Starting to get down

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lorihart

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Im not having a very good day. I think reality is setting in.
DH had been unemployed now since June. And while I thought it was o.k at the time, b/c he hadn't his job and hey....Sept was such along way away at that time.(he got severence pay until Sept)But now it is creeping up. Not only that, he had a company vechile when he worked and the car dealership took another $600 truck payment out the other day. Money that we may never see again. Then we thought we may remortgage our house to get rid of some bills, of course we were not approved b/c he doesn't have a job.This would have been a great option b/c if he doesn't get a job in the next month or so, it wouldn't have been so bad if he had to go on unemployment. So that is gone out the window.
Im not use to this. We always had money and now we are getting so far behind. I guess I am going to have to take some RRSP's out but then I will have to pay taxes on that next tax season.
I don't know...will this bad luck every end. Every day seems to bring something new, and I am not welcoming it.
Then a part of me is getting bitter. The bottom line is, I don't think DH was doing his job justice b/c he hated it so much. Now part of me is thinking "couldn't you have done your job, even though you were unhappy, atleast we would have had income" But then I wonder if I am being selfish b/c he would have been miserable.
I just hope there is soon going to be a light at the end of this tunnel.
Lori
 
Lori

Don't let it get you down. This is beyond your control and getting down will do nothing for the situation. I know it's much easier said than done...take it one day at a time!!

I'll be thinking of you...

~Marietta
FITXME
 
Lori, I was thinking of you the other day and had wondered if your hubby had found a job. I am sorry to hear things are not going well. I am sure things will get better soon. Have faith and hang in there!

Terri
 
Take a deep breath. It WILL get better. Chances are in this day and age, your DH would have been downsized anyway. He's probably thinking along the same lines you are, too, and there's probably tension there that was never there before. Hang in there honey... I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Did he turn in his company truck? If so, call the bank and have the Electronic Funds Transfer stopped immediately. Explain the circumstances, and they might even get the funds back for you. I had to do that once, and was successful.

Good luck to you. We're thinking of you!
 
Lori, I am sorry to hear this. Some things are just way beyond our control. I wish you and your family the best. Sending you good luck vibes.

Pinky:)
 
I'm sorry that you are having such a tough time Lori.
I see you posting here a lot and I know you will get a lot of support from your friends here. Hopefully that helps some. I hope things get better for you soon!
 
Lori -
Unemployment just plain old stinks. I've been there twice, and you're right - it's very, very difficult and can be really depressing. I hope you and your husband work through this difficult time. I wish him all the luck in the world as he searches for another job. Take care.
 
I pray for you and your DH to get through this difficult time. There is a light at the end of the tunnel and things will get better. They will probably end up being better than they were to begin with.
Meanwhile, we are all here for you.:)
 
Lori I'm so sorry your feeling down. Things will get better . You will get through this . Vent here anytime. We care about you . Hugs to you
 
Hang in there Lori. You will see a light at the end of this tunnel. Have faith that everything will work out. I know sometimes it doesn't happen as fast as we'd like it to. Like it was said, you have no control over the situation so just try to take one day at a time and BELIEVE it will be ok. I will pray for you and your DH and send hugs and faith vibes your way!

Kali

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Hang in there Lori...I'm sending good vibes your way and hoping that things turn around quickly for you and your family.

Tammy
 
Lori, you have every right to feel those feelings and don't feel bad for it. What are his prospects for a new job? Financial stress is very hard on a marriage but hang in there. Try not to let it become a bone of contention and encourage him. It's is very hard to stay in a job that makes you miserable. If you can understand that, you should be able to convey your fears and wish out loud he'd hung in there until he'd gotten something else. I did. My husband once quit a job and took out a home equity line, racking up $26,00.00 before he went back to the same place six months later. A long, expensive vacation, that! I hope and pray he finds something very soon and I hope and pray you have the strength to handle this difficult time. Stay strong and positive, sweetie. Big, fat hugs to you. I hope he can find something he will like better, but let him know that may impossible now or in the near future and he needs to find something to catch you up as quickly as he can and go from there. Take it one day at a time. We are rooting for you!
Bobbi http://www.handykult.de/plaudersmilies.de/chicken.gif "Chick's rule!"

Tell me, what it is you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? -Mary Oliver
 
Hi Lori,

I am sorry to hear that you are having some problems, I am in real estate ans there is a loan that is called "Stated Income Loan" they based that on your credit score and not on your income, the credit score requirement varies from Company to Company, SunTrust has one of the lowest credit scores requirements in my area. As far as the job search goes, you may want to have your husband sign up with several employent agencies, is their job to find people a job. In the meantime, do your best to stay positive, encourage him to keep looking, the right job will be found soon and you will look back as another tough experience, another lesson learned.

Stay Positive,
Onix
 
Why hasn't your husband gone and got another job?

I will not try and give you advice such as "i'm sure this is a life sesson, nonsense" ... like that makes you feel better. If you're unhappy you're unhappy and the only thing that will change that is when your husband goes out and gets another job. Or you could get a better paid job. Since this really is "only" about money.
 
Aw Lori I'm sorry you're having such a tough time. I think things like this go in cycles & when you think you've hit the bottom things'll start looking up again.

Question--does your hubby belong to any professional organizations? I had a really tough time getting a job when I finished school, but as soon as I joined a couple trade organizations I was employed within a month. Stuff like this is great for networking--employment really is who you know, not what you know.
 
Thanks so much everyone. I am feeling better today. I went to the bank this A.M and drew out my RRSP's. Which wasn't alot but ut helps.
He has been trying to get a job but there are a few flaws. He doesn't have any university degrees, we live in a small town and he was use to making good money before, so in order for him to make the money he made before he has been applying on all sorts of govt jobs.There aren't to many options in this town.
I know there is no real reason to get really stressed b/c everything happens for a reason and I know he will get something. Other then that we have a very supportive family and I know we will never be in need of anything.
Its great to know that there are so many amazing and caring people in this screwed up world...and for some reason most of them have found their way to this board.
Thanks again,
Lori:)
 
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