Sticky situation - need advice please!

[Imafitnessfreak]

I would go and encourage him to go do other activities and suggest to your DH to not join the dude if he does not want to join him. I'd have fun with it...ask him to go do "manly" tasks because your pretty little self just isn't strong enough! I'd go but do what you can to stay away from him when he bugs you.

Ultimately, you should feel sorry for him. People like that have very low self esteem and they treat people like that in an effort to feel better about themselves.

As for picking up after him...let his wife do it if she want to. No where is it written that cleaning up after him is your job!

 

[pink_fortitude]

Thank you, you guys! I am very encouraged, and I did laugh, by some of your replies. I feel like I can make an effort. Though I know that half the day in I will probably be ready to tie a noose to hang him from. I would love to make the sarcastic remarks, and I have thought them in my head, but I know that it would only hurt me and BFs relationship. She would not appreciate me disrespecting her DH (nor would I even if my DH deserved it... but I probably would be telling him myself.). I may make comments about how he is acting like his mother, though. He can't stand her and he acts so much like her. But he would take any comment from me as a bitchy pms comment.

I wish I could feel sorry for him, and I know I should, but it is so hard when he is so belittling.

I may ask him to do manly things for me, like vaccum, sweep, wash the dishes, put his plate in the sink... After all, aren't those chores that a real man would help out with? But I won't clean up after him. I didn't after the first day of our last vacation, I am not going to start now.

Thanks!

Missy

 

[pink_fortitude]

Nancy, I am not offended at all. The reason that I don't say anything anymore is because she defends him and gets upset. And he manipulates everything so that she thinks that he is in the right and her friends are just being controlling. She has already lost one fantastic friend who didn't like what was going on and spoke up. The best I can do is be here for her and help her out until she is ready to seek out advice and help. Anyone else, and I can and have spoke up. It doesn't work here.

Missy

 

[Imafitnessfreak]

"I wish I could feel sorry for him, and I know I should, but it is so hard when he is so belittling."

I know this may not help but little people belittle others. It's the truely wonderful ones that do what they can to help others rise above.

Go, have fun, share knowing "looks" with your DH when this guy acts like an ass. Know that your kids are having a total blast and you are filling their lives with wonderful memories. Besides, you did say that you have some fun, too. Oh, and there will be another couple there to have fun with!

Try your best not to grant this guy the power to affect your mood.

 

[pink_fortitude]

>Try your best not to grant this guy the power to affect your
>mood.

That is by far the best advice I have gotten in the past few months. Thank you!!!!!! :7 :7 :7 :7 :7

Missy