>I had definitely planned on getting the kitty de-clawed (and
>nuetered, of course), mostly b/c of the dogs & especially b/c
>of Max (pugs have such big eyes & it seems like he'd be so
>exposed!). I'd never heard de-clawing was a bad thing--why
>should I not do it? Give me a good enough reason & I'll start
>manicuring both Max & the cat.
Unfortunately, people have come to think of declawing as just a simple operation. I'm appalled by how many people come to the shelter looking for a cat, and one of the first things they mention is declawing. I ask them why they want to do it, and most have no other reason than "it will be an indoor cat." And so?
Declawing is not as simple as it sounds: it is not just 'removing a nail," but the amputation of the first joint of the finger. Many cats at the shelter who are declawed have deformed (IMO) paws, not the pretty natural paws they were meant to have.
Also, though many cats who are declawed seem to suffer no ill effects, some do, including nerve damage, phantom pain, behavioral problems (quite a few become biters, because their 'warning system" has been removed. And if you see the pain they are in immediately after the operation, and a few days after, and you recognize that pain, you, like a friend of mine, might vow to never declaw again.
Here's one site with some info:
http://www.declawing.com/ It is from a vet who is opposed to declawing. There aren't a lot of them yet (because they make money on it), but there is a growing movement of vets who are opposed to it and are hoping to make it illegal.
ETA: I just recalled that you are in a higher income bracket than I am, and a rather fashion-conscious person. An alternative to declawing is to have caps placed on kitty's claws (this has to be redone every few weeks? months? I've never considered it, so I didn't pay attention). The caps come in a variety of colors, so you can change the color each time, or maybe even mix colors!