Question for the deep thinkers

[wellness]

I think many go thru this - re-evaluation. I think its healthy.
I am turning 33, married 9 yrs, no children.
I find myself working a lot (DH & I have our own business). But, I'm always trying to improve our business, increase our knowledge, staying ahead. I'd love to make a difference in our industry. But, is this enough to have a fulfilled life? I ask myself alot too, am I being selfish to not want children right now (and I am not getting younger)? Esp. when all my friends have kids.

DH & I needed to do other things, we volunteer. Its amazing the joy you get from helping others. And just trying to be a good neighbor.
Something you are passionate about, follow it. For me, volunteering in our town. Why not give back? Esp. to the town you live in

Reflection is good! As many have said, follow God's ways. God has a plan for each of us. Trust Him. With Him all things are possible.

Alicia

 

[LittleMoFit]

Nancy, You and I share a similarity in that I didn't "find" my career until I was 45. I'm turning 50 this year, and I also struggled since graduating college with feeling grown-up (even though I got married at 20 and had 2 children, and also worked in several different fields). Eventually (18 years! ), I figured out what an immense mismatch the marriage was, and ended it. Then I decided to get my MBA as a 39+ year old. Talk about cultural wake-up!!!

After earning my MBA and trying on even MORE careers for ANOTHER five years, one of my old MBA class-mates, who is 16 years my junior, recruited me into HIS world of commercial real estate in a large bank. He remembered me (the old lady, ;-) ), and knew my work-ethic & capabilities. Anyhow, I've been working for this man and the same bank now for five years, and I finally have my "niche" and my true "career".

All of this uncertainty, and experimentation, and struggle led me to develop an actual LIFE. I also met a wonderful man who is now my 2nd husband and true "partner" in life.

My point to the original poster, is that sometimes it takes TIME to figure out your true calling, or your career path, or even whether your life partner is going to be someone you eventually meet, or even whether your life partner is YOURSELF.

There is no one, right answer. So if you don't feel satisfied, keep on searching. Keep on meeting new people. Keep on trying new things. Occasionally read a good book and hibernate in your house for a few days. Solitude can also be very healthy and valuable. But no matter what, keep ON.

I may be nearly 50, but like some of the others said, I'm never too old to do something else, until that day in the future when I STOP aging. My motto in my marriage and in all of my relationships is "come, grow old with me; the best is yet to be."

P.S. Here's the real kicker: Despite my good job, and my good marriage, sometimes I STILL don't want to go to work, and sometimes I STILL don't want to be around my husband for a while. And sometimes I STILL find myself feeling vaguely discontent. Life is definitely NOT always perfect. But when I take the time to look at where I am, and where I've been, I remember that perfection isn't the goal - keeping the PROCESS of moving towards a better place IS the goal. Like those cute T-shirts say, all in all, "Life is Good!" :7

 

[nancy324]

"P.S. Here's the real kicker: Despite my good job, and my good marriage, sometimes I STILL don't want to go to work, and sometimes I STILL don't want to be around my husband for a while. And sometimes I STILL find myself feeling vaguely discontent. Life is definitely NOT always perfect. But when I take the time to look at where I am, and where I've been, I remember that perfection isn't the goal - keeping the PROCESS of moving towards a better place IS the goal. Like those cute T-shirts say, all in all, "Life is Good!"

Amen. Well said, little!