Pentagenarians & Beyond: September 28, 2025
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Peaceful Rainbow
Cathlete
Wanted to get back to heavier weights, so my go to for that is STS, so I can work back up. Today I did a Live Mixed Hiit and STS 1.
Us kids really have no control over either of them. She still does what she feels like doing, Dad has no real power over her and is a peacekeeper. And he will not listen to us in regards to them moving to a better situation. He's all we're okay here, and they just got a ramp. Right, so the fact that he's exhausting himself doing everything, and that's with things sliding and not being cleaned, because she can only help very minimally. He's even making her coffee most of the time now. And honestly part of that is that she likes being waited on. They at least need someone in to clean and shop, but neither of them and especially her, want people in the house. Her parents were the same way. I have freely stated that if someone wants to cook and clean for me, I'm all in, it's just not in my budget. LOL It's predicted to be a hard winter and he's determined to clean the drive himself. We can't get through to him that if he injures himself and can't take care of her even short term, that's she's out of there, because none of us can take care of her, and I don't think she'd let us. Okay venting over!
It's another beautiful day here in drought land. We may not get rain, I'm convinced there's an umbrella over my yard, but we've gotten extra sunshine.
Us kids really have no control over either of them. She still does what she feels like doing, Dad has no real power over her and is a peacekeeper. And he will not listen to us in regards to them moving to a better situation. He's all we're okay here, and they just got a ramp. Right, so the fact that he's exhausting himself doing everything, and that's with things sliding and not being cleaned, because she can only help very minimally. He's even making her coffee most of the time now. And honestly part of that is that she likes being waited on. They at least need someone in to clean and shop, but neither of them and especially her, want people in the house. Her parents were the same way. I have freely stated that if someone wants to cook and clean for me, I'm all in, it's just not in my budget. LOL It's predicted to be a hard winter and he's determined to clean the drive himself. We can't get through to him that if he injures himself and can't take care of her even short term, that's she's out of there, because none of us can take care of her, and I don't think she'd let us. Okay venting over!
It's another beautiful day here in drought land. We may not get rain, I'm convinced there's an umbrella over my yard, but we've gotten extra sunshine.
I did yoga/mobility for 20 minutes this morning.
Cathy, nice job with Live Mixed Hiit and STS 1. It’s unfortunate that your parents won’t accept someone coming in to help clean occasionally. It’s impossible to do everything around the house and function as the primary caregiver.
Hello to Valerie and Judy. Have a wonderful day.
Cathy, nice job with Live Mixed Hiit and STS 1. It’s unfortunate that your parents won’t accept someone coming in to help clean occasionally. It’s impossible to do everything around the house and function as the primary caregiver.
Hello to Valerie and Judy. Have a wonderful day.
Traildoggie
Cathlete
+we did a park walk this morning for 1 hr 15min about 3 miles. our usual one.
cathy that totally sucks. your father is really in a bad spot. some kind of medical crisis forces change and not always smoothly. can he order groceries online for pick up? even have them delivered? does he do yard work too? is becoming one of those "something's got to give situations". the worse it gets the more people can dig in and refuse to change. keeping a reasonably clean and organized house is necessary for health and safety for both of them. would it be hard to find a cleaning person to come in and do minimal cleaning on a trial basis? do they qualify for any kind of government program for home health aide assistance?
my sister is doing the same thing. she cant live where and how she does. her house is a pig pen, she cant drive, cant use a cell phone, no computer and wont learn. she needs to sell the house ( she would need assistance to do that) and move into government assisted living space but she wont. I cut off phone calls from her several weeks ago and said i will order things she needs but she will have to write a list and mail it to me. not listening to her rude obnoxious calls anymore. she refuses to listen to reason or take any action.
sometimes it takes some kind of accident or health crisis to force people to do what needs to be done. her dementia makes this all worse. sorry...you know all that. not always possible to make people do what they need to do.
cathy that totally sucks. your father is really in a bad spot. some kind of medical crisis forces change and not always smoothly. can he order groceries online for pick up? even have them delivered? does he do yard work too? is becoming one of those "something's got to give situations". the worse it gets the more people can dig in and refuse to change. keeping a reasonably clean and organized house is necessary for health and safety for both of them. would it be hard to find a cleaning person to come in and do minimal cleaning on a trial basis? do they qualify for any kind of government program for home health aide assistance?
my sister is doing the same thing. she cant live where and how she does. her house is a pig pen, she cant drive, cant use a cell phone, no computer and wont learn. she needs to sell the house ( she would need assistance to do that) and move into government assisted living space but she wont. I cut off phone calls from her several weeks ago and said i will order things she needs but she will have to write a list and mail it to me. not listening to her rude obnoxious calls anymore. she refuses to listen to reason or take any action.
sometimes it takes some kind of accident or health crisis to force people to do what needs to be done. her dementia makes this all worse. sorry...you know all that. not always possible to make people do what they need to do.
Peaceful Rainbow
Cathlete
Just finished STS Disk 2. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger, right! LOL My Dad mentioned to my sister a few weeks ago about getting groceries delivered, but to I, the person who would have to help him set it up he's said nothing. He doesn't want to pay extra fees. Plus he's overly cautious about paying on line. The house hasn't reached the point where it smells, and it's not cluttered, so there's not an issue with them moving around, but things like sinks, toilets, tubs, really need someone else to do it, and they aren't inclined to let us help. So, we just sit and wait for the disaster to strike. We've stopped pushing Dad, because it just adds to his stress. OTOH he seems to grasp the situation, but he's also very firmly rooted in denial. They have a kid who mows the yard and he fills the bird feeders when he's there and I do it when I go. The ground in the yard isn't completely level and Dad's balance can't deal with it. At least he knows that, and last week, he actually left the trash can out an extra day for me to bring in, and his cases of pop on the ramp railing. He often shops before I get there and if I catch him, I can take some stuff in, but he won't let me get it all. And I do love the food movement method. Mom gets stuff out of the fridge, sets it on her walker seat and takes it over to the table. She's a pro at moving things on her walker. Dad does it, too, but to a lesser extent.
This morning I did Rev’d Up Rumble, 41 minutes, 288 calories, 137, calories burned, average heart rate 137, and maximum heart rate 163.
Cathy, great job with STS disc 2. Your parents seem to have a workable situation going for now.
Valerie, nice job with your park walk.
Hello to Judy.
Cathy, great job with STS disc 2. Your parents seem to have a workable situation going for now.
Valerie, nice job with your park walk.
Hello to Judy.
irongrl
Cathlete
Yesterday I went for a short walk with my husband and did 30 minutes of Peloton strength work. Today I did a 30 minute Peloton ride and 10 minutes of upper body work. I plan on going to the chiropractor tomorrow so that will probably be a rest day.
Cathy-Great job with Live Mixed HiiT and the STS workouts.
Carolyn-Great job with Rev’d Up Rumble.
Valerie-Great job with your park walk.
Cathy-Great job with Live Mixed HiiT and the STS workouts.
Carolyn-Great job with Rev’d Up Rumble.
Valerie-Great job with your park walk.
Traildoggie
Cathlete
did 20 min spin indoors yesterday and therapy. today we did a 15 mile ride on our regular trail. tomorrow i see the doctor about my back which is getting worse. some days are really rough because i cant get in a comfortable position no matter what i do. including pain patches and back brace. im very afraid i will need more surgery, or even worse, that nothing more can be done.