>Janice -
>
>I have to say that I'm impressed at how you've managed to come
>up with several solutions, and not once have you caved in to
>the "Well, you might want to re-evalute your relationship"
>statements. I was a bit shocked at that people seemed to
>think you guys should break up! You're absolutely right when
>you say that no marriage is perfect. Heck, you're two
>individuals trying to live together. There will be days when
>you look at the man sitting across the table and wonder what
>the heck you were thinking in marrying him. There will be
>other days when you could not imagine life without him.
>That's normal. Sounds like you have a lot in common and these
>two issues will eventually get resolved, you just need to
>figure out what the resolution is. Also sounds as if you may
>have written your first post when you were frustrated. I
>think you've been given several good solutions. And in fact
>because you're willing to talk about things and seek
>resolutions, I think you two will do well. Kudos for you.
Christine, very nicely and wisely said. I was thinking the same thing myself. No marriage is perfect, no husband (or wife) a saint. Janice, your DH may have some maturity issues regarding money but it's clear from your posts that that is not all that he is...there's also a lot of love between you two and I commend you for dealing with these issues and trying to figure them out.
Sparrow
My garden is filled with papayas and mangos
My life is a mixture of reggaes and tangos
Taste for the good life, I can live it no other way
- Jimmy Buffett
>
>I have to say that I'm impressed at how you've managed to come
>up with several solutions, and not once have you caved in to
>the "Well, you might want to re-evalute your relationship"
>statements. I was a bit shocked at that people seemed to
>think you guys should break up! You're absolutely right when
>you say that no marriage is perfect. Heck, you're two
>individuals trying to live together. There will be days when
>you look at the man sitting across the table and wonder what
>the heck you were thinking in marrying him. There will be
>other days when you could not imagine life without him.
>That's normal. Sounds like you have a lot in common and these
>two issues will eventually get resolved, you just need to
>figure out what the resolution is. Also sounds as if you may
>have written your first post when you were frustrated. I
>think you've been given several good solutions. And in fact
>because you're willing to talk about things and seek
>resolutions, I think you two will do well. Kudos for you.
Christine, very nicely and wisely said. I was thinking the same thing myself. No marriage is perfect, no husband (or wife) a saint. Janice, your DH may have some maturity issues regarding money but it's clear from your posts that that is not all that he is...there's also a lot of love between you two and I commend you for dealing with these issues and trying to figure them out.
Sparrow
My garden is filled with papayas and mangos
My life is a mixture of reggaes and tangos
Taste for the good life, I can live it no other way
- Jimmy Buffett