OT: Crappy week :(

berry99

berry99

Cathlete
Wow, this has been a week of pretty bad news. Earlier in the week I found out that one of my friends has been diagnosed with Hodgkin's disease and is going to have to undergo chemotherapy. Then today I find out that my 8 month pregnant (second child) friend's husband has been having an affair since September. I am really sad for my friends and don't really know what to do for either of them.

Karin
 
Oh Karin! I am so sorry.

The best you can do I think is just be there for them. You might want to do some internet research on Hodgkin's for your friend so you can help her to ask good questions of her doctors and so forth. It would also be helpful for you to know what to expect. I would check the websites for some of the better known hospitals, as they usually have excellent information.

Best wishes,
Nancy
 
Hi, Karin - Nancy is right. Just be there for them and help in whatever way they might request. My friend's mother recently died, and on the day she passed away, I just went over to her house and sat with her. She simply did not want to be alone. Sometimes we talked, sometimes she slept, but she just needed someone there. For these people, knowing a friend is there is the best help they can have.
 
Oh Karin...I am so with you on this journey. A good friend of mine recently discovered her H was unfaithful too and it's been horrible. Then last weekend a friend of my son commited suicide...a 15 yo boy.

Life can be very challenging and when that happens all we can do is take one day at a time, seriously. Time does heal most wounds but it's getting there that really s*cks.
 
Just letting you know I'm also thinking of your friends. You're concern shows you are a good friend, and I agree, just be there for them.
 
I'm sorry for your bad week. This week has been bad at work. My supervisor miscarried on Wednesday ( she was so exicted about this baby) and the program director's mother died today. I'm just keeping everyone in my thoughts and prayers and counting my blessings.
Lorrie
 
Karin:

Sorry to hear about this. Maybe you can spend some time helping your friends with housework or doing their laundry or preparing some food or something. (Or if they have young kids, maybe babysitting time?) I do hope it all works out for you all.

Hang in there.

Marie
 
For your friend diagnosed with Hodgkins I would say that being there is the best thing you can do. My brother has been fighting cancer for a year now and I don't think I can stress how much he appreciates knowing that the people who love him are there, always with positive things to say. My neighbor's daughter had Lymphoma and was absolutely heartbroken when people stopped coming around because they seemed uncomfortable, not knowing how to behave around her.

As for your other friend, I know what I'd personally like to do to her husband! Poor thing!!! I suppose just being there to listen would help.
 
Hey Karin, My brother in law has Hodgkins disease. He's been going through chemo for about two months. His treatments have be going wonderful. He hasn't been sick nor has he lost his hair. They made him go for a test to make sure it was working since he was doing so well. He was also in stage 3b when they found it. I'm going to pray that your friends treatments go like his. You just need to be supportive and let them know that you love them and that helps more than anything just knowing someone is by their side.

Farrah
 
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