nervous about pregnancy

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tinytaebo2

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I am new to this forum, but have been reading so many helpful bits of information that I thought I would relay my fears to anyone who can help.
I had a miscarriage two months ago, and am now pregnant again. I believe that I am only 3 weeks at the most, but I'm sooooo scared. It will, God willing, be our first child. I'm just so nervous to do anything, as I lost the last one 4 weeks into my pregnancy. I attributed the loss to my vigorous exercise routine, but we'll never know exactly what happened. I just would like to know how long I can exercise for, as I'm used to hour long intense cardio workouts. What kind of weight workout can I do?
I know that worrying can't help anything, and is probably the worst thing I could do. So if anyone could tell me what to expect in the first 2-3 months, as far as mild symptoms of pregnancy goes, I would certainly appreciate it! I just want to know that the baby is doing well.
Thank you for your indulgence
 
Hi Tiny Taebo2, its very normal to be nervous after a miscarriage. Although its not unusual to have a miscarriage, its very unusual to have more than one. I wanted to share info I received from more than one specialist - There is absolutely NO KNOWN LINK between exercise and miscarriage unless you are doing something like jumping out of planes or having bone breaking skiing accidents. An hour of two of intense exercise would not cause a miscarriage.

I know that its normal to try to find a reason for loss, but with miscarriges, the reason is almost never known, and its little understood. Please find a doctor you are comfortable with and discuss this issue with them, it will most likely make you feel a little more comfortable.

Hoping everything goes well for you,
Lynn
 
I know EXACTLY how you feel. I suffered 2 miscarriages before delivering a healthy baby boy. Miscarriages are especially painful because of all the planning and excitement and future visions that come with the pregnancy. After becoming pregnant the first time my dr. advised me to continue my regimen which at that time I taught step and aerobics at an advance level. Unfotunately, I miscarried at 10 wks. The second time I became pregnant, fearing that the regimen was the culpit, I stopped teaching and literally became sedantary, didn't even want to walk. Only to lose that pregnancy too at 10 wks. There are really no known reasons since the baby is so small at that stage. And the Dr. won't recommend further testing until after a 3rd miscarriage. Nonetheless, I need to know what "went wrong". I tried my body like a temple and it was not responding the way I wanted it to. So my husband and I had our chromosomes check without our dr. recommending it and I had a complete physical including checking my thyroid. All came back normal. Three months later, I became pregnant again. VERY VERY scary. The only thing I did do differently was that in order to ensure that I was getting all my vitamins, I began taking Centrum before "trying" and continued until my 16th week once I found out I was pregnant. There's nothing better than peace of mind, so I did not exercise until my 16th week and stayed active thereafter until 2 hrs. prior to my first contraction. It was not a smooth ride since I began bleeding around my 10th week again. My heart is with you.
 
Hello,

I know where you are coming from. I too had a miscarriage - at 14 weeks. It was traumatic for me as it is for anyone who experiences this. I highly recommend that you purchase "Exercising Through Your Pregnancy" by Dr. James Clapp. Reading this book will empower you with the knowledge that you need and will help allay your fears regarding exercise and pregnancy. You can purchase it on the internet at most all of the online bookstores.

Good luck and welcome to our forum family.

Sheila Watkins
 
Thank you for your suggestion regarding the book. As soon as I feel "out of the woods", so to speak, I will read it. Yesterday I had quite a scare at work. I became INCREDIBLY parched, and I couldn't seem to drink enough water to quench my thirst. I also became quite jittery. It had been probably five hours since I had eaten anything, and I was doing a very stressful job in which I rarely get a chance to sit down. I'm an optician for Costco Wholesale, so I'm serving the public( a very needy public from a well-to-do area). I'm hoping that these are the reasons that I was feeling so thirsty and jittery- low blood sugar and stress. The reason I was so scared is that when I had my miscarriage I experienced the same parched feeling the day before it happened. The only difference is that I had pain in my lower right side last time. I have no pain this time, and no spotting. But I don't know why I was so over-heated. It felt as though one could fry an egg on my face- it was beet red. One other thing is that my sleeping pattern has dissipated. I wake up at four or five every moring, regardless of what time I go to sleep. As I'm writing this to you, I'm feeling very jittery again. If you have any suggestions, I'd love to hear. Thanks,Alicia
 
Lynn,
Thank you for your letter. Although I know in my mind that we will never know the reasons for the miscarriage, and that hopefully it was a fluke, it's nice to be reminded every now and again. Your words really give me peace of mind, and I'm grateful. I still am playing it safe as far as exercise goes, so the most I'll so is 25 minutes on either my ski machin or exercise bike.
Anyhow, thanks again, and if you ever need any help, please let me return the favor.
With many thanks, tiny taebo2(Alicia)
 
Merie-
I'm so sorry to hear what you went through. Somebody once told me that you have to get through the bad to get to the good. I suppose they were right, because you have a beautiful son! I just keep reminding myself that my husband is the greatest thing ever to happen to me. If we are able to have this child, my life would be only that much more fulfilled. But if something goes wrong, which I'm sure it won't, I am sooooo happy with all that I have right now.
Yesterday, I was feeling very thirsty and could not seem to quench my thirst. I was also extremely jittery. I'm hoping that it's just because I hadn't eaten anything in about 5 hours, and had been working with a very demanding public nonstop for 4.
I've decided not to go to work today, and my manager is going to help me with a lighter schedule. Could stress harm the baby, even it's the same stress you've been dealing with for years?
Well Merie, Thank you for sharing your story with me. I'm glad to know that you have a wondreful son. Take good care!
Tiny taebo2(Alicia)
 
I just wanted to let you know that being thirsty could mean that your body is doing what it is suppose to do. I know that with all three of my pregnancy I had trouble getting enough to drink. It seemed to be a self defeating process at first. I would drink and pee, drink and pee. You know the routine. This pattern always seemed to be the worst during my first trimester. I also noticed that if I didn't listen to my body and drink like I should,( I am a teacher and running to the bathroom every 30 minutes really complicates life.) I would feel weak, shakey, nauseated, and headachy. All this to say that increased thirst is a sign that your body is doing what it is suppose to do. The first trimester is full of all kinds of strange feelings. Hang in there. wr
 
How are you doing today? Are you feeling better? I don't have anything to add, I just wanted to see how you were doing.
 
thanks for your concern

Jen,
Thank you for asking. I'm feeling much better today- not nearly as thirsty as the other day. You'd think I was living in the Sahara desert as thirsty as I was. So far, so good. I haven't had any bleeding, knock wood. I wonder if it's normal to not feel pregnant. Although earlier this afternoon I suddenly felt really warm, feverish almost. And then my throat started to feel strange. I felt fluish, but only for a few moments. I was hoping that it was a little morning sickness. I've never prayed so much for nausea in my life( even when I had a big math test at school the next day)!!!!
Well, I hope that all is well with you and this Email finds you in good spirits, as your concern has lifted mine! Thanks again!
Alicia
 
never getting quenched

Thank you for your input. It certainly makes me feel more at ease knowing that this is normal. I guess I'll go and drink another gallon of water, so that I can pee all night long! I hope that all is well with you, your family, and your students!
Alicia
 
RE: thanks for your concern

Hi Alicia! I'm so glad that you are finding comfort here with all of us. We may not always have all of the answers but we sure can offer one another a lot of support.

During my pregnancy, I always had strange symptoms for a few days and then nothing for a while. It was so confusing to me. I finally gave up trying to figure out what everything meant because as soon as I thought I had found the reason for the symptom, it dissappeared and a new one would arrive in a week or so. I'm not saying to ignore them, but just letting you know that I can relate to strange symptoms. I would suggest writing them all down and discussing them on your doctors visits(unless of course you feel it is something that needs immediate attention).

As for water and thirst, your body requires a lot of fluid to assist with thermal regulation and other daily body functions. Be sure to have at least 10 to 12 cups a day. And if you should decide to exercise, you need to get an additional 4 ounces of water for every 20 minutes of exercise. Take Care!
 
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