I can't afford it but since I have decided that I am spending my money on sending my girls to London, UK, to visit their family for a month, I am not sad. You decide where you need to spend your money and then once the decision is made, that's it, you don't think about it anymore.
I don't feel miserable. You spend a certain amount on yourself (STS for me) and a certain amount on family members (plane tickets) and that's fair.
Maybe I just don't feel the misery because I know that these road trips just don't suit my personality anyway. I'm going to be hiking and backpacking in the Wind River range in Wyoming while some of you guys are on the road trip. Sorry, but I won't be missing it!
Clare