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RE: postpartum check in
Emy sounds like you are having a nice time. Melanie, are you doing any better?
Emy sounds like you are having a nice time. Melanie, are you doing any better?
Postpartum check in Week of March 14th
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melanalyus
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RE: postpartum check in
Thanks for the follow-up Shopaholic. ;-) Yes, I am doing loads and loads better. Life is good today.
Just a mini-breakdown the other day. I"m back on track now.
**Melanie**
Justin born 1/17/04
Jory born 4/9/94
" Take care of your body like it will last a lifetime. Take care of your soul like it will last for eternity"
Thanks for the follow-up Shopaholic. ;-) Yes, I am doing loads and loads better. Life is good today.
Just a mini-breakdown the other day. I"m back on track now. **Melanie**
Justin born 1/17/04
Jory born 4/9/94
" Take care of your body like it will last a lifetime. Take care of your soul like it will last for eternity"
RE: Overwhelmed, tired & grouchy!
Hi,
just wanted to comment even though I probably can't say anything you wouldn't know already... First of all, you wouldn't be human if working and taking care of a baby (with all it brings with it!) wouldn't feel extremely tough because it is! I think too many of us new (or "old") mothers are way too hard on ourselves,and forget what a tremendous physical and mental change a new baby (and all it comes with, ie. lack of sleep, nursing etc.) really is. You should never feel like a weakling because you acknowledge this huge challenge!
I don't really have much ideas as far as the sleeping goes, both my girls seems to be the same way (sleeping short periods througout the day), and I know exactly how aggrevating it can be! I know some people swear to having them nap outside (if it's a possibility for you), though mine wouldn't sleep there any better than indoors. Or like you said, they'd sleep these 20 minute "mininaps" at random intervals. Frustrating!
I hope you have a possibility to arrange some time for just yourself (with your husband perhaps?). I know it makes the biggest difference for me, even though I'm not even back to work yet! Just going for a walk, strolling around some store, or going to a nice cafe for a capuccino perhaps. I find even a short break from the continuos (so it seems!) demands of the little ones makes me feel like I'm still "me", too.
I'm sure there's nothing you wouldn't already know here..., but I know sometimes it's good to hear things from other people too, especially when it comes to taking time for oneself.
Mine keep calling so gotta go, enjoy your well earned vacation that's coming up!
Maria
Hi,
just wanted to comment even though I probably can't say anything you wouldn't know already...
First of all, you wouldn't be human if working and taking care of a baby (with all it brings with it!) wouldn't feel extremely tough because it is! I think too many of us new (or "old") mothers are way too hard on ourselves,and forget what a tremendous physical and mental change a new baby (and all it comes with, ie. lack of sleep, nursing etc.) really is. You should never feel like a weakling because you acknowledge this huge challenge!I don't really have much ideas as far as the sleeping goes, both my girls seems to be the same way (sleeping short periods througout the day), and I know exactly how aggrevating it can be! I know some people swear to having them nap outside (if it's a possibility for you), though mine wouldn't sleep there any better than indoors. Or like you said, they'd sleep these 20 minute "mininaps" at random intervals. Frustrating!
I hope you have a possibility to arrange some time for just yourself (with your husband perhaps?). I know it makes the biggest difference for me, even though I'm not even back to work yet! Just going for a walk, strolling around some store, or going to a nice cafe for a capuccino perhaps. I find even a short break from the continuos (so it seems!) demands of the little ones makes me feel like I'm still "me", too.
I'm sure there's nothing you wouldn't already know here..., but I know sometimes it's good to hear things from other people too, especially when it comes to taking time for oneself.
Mine keep calling so gotta go, enjoy your well earned vacation that's coming up!
Maria
RE: Overwhelmed, tired & grouchy!
Melanie...just wanted you to know that I'm praying for ya!! As everyone said....you're doing soooooo much right now and NOBODY can do it all. And judging from your incredible intensity while pregnant and your room rearranging, painting, doing IMAX on an 8 inch step (had to throw that in there) etc... I'm sure your demanding too much of yourself!!! And I am always one to think that when I'm having a bad week..."it may never change and how can I handle life and everything is caving in" .....and it always changes when I get a good nights sleep and I wish I could remind myself that it will get better and I need to ease up on myself. There's my speech!!
Maria...have you forgiven me yet???? :-( I think it's REALLY special that we have a scandanavian checking in with us. How long have you lived there? I am of scandanavian/swedish type decent, but was adopted at 3 days old, right from the hospital....so I never looked like anyone else in my family. When I went up to northern Wisconsin for a visit I was really "touched" with a feeling like I had never had before. In northern Wisconsin there are TONS of scandanavian/norwegian people that settled there when the U.S. began and I was so amazed that all these people looked like me. It felt like family :7 :7 :7 . They had blond wavy hair - everywhere I went - tons of them. I don't know why I'm rambling about this...you just made me think of it and I like to ramble ;-) ;-) .
Emy.....I saw your little icon person by your name......this does NOT constitute a picture!!! (but just out of curiousity...does this look like you??). It's cute!!!! Glad Max is liking the beach scene!!
Maggie...thanks for the info on sick babies. So far Noah is doing fine and I continue to pray that he won't catch IT, which would be a miracle as Hannah still sleeps in our room and the baby is on the other side of me!!! I keep saying that God is protecting this little unnursed boy
Briee
Melanie...just wanted you to know that I'm praying for ya!! As everyone said....you're doing soooooo much right now and NOBODY can do it all. And judging from your incredible intensity while pregnant and your room rearranging, painting, doing IMAX on an 8 inch step (had to throw that in there) etc... I'm sure your demanding too much of yourself!!! And I am always one to think that when I'm having a bad week..."it may never change and how can I handle life and everything is caving in" .....and it always changes when I get a good nights sleep and I wish I could remind myself that it will get better and I need to ease up on myself. There's my speech!!
Maria...have you forgiven me yet???? :-( I think it's REALLY special that we have a scandanavian checking in with us. How long have you lived there? I am of scandanavian/swedish type decent, but was adopted at 3 days old, right from the hospital....so I never looked like anyone else in my family. When I went up to northern Wisconsin for a visit I was really "touched" with a feeling like I had never had before. In northern Wisconsin there are TONS of scandanavian/norwegian people that settled there when the U.S. began and I was so amazed that all these people looked like me. It felt like family :7 :7 :7 . They had blond wavy hair - everywhere I went - tons of them. I don't know why I'm rambling about this...you just made me think of it and I like to ramble ;-) ;-) .
Emy.....I saw your little icon person by your name......this does NOT constitute a picture!!! (but just out of curiousity...does this look like you??). It's cute!!!! Glad Max is liking the beach scene!!
Maggie...thanks for the info on sick babies. So far Noah is doing fine and I continue to pray that he won't catch IT, which would be a miracle as Hannah still sleeps in our room and the baby is on the other side of me!!!
I keep saying that God is protecting this little unnursed boy Briee
MSJ
Cathlete
RE: Overwhelmed, tired & grouchy!
Hi everyone,
Briee is right Melanie--no one can do it all. Sometimes people ask me how I do it "all" with home schooling and 5 kids and all that. (the question always puzzles me, because I don't think I make a very "put together" impression--but anyway...)and the answer is I DON'T. I can't, but oh boy do I want to. Usually it is the house that gets let go. There are also tons of other projects that never even get started. As a perfectionist, I can relate to the frustration of not being able to do it all. But remember Isaiah 40:11--where He gently leads those that are with young--one of my favorite verses.
Maria--like Briee, I have Swedish decent as well. My paternal grandmother was fully Swedish, which makes me 1/4. I don't really look it though, my Scots/Irish ancestry shows more with my red hair and fair skin. And actually, my grandmother had very dark hair, so there goes the blond Swedish stereotype anyway.
Emy--glad you are having a fun vacation and spending money. We just got our tax refund (yowza:7 :7 ) and I can't wait to spend some of it, but I want to lose a bit more weight first, speaking of which, today I blew it....groan...
I need to go finish working out today--yuck today is a stationary bike day. got to do some lo impact cardio to keep the knee healthy, which, by the way, is feeling very, very good.
take care everyone
Maggie
Hi everyone,
Briee is right Melanie--no one can do it all. Sometimes people ask me how I do it "all" with home schooling and 5 kids and all that. (the question always puzzles me, because I don't think I make a very "put together" impression--but anyway...)and the answer is I DON'T. I can't, but oh boy do I want to. Usually it is the house that gets let go. There are also tons of other projects that never even get started. As a perfectionist, I can relate to the frustration of not being able to do it all. But remember Isaiah 40:11--where He gently leads those that are with young--one of my favorite verses.
Maria--like Briee, I have Swedish decent as well. My paternal grandmother was fully Swedish, which makes me 1/4
. I don't really look it though, my Scots/Irish ancestry shows more with my red hair and fair skin. And actually, my grandmother had very dark hair, so there goes the blond Swedish stereotype anyway.Emy--glad you are having a fun vacation and spending money. We just got our tax refund (yowza:7 :7 ) and I can't wait to spend some of it, but I want to lose a bit more weight first, speaking of which, today I blew it....groan...
I need to go finish working out today--yuck today is a stationary bike day. got to do some lo impact cardio to keep the knee healthy, which, by the way, is feeling very, very good.
take care everyone
Maggie
RE: Overwhelmed, tired & grouchy!
Maggie, I'm so glad that your knee is feeling better...just don't push it. Give it a good rest to prevent reinjury. I blew it today too (misery loves company!!). The donut addiction kicked in again which makes me so mad....life is not fair....takes 30 seconds to down a donut and 1 hour to work it off (and that's like an hour of bootcamp depending on the donutx( x( x( x( x( ) (and I had like 3-4 yikes).
Housekeeping.....Maggie - no perfect house????? Thanks for sharing this!!! My mom is here to visit this week and when I grew up I had two brothers and we were spaced 5 years apart and we were sent off to school and our home was untouched because we were rarely there. It's so hard to make people understand that when you have six kids doing EVERYTHING at home....it doesn't stay clean. (except for that brief 5 minute period right after you do a big pick up/clean). We have tried to teach them that it's a continual effort, but it's not sinking in. I still hear, but I cleaned that room this morning...why do I have to clean it again...nevermind the fact that children have been through it with muddy shoes 100 times and cut out pictures from magazines and played axis and allies - which has like 1 million little pieces, and made a school project out of a cut up box and ate canned peaches which the 1 year old spit out all over the floor........etc etc etc. But it must still be clean!!!!!
Briee (I believe I just vented too - sorry didn't mean to - it just spilled out)
Maggie, I'm so glad that your knee is feeling better...just don't push it. Give it a good rest to prevent reinjury. I blew it today too (misery loves company!!). The donut addiction kicked in again which makes me so mad....life is not fair....takes 30 seconds to down a donut and 1 hour to work it off (and that's like an hour of bootcamp depending on the donutx( x( x( x( x( ) (and I had like 3-4 yikes).
Housekeeping.....Maggie - no perfect house????? Thanks for sharing this!!! My mom is here to visit this week and when I grew up I had two brothers and we were spaced 5 years apart and we were sent off to school and our home was untouched because we were rarely there. It's so hard to make people understand that when you have six kids doing EVERYTHING at home....it doesn't stay clean. (except for that brief 5 minute period right after you do a big pick up/clean). We have tried to teach them that it's a continual effort, but it's not sinking in. I still hear, but I cleaned that room this morning...why do I have to clean it again...nevermind the fact that children have been through it with muddy shoes 100 times and cut out pictures from magazines and played axis and allies - which has like 1 million little pieces, and made a school project out of a cut up box and ate canned peaches which the 1 year old spit out all over the floor........etc etc etc. But it must still be clean!!!!!
Briee (I believe I just vented too - sorry didn't mean to - it just spilled out)
RE: Overwhelmed, tired & grouchy!
Briee, I'm going to have to one up you;-) , you may have had a donut today, but my lunch today was a slice of hershey almond fudge cheesecake from the cheesecake factory! :9
PS - How was the indoor waterpark? ALso, add another count for a Swede. My greatgrandparents migrated here. Plus, we are descended from Erik the Red, plundering king of Sweden (so my grandmother has said).
Melanie, why don't you take a stroll with your new baby jogger (has it arrived yet?) and get some fresh air? I'm sorry you are overwhelmed. I'm sure this will pass before you know it, and you will be conquering more feats! You can do it, we all believe in you. (Self-affirmations!) Maybe you can schedule a massage next weekend, you deserve it.
Yes, Maggie, I am one of those people who has wondered how you raise 5 kids and play double roll as teacher. You ARE quite amazing.
Briee, I'm going to have to one up you;-) , you may have had a donut today, but my lunch today was a slice of hershey almond fudge cheesecake from the cheesecake factory! :9
PS - How was the indoor waterpark? ALso, add another count for a Swede. My greatgrandparents migrated here. Plus, we are descended from Erik the Red, plundering king of Sweden (so my grandmother has said).
Melanie, why don't you take a stroll with your new baby jogger (has it arrived yet?) and get some fresh air? I'm sorry you are overwhelmed. I'm sure this will pass before you know it, and you will be conquering more feats! You can do it, we all believe in you. (Self-affirmations!) Maybe you can schedule a massage next weekend, you deserve it.
Yes, Maggie, I am one of those people who has wondered how you raise 5 kids and play double roll as teacher. You ARE quite amazing.
melanalyus
Cathlete
Stroller Came Last night!!!
Hi ladies! I"m so excited! My stroller came via FedEx last night. I immediately put it together & put Justin in it. I already worked out when it arrived (so I wasn't going jogging) but I just had to check it out. It's so much fun! My almost 10-year old likes it a lot too. Oh, and here's the most important thing: JUSTIN LIKED IT!!!! He was fussy before I put him in it, but he hushed up right away and seemed to really enjoy it. So, if he does have a fussy summmer...I will be one fit & trim Momma!!!!
It's raining out this morning. We're going to the 7th Annual Cabin Fever garage sale in town (about 40 venders in a town of 2500). I'm excited about this too. Looking for some good deals! Hopefully the sun will come out and I can go jogging later.
Can you guys tell? I'm much better now. So much good advice from you guys. I knew I could count on ya'll. I have to remember that things will look better the next day. I can keep my anger in check for at least the night, right? By then I've usually come up with a solution. Briee, you are so right. It's as if Satan is there pushing me down telling me that life will never get better--always at one of my lows. He's so sneaky, isn't he? Maggie, thanks for the verse. I will look it up...and memorize it. What a great verse! I haven't spent much time studying Isiah...but I know there's awesome verses in that book.
Well, off to get bargins.
**Melanie**
Justin born 1/17/04
Jory born 4/9/94
" Take care of your body like it will last a lifetime. Take care of your soul like it will last for eternity"
Hi ladies! I"m so excited! My stroller came via FedEx last night. I immediately put it together & put Justin in it. I already worked out when it arrived (so I wasn't going jogging) but I just had to check it out. It's so much fun! My almost 10-year old likes it a lot too. Oh, and here's the most important thing: JUSTIN LIKED IT!!!! He was fussy before I put him in it, but he hushed up right away and seemed to really enjoy it. So, if he does have a fussy summmer...I will be one fit & trim Momma!!!!
It's raining out this morning. We're going to the 7th Annual Cabin Fever garage sale in town (about 40 venders in a town of 2500). I'm excited about this too. Looking for some good deals! Hopefully the sun will come out and I can go jogging later.
Can you guys tell? I'm much better now. So much good advice from you guys. I knew I could count on ya'll. I have to remember that things will look better the next day. I can keep my anger in check for at least the night, right? By then I've usually come up with a solution. Briee, you are so right. It's as if Satan is there pushing me down telling me that life will never get better--always at one of my lows. He's so sneaky, isn't he? Maggie, thanks for the verse. I will look it up...and memorize it. What a great verse! I haven't spent much time studying Isiah...but I know there's awesome verses in that book.
Well, off to get bargins.
**Melanie**
Justin born 1/17/04
Jory born 4/9/94
" Take care of your body like it will last a lifetime. Take care of your soul like it will last for eternity"
MSJ
Cathlete
RE: Stroller Came Last night!!!
Hi everyone--
Good to hear from you Emy. MMMM.....Cheesecake....Today I made Julia Child seafood crepes with wine and cheese sauce---NOT a light dish by any stretch of the imagination--cream, butter, cheese...so today was not a good day either, but very tasty:9 . Okay, tomorrow, seriously back on track with all my fruits and veggies and water.
Melanie--aren't those strollers fun? We had one that we used as a second car back when we only had one car and one child. I used it for all my errands. I am planning to use it this summer--we have a plan...someone gave us a bike trailer that holds 2 kids, so my husband will bike with 2 in the trailer, I will walk/run (depending on knee) with Bardric in the jogger and the two big kids will bike--finally we can exercise outside as a family and really get a workout.
Have fun with it and I am so glad you are feeling better. By the way--I really haven't spent much time in Isaiah either, I've read it a couple of times, but I did come across this verse and some others that I like that stuck in my mind.
Briee--Boy can I relate to your description of the house. I feel like I am constantly pushing back a tide of clutter and papers and little bits of things and things that have no place, but just get moved from place to place. I went on a rampage this weekend and organized the dining room--sent hubby out for those clear plastic stacking drawer things so that more things could be organized and have a place. He also cleaned the carpet in the dining room--just an aside--do not have carpet where you eat if you have many children who are "neatness" challenged, as we do. It can get gross.
Okay, now that I have written a novel, I am going to respond to the new post partum post:7
take care
Maggie
Hi everyone--
Good to hear from you Emy. MMMM.....Cheesecake....Today I made Julia Child seafood crepes with wine and cheese sauce---NOT a light dish by any stretch of the imagination--cream, butter, cheese...so today was not a good day either, but very tasty:9 . Okay, tomorrow, seriously back on track with all my fruits and veggies and water.
Melanie--aren't those strollers fun? We had one that we used as a second car back when we only had one car and one child
. I used it for all my errands. I am planning to use it this summer--we have a plan...someone gave us a bike trailer that holds 2 kids, so my husband will bike with 2 in the trailer, I will walk/run (depending on knee) with Bardric in the jogger and the two big kids will bike--finally we can exercise outside as a family and really get a workout.Have fun with it and I am so glad you are feeling better. By the way--I really haven't spent much time in Isaiah either, I've read it a couple of times, but I did come across this verse and some others that I like that stuck in my mind.
Briee--Boy can I relate to your description of the house. I feel like I am constantly pushing back a tide of clutter and papers and little bits of things and things that have no place, but just get moved from place to place. I went on a rampage this weekend and organized the dining room--sent hubby out for those clear plastic stacking drawer things so that more things could be organized and have a place. He also cleaned the carpet in the dining room--just an aside--do not have carpet where you eat if you have many children who are "neatness" challenged, as we do. It can get gross.
Okay, now that I have written a novel, I am going to respond to the new post partum post:7
take care
Maggie
RE: Overwhelmed, tired & grouchy!
Hi everybody, and all you "scandies" there)),
Oh Briee, absolutely nothing for me to forgive, don't you think that for a minute! I'm really glad I've found this forum, it's nice to get to know all you people. Most my friends aren't so much into exercising, at least not this homevideo type of thing. It's so nice to have someone to vent to about pulling off Imax without too many modifications or keep wondering how to get those abs somewhere in sight...).
Wau, quite a lot of you with some ancestors from around here, especially Sweden! I live in Finland, so Sweden is just "next-door". Yeah, I guess lots of the Scandinavians live in the Wisconsin and Minnesota area, I suppose the climate felt chilly and homy enough for the migrants)). Yes, I've lived here basically all my life, if you don't count a 3-4 year period of studying abroad. Briee, it must have felt strange to suddenly be surrounded by people who look like you in Wisconsin, you'd fit right in here, definitely.
Anyway, hope ya all remember to be kind enough to yourselves, I know at least I need practice on sometimes just letting things be and not trying to be too perfect. As someone mentioned, with kids and whatever else we all have, it's impossible to do it all. But boy, does it feel difficult to remember that sometimes...
Okay, better move on to the new post-partum check-in, before my moment of peace ends...)
Maria S
Hi everybody, and all you "scandies" there
)),Oh Briee, absolutely nothing for me to forgive, don't you think that for a minute! I'm really glad I've found this forum, it's nice to get to know all you people. Most my friends aren't so much into exercising, at least not this homevideo type of thing. It's so nice to have someone to vent to about pulling off Imax without too many modifications or keep wondering how to get those abs somewhere in sight...
).Wau, quite a lot of you with some ancestors from around here, especially Sweden! I live in Finland, so Sweden is just "next-door". Yeah, I guess lots of the Scandinavians live in the Wisconsin and Minnesota area, I suppose the climate felt chilly and homy enough for the migrants
)). Yes, I've lived here basically all my life, if you don't count a 3-4 year period of studying abroad. Briee, it must have felt strange to suddenly be surrounded by people who look like you in Wisconsin, you'd fit right in here, definitely.Anyway, hope ya all remember to be kind enough to yourselves, I know at least I need practice on sometimes just letting things be and not trying to be too perfect. As someone mentioned, with kids and whatever else we all have, it's impossible to do it all. But boy, does it feel difficult to remember that sometimes...
Okay, better move on to the new post-partum check-in, before my moment of peace ends...
)Maria S