but the blue looks better on you than the green". In fact, when I'm shopping by myself, I'll always give other women unsolicited opinions, and they give them to me as well. I've never had my feelings hurt, and I don't think I've ever hurt anyone's feelings, and yet I think we're all being honest and it's SOOO useful.
If anyone ever asks me "does this make me look fat?", I'll just say "I don't know about that, but that one doesn't look as good on you as the first one you tried on", and mean it.
As you said below, you can be honest, avoid telling lies, and still avoid hurting people at the same time, and unless someone says to me "Do you think I'm as pretty as Rachel Weisz?" (and who would ever say that???) they need not be afraid of my answer.
Nancy
On the other hand, in some cases, I guess you could consider that the clothing isn't what makes her look fat, it's her excess body fat, so saying "no, of course not" isn't really a lie, but a different interpretation of the question. ;-)"
I agree with everything you've said, Kathryn. If I go shopping with someone, I'm definitely going to say things like "they're both nice, but the blue looks better on you than the green". In fact, when I'm shopping by myself, I'll always give other women unsolicited opinions, and they give them to me as well. I've never had my feelings hurt, and I don't think I've ever hurt anyone's feelings, and yet I think we're all being honest and it's SOOO useful.
If anyone ever asks me "does this make me look fat?", I'll just say "I don't know about that, but that one doesn't look as good on you as the first one you tried on", and mean it.
As you said below, you can be honest, avoid telling lies, and still avoid hurting people at the same time, and unless someone says to me "Do you think I'm as pretty as Rachel Weisz?" (and who would ever say that???) they need not be afraid of my answer.
Nancy
kathryn
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>As you said below, you can be honest, avoid telling lies, and
>still avoid hurting people at the same time, and unless
>someone says to me "Do you think I'm as pretty as Rachel
>Weisz?" (and who would ever say that???) they need not be
>afraid of my answer.
>Nancy
But Nancy, DO you think I'm as pretty aws Rachel Weisz? ;-)
>still avoid hurting people at the same time, and unless
>someone says to me "Do you think I'm as pretty as Rachel
>Weisz?" (and who would ever say that???) they need not be
>afraid of my answer.
>Nancy
But Nancy, DO you think I'm as pretty aws Rachel Weisz? ;-)
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I guess if someone asks a question I do not have a favorable answer for I tend to talk around it. I am not a very good liar so I always worry that they could see through it. If I say something looks good or offer a compliment it is more than likely genuine.
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