RSVP for formal wedding - please help!

[newswoman13]

Hi, I'm sending "yes" RSVPs to formal wedding invitations. I've always completed the "M_____" line with my "iss" for "Miss" following the standard M already printed, then wrote my name. Is this right?

I find it so confusing and have heard both ways -- fill out the rest behind the M, or independently Write the whole Word "Miss" Sally Sue. Please help. Thx!

 

[Imafitnessfreak]

Well, for my brothers I responded with "Me and Bob" (boyfriend) and my mother responded with "Mom and Larry" but we are jackasses.

I believe the way you do it is to complete it with Mr., Mrs. or Miss and then your name. I THINK! Makes sense to me.

 

[newswoman13]

Yeah, but do you write "Miss", or do you just complete the rest of the word with "iss" since the M is there? See, it's confusing!!! ahhh!!!

(I will elope!)

 

[Imafitnessfreak]

Well, I actually put "e and Bob" and My mom put "om and Larry"

I'd put "iss Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt"...unless of course, Brad is home with the kids.

 

[nancy324]

You can just write "Sally Sue will happily attend". Doesn't matter how formal the wedding, they are not looking for any particular wording. Make it warm and friendly, that's all that counts. It's not being read by a computer.

By the way, the term Miss isn't used much anymore. Now it's just Mrs. or Ms. That's all I ever see. And, no, you don't need to add another "M" since the M is already provided. So, for example:
"s. Sally Sue will happily attend" is fine.

-Nancy

 

[red_mct]

Well, I've never used "Miss," preferring the more mysterious "Ms.," and I would just fill it in as: "s. Angelina Jolie."

I believe etiquette says to write it as follows:

Ms.
Miss
Mr.
Mrs.

I'll bet the bride doesn't even notice; she's too busy beating up the bridesmaids and trying to hunt down the non-responders! ;-)

Marie

 

[Imafitnessfreak]

"By the way, the term Miss isn't used much anymore. Now it's just Mrs. or Ms. That's all I ever see."

Out of pure curiosity...why is that? Why are we moving away from Miss?

 

[newswoman13]

Okay, I found my answer and am pasting it below. I'm a detail girl, can you tell? I've googled and googled and FINALLY found the answer where it says write "r." In my case, I'll write "iss" -- I'm not married! Thanks you all!



from: http://people.howstuffworks.com/fra...wam.umd.edu/~sek/wedding/responsewording.html
A response card usually looks like this:


The favour of a reply
is requested before the seventeenth of March
M _____________________________
will ________ attend


Fill in the names of the people on the longer line. Notice that the M of your title is already printed, so you would actually write something like r. and Mrs. Mark Jones

If you have a title that does not begin with M, you may strike out the M and put down your proper title.

Then, if you are accepting, do not put anything on the second line. If you are declining, write the word not on that line.

 

[nancy324]

Sarah, back in my day (LOL) "Ms." was used for everything. Then, after feminism reached many of it's goals, it became far less important for young women, who went back to using "Mrs." when they got married. However, Miss never really came back, it just stayed "Ms.". So, nowadays, Ms. is always appropriate for anything, and Mrs. is used frequently for married women, and Miss bit the dust for all intents and purposes.

-Nancy

 

[nancy324]

OOoops. I should have realized you were from Georgia before I posted. I imagine it's quite a different world down there.
-Nancy