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I've already sent a PM off to Cathe, now I need to come here and apologize for my earlier post. Calling it stupid would be an understatement. I've gotten quite good at stupidity over the years, so I qualify as an excellent judge.

I've been treated with nothing but respect here from day one, and my comments were uncalled for and unfounded.

This week has truly been one of the worst of my life on a few levels, not the least of which is the fact that I have a condition called spinal stenosis, which, in the terms of my doctor, takes athletes and turns them into non-athletes, not the thing I needed to hear when you mix in the fact that I have already lost one brother to suicide and the odds are great that I may be losing another, as he is on suicide watch in Colorado.

That is not an excuse for m post, just an explanation. I am not the most religious sort in the world, but I have heard that God never gives us more than we can handle, I sure do have some work ahead of me. I am still determined to be a success story, despite my screw-ups, the jobn is just going to be tougher than first thought, I need to be up to the challenge, as opposed to alienating people who have never been anything but nice to me.

I am truly sorry, to all of you and esp. Cathe
 
Thats okay Jerry, given all you are going through, perhaps you just took it the wrong way is all-easy to do!

Please take care, and you are right, we are given lots of s**t to deal with and sometimes it all just seems like way to much to handle.

We are a great bunch here and I am glad you are back.:)
 
We understand. Welcome back.

I have a very dear friend with spinal stenosis who recently had surgery performed in NY city by a surgeon who has great expertise in this area and with this kind of surgery. My friend is a doctor who through his connections was able to find this back surgeon. After many painful years, my friend is regaining his mobility and has already lost much of the pain associated with this condition. I would seek treatment by an expert who comes highly recommended as back surgery is tricky. If you are intereested, I will pm you the name of this doctor and you can check him out and/or have him recommend a physician near you. Good luck.
 
Jerry,
((((((HUGS!)))))) for all you are going through. So glad you are back among us! BTW, You might want to post on the open forum about your spinal stenosis--there are so many knowledgeable people here who have dealt with lots of medical conditions. Maybe someone will have some good ideas for you. Take care of yourself--

ETA: Cathy posted already with a terrific idea while I was typing my post. See Jerry--lots of smart people here!

Jonahnah
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Jerry,

I haven't been around this board for very long but I do always notice your postings because they bring humor and wisdom to the discussion. I am so sorry to hear of your tragic loss of your brother and will certainly be sending prayers towards your other brother.
While I can't imagine the pain a suicide would cause I have been dealing with death for almost the whole time I have been with my fiance. When I first met him his aunt died shortly after I started dating him. A few years later his beloved grandfather died in his sleep then two years later, just this summer his dad went through a horrific battle with esophageal cancer that ended in the worst way. Through the midst of all that his step father was being convicted and was sent to four years in prison ( very long story).
The good news is is that he and I are getting married this June, we have bought our very first house together and his dad, aunt, and grandpa are in better places, and his stepdad is now out of prison.
I guess the moral of the story is, somehow everything is going to be all right. You may not see it now but you will get through this.
Hugs and prayers and glad you are back
nkuangel
 
No worries! Glad you are back. Remember it is not what you go through but how you get through it that counts. Life throws us challenges. It is how we learn and grow. Keep working out. It always helps!

Take care!

Karen :)
 
So glad to hear from you Jerry.

Yeah, life sucks sometimes. I often wonder if God does give us too much to handle. I've lost a brother from suicide as well. It leaves a hole in your soul. I don't know what spinal stenosi is, but I'm going to look it up right after I type this. Just remember dear Jerry, that even if things seem really difficult now, everything changes, it never stays the same. Usually for the better. Your hitting a low now, and things can only get better from here.

It was out of character when you said good-by and raised a lot of whys here. That means people are getting to know you and care.

Thank you for taking a chance and trusting in people. When feeling low again get on here and talk with us. Also talk to people that are flesh and blood (counseling). You can see their expressions and they give great information to you. Your not along. I sometimes still need help or what you call a check up every now and again. Don't be afraid of that, it's a good thing.

Will be looking forward to seeing your posts once again. Give yourself a hug and one for your brother in Colorado for me. Don't let go, OK?

Janie

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Jerry, I'm sorry you're going through all this crap, but I'm very happy to see that you didn't leave.


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(((Jerry)))
So sorry about your brothers. My mother killed herself, and every day I ask myself 'how am I doing?' Once the unthinkable has happened in your family, you live with that pain as best you can. Some days, the strain is enormous and I'm guessing it was one of those days when you posted. You and your brother are in my prayers.

As for the "God doesn't give us more than we can handle", I'd like to find the person who started that nasty rumor. I don't think God 'gives' us these burdens, but is there to help us bear them. When I learned to pray for help in getting through the bad times (as opposed to 'God, please let me get that job/house, etc) my heart changed and I got more understanding and less quick to judge others.

I hope this doesn't come off as a religion lesson. Since you brought up God, I just thought I'd offer you a different way to think about the idea.
Best,
Valerie
 
hi jerry,

i didn't read through the whole other thread posted. but glad you can see past SNMs posts to stick around. i am sorry for your stress dealing with your medical condition and personal life. my dh and i are in a middle of a legal thing(on top of jobs and a disabled child and its making me old in my young age) and understand sometimes things either get taken out of context or too personally and just causes us to release emotions. i am sure you didn't mean to direct it to anybody here and you were just letting out all of the hurt and stress.

i too am far from religious but i think this is true for any belief that God will not give us anymore then we could handle. we have lessons to learn and use these experiences to enlighten others. i hope you can share your experiences with us to help us understand and learn.

hugs,
kassia

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"And do what thee wilt as long as ye harm none"

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Jerry,

I so sorry for the tough time you are having. Never having dealt with a loved one's loss through suicide, I can only imagine the pain and grief you handle every day. One of the best things about this forum is the understanding and caring people who post. I'm glad you decided to stick around.
 
Thanks everyone for the kind words, you have no idea how appreciated they are!! Major depression runs on the male side of my family, and definitely played a role in my decison not to have children, it is an insidious disease, and has cost me quite enough in my life. The thing that rips me up most regarding my brother currently on suicide watch is that he was a well-respected, successful doctor, and really should not better than to take himself off his medication and resort to alcohol, which is what he has done, even going so far as to get a DWI, something I never believed possible of a man who I idolized growing up. One thing I have in my favor is a loving spouse, and I don't know if he can say the same, I just don't know what or who to believe anymore when it comes to his situation. I know he's going through hell right now, sadly a great deal of this is his own doing, and he just doesn't want to pay the cost of prior actions.

Regarding my back condition, I am sure most of you can relate to what I'm about to tell you, either in your own life, or the lives of your spouses and/or children...Did you ever had the feeling that something was wrong with you yet you were scared to get it checked out for fear of what it might be, would rather accept the unknown?? I have pretty much known for years that my back wasn't right after I had injured it, yet was afraid to have it fully checked out utnil recently when I had to clean my mom's old apartment, and spent several hours on hands and knees. It took me forever to get up a few times, I even had to roll on the floor on one occasion to a chair to prop myself up!! The weirdest thing was, I felt zero pain, my lower half just wouldn't do what I needed it to do.

One of my biggest fears is one day not being able to exercise, and was greatly relieved when my doctor told me that would not be the case, I would, though, have to make some changes, and eliminate some of the bouncier moves that Cathe's workouts have in them. I have already started modifying those, and look forward to getting back in the swing of working out later today.

Thanks again!
 
Jerry, do you realize how much strength it took for you to post that? You are so much stronger than you know. Life certainly hands us some doosies sometimes. It is however, our choice as to how we handle them. From reading your posts in the past it looks like you have a good approach to things. Your determination comes through in your posts. Keep it up!! You can make it through this. We are all here to support you :)


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Jerry-so glad you're okay. And you're right....we are given only what we can handle. And the saying is so true...."that which doesn't kill us makes us STRONGER". I'm glad you are staying here with us!

Gayle
 
Jerry,

It takes a big man (person!) to admit when they have done or said something that they later regret.

I'm sorry that you are going through all this right now, but, please remember how far you've come.

I'm glad that you reconsided and are staying on here. Keep giving us your unique point of view!:) And, hopefully, you can find some support here from us!

Take care.
 
Jerry,
Some word of wisdom on of the wisest men on TV, Red Green:
"Remember, I'm pulling for you. We're all in this together." ;-)
 
>Jerry,
>Some word of wisdom on of the wisest men on TV, Red Green:
>"Remember, I'm pulling for you. We're all in this together."
>;-)

I LOVE Red Green!!!

That had to be a hard post to write Jerry. I'm so sorry to hear about all you are going through - (((HUGS))).
 
Jerry,
Glad you reconsidered! I love reading your posts. Glad to have you back and I'll be keeping you in my prayers.

Diane
 
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