Need to vent- ignorant people

[kathryn]

>I sympathize with you. I'm really small and have dumbells
>going up to 30 lbs. I get annoyed to because people assume
>that the weights, barbells, smith machine, etc. are my dh's. I
>assure people, sometimes not so nicely that the equipment is
>all mine.
>
>I had one person ask me, but what could you possibly do with
>30 lb dumbells?

I'd counter by smiling sweetly and saying, "let me show you," promptly picking up my 30# dumbbell for a set of lat rows.;-)

 

[amynicole]

Thanks everyone, I KNEW I would get perspective on this here. By the way the second woman was overweight herself and has one child and complains she was thin before her child and can't lose it but does not workout. I would love to see her if she had 4 kids. This is my 4th child I am pregnant with in 6 years so my body has been through a LOT.

I am going to use those stupid comments to motivate me after. I told my husband (who is SO supportive and loves me and is attracted to me whether I weigh over 200 lbs or our marriage day weigh of 135) that after this baby girl is born I plan on getting in such good shape that people will look at me and be amazed I look so good and have 4 kids. Thats my ultimate goal to have someone say "My god, I can't believe you have 4 kids", and I WILL make that happen.

As for the gain, the REASON I was so overweight was that I gained 65 lbs EACH with my first 3 kids. I was thin before kids. I'm SO glad I lost that 50 before this pregancy. But that is why I am being so careful this time because I've made the 65 lbs mistake not once, not twice, but 3x in the past. Finally with number 4 I am gaining by the bok!!

Thanks again, reading these messages this morning cheered me up

Marci

 

[KarenL]

Hey.....I can understand what you must be feeling. Went through the same thing when my kids were small but I will say this........many years later and approaching 40 I am in the best shape of my life, thanks to Cathe. Don't sweat the small stuff. Just stayed focused and pretty soon they will be eating their words and asking you for fitness advice.

Best of luck to you and congratulations!!!!!!

Karen

 

[juli]

Hi Brie

I mainly use 1 at a time in Cathe's slow and heavy legs workout where she does the plie squats. On a really strong day I might do a few squats with 60 lbs but very rarely. I don't mind you guys asking what I would do with them since you can imagine the posiblities...;-) lol

edited to add I only do 1 set really heavy with the plie squats.

 

[juli]

Marci,

I bet you will look awesome, actually I bet you look pretty good now too. I like your attitude.

 

[kgravel]

Marci,

Well now you can look forward to the time when after you reach your goal and are totally ripped -- when these same people will sarcastically comment on your 'exercise obsession' or whether you have an eating disorder. LOL!

Really, whether you are 'in transit' or at your goal, there will always be the unfortunate nay-sayer. Remaining as gracious as you are, seems to be the only way to handle these unfortunate 'blips' on our radar. I know I get more mad at myself for sometimes letting them get me so ticked.

Best wishes to you & your family,
Kim

 

[amynicole]

LOL Kim, you are so right. When I was 135 (I'm 5'7) I was a runner and did not lift weights so my upper body was mushy and I was by NO means too thin but my family and some friends would comment I was too thin and was obsessed with running. I don't think running 5 miles 4x a week is obsessed!! I had forgotten about those comments until your post. Then as I gained, in addition to the ignorant comments I posted about, my family is the first to say how awful I look and how I have really let myself go and how large and fat I am. Hmm, there is a reason they live in Maryland and I live in NY- because they are not here!!

I think when you are overweight people comment and look down at you, and when you are fit and slim people comment out of jealousy. I have been both places before. I know I should just tune it out but still thoughtless people can be very cruel without even realizing how much their words hurt. Alhtough the two women I posted about I think were just being plain mean.