Rotten Ex-husbands??

CDPotier

CDPotier

Cathlete
Hello, everybody,

Today is my daughter Kristen's 21st birthday, and I wanted to take her out to a nice lunch and so on. I am up bright and early, and I do my weight and ab workout. After I finish, I call her cell and wish her a Happy Birthday. When she calls back, she tells me she just had a test (she goes to nursing school in Brooklyn, and we live on Staten Island), and she was driving home now. About ten minutes later, she calls me crying to say she had a flat tire. When she called her father, he started yelling at her, and he told her it was her own fault she had the flat.

What kind of man would say that to his daughter on her birthday? Any other dad would be worried about his daughter being stuck in Brooklyn with a flat. By now, you know why I am not with this man any longer. Thank you for reading, and I had to vent.
 
He does sound like a creep! Does he even remember it's her Birthday?? I hope she gets it fixed right away and you guys enjoy your dinner toight ~ without him.
 
He shouldn't act like that on ANY day. Your poor daughter. I'm sure she got the flat on purpose, just to make her dad have a bad day.
 
Thank you, scm. I was practically crying when she called me and told me about the flat. He had also cancelled the AA membership and not told her. I called her, and she told me that some nice man had seen her in distress and changed it for her.

I am sure this creep knew it was her birthday; however, he may not have. 21 is a milestone in somebody's life, and hers should be wonderful. I am waiting for her now, and then we are going out to eat.
 
Thank you, b girl, and you are right. Any man in his right mind would be worried about his daughter stuck alone in the rain with a flat tire.

I am so much happier now that we are divorced, and I have a wonderful boyfriend who treats me like a princess. We are together for two years, and I should have looked for a man like him when I was 20. I don't regret the marriage because I have two great kids, but I will never understand what makes him such a miserable person.
 
What a prick!!! I say you have every right to pull him aside and remind him of what a dumbass thing that was to do to his daughter...especially on her 21st B day!! Encourage him to apologize to her. After all, if he keeps this crap up, she may decide a relationship with him is not worth having!!!

Tell her we said HAPPY BIRTHDAY and if she is going to "celebrate", encourage her to drink a glass of water after every "non water;) " beverage!
 
Yep, he's a jerk!

My husband would drive to Alaska if he had to to help out my daughter who is his STEP daughter!

Glad you've got a good man now.:)
 
Oh Caitlin! I'm sorry! The poor girl! I hope her day gets better and I'm glad a NICE man helped her change her tire. Her father, well, I won't say what should happen to him - I'll allow you to use your imagination - just make it tortureous!

My ex is no gem either, so I fully sympathize. My current DH is more of a father to my daughter than her own father ever was. It's so sad when parents do not realize the gems they have in their children.
 
I am so sorry to hear that - and I know exactly how it can be too - that is why I describe myself as "very happily divorced". 21 is a very special birthday and I hope you have a great lunch with her!!
 
Dear Sarah,

Thank you so much for saying it. He is truly a terrible man. He still owes me some money from the divorce settlement, and, when my lawyer called him about it, he started cursing my lawyer out.

When my daughter got here, she was too hysterical to go out to eat, so she went to spend some time with her boyfriend. We are going out later, and Dirk, my boyfriend, is coming over after.
 
Thank you, Elaine, and my man is a doll. I am truly blessed with him, and I hope we stay together. It is two years now.
 
Christine,

I don't even speak with her father now, and I wish my kids had a better Dad. He pays for their college, and things like that, but money can't make up for him being the way he is. I am glad you have found a wonderful man.
 
I will tell you that all of you say "Happy Birthday." She is such a good kid, and she works part-time while she is going to nursing school. I am so proud of her.
 
so sorry to hear it.

I'm very lucky to have the greatest ex husband. We are very good friends (divorced 16 years). Folks were blown away what i overlook - but he is not my husband - so as long as he is a good dad that is what counts. It makes me sad to hear not many divorces are that way.

SO sorry to hear it..
 
Caitlin, I can sympathize. I've been divorced now for 10 years. I only wish my kids could have divorced their father as well. I've held onto the belief to never say anything bad about their father to them, and let them make up their own minds. It's clear with every action the ex takes, he is only thinking of himself. I have two wonderful sons, ages 12 and 14. They light up my life. I also have a BF of three years - never have we had a cross word between us.

Shame on your ex for leaving your daughter stranded like that and berating her for what happened! He probably places his anger towards you on her. There's no excuse for that. She will always remember things like what happened today and how he handled it.

I hope you have a wonderful time together tonight. Wow, she has such a great future to look forward to! I'm happy you, she, and the BF can share time together. Thank goodness your daughter will be able to remember her birthday ending on a happy note.

Take care,

Diane
 
Thank you so much, robyn, and when I was out to dinner with my lovely daughter, her father called up and I am sure he felt very guilty about what he did to her today. I told her that he can't help being a miserable person, and that he will never change. I am lucky to have a very good man, and he will be here soon.
 
Dear Diane,

I am divorced since 1996, and I am so glad I had the courage to do it. How could blame her for getting a flat tire, when she just had a grueling day at nursing school, and she had an exam and a lecture. The poor girl was stranded in Brookly, and a very nice old man changed the tire for her. We have a wonderful time tonight at dinner, and she was kind of embarrassed when all of the waiters in the restaurant came over to sing Happy Birthday to her. My BF Dirk will be here soon, and Kristen already went out to spend some time with her friends. My kids are now 18 and 21, and my son will be 19 soon.

I know her father is very guilty now, but he should think before he says something.
 
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