Need suggestions for my mother

elsie3

Cathlete
Hi guys, I just posted this in the VF forms, but wanted to put it here as well.

Help! I desperately need DVD recommendations for my mother. I need exercise and yoga/stretching that is ultra easy to follow.

I apologize for a long post, but some background is necessary to understand her needs.

My mother is going to be living with me, and I want to be able to help her. She is 78 years old, and has been in good health until the past couple of years. Because of mini-strokes caused by head trauma from various causes (car accidents, falls, etc), she has dementia. She had always been active, but because of deep-seeded beliefs about what females should and shouldn't do, she wouldn't do anything but walk--no stretching, no cross training, and she thinks that weight training for women is the ultimate evil of the universe. Consequently, she has horrible knees and had to have surgery for a torn meniscus (sp?). She's been dealing for years with dizziness, headaches, and neck/shoulder pain. Yes, she's been to a doctor and physical therapy--she refused to do the exercises. She was always a nutrition freak (we were raised on Adele Davis), and would never eat anything refined, because she has rheumatoid arthritis and refined foods greatly aggrivate the condition. But with her memory going, she's been downing treats like there's no tomorrow.

She's really gone downhill mentally and physically these past 2 years to the point that she doesn't do a thing for herself. I had her here at my home for the past 2 weeks. Because our new home is in a flat area (she's been living with my sister who lives on the side of a mountain), I took her walking every day. I insisted she do some yoga after each walk. She protested that she was too tired, but she declared how wonderful she felt afterward. She eats well if I make her food for her. She showed a lot of improvement mentally and physically while she was here.

I have some beginner yoga DVDs, but they move way too fast for her (she's never done anything like yoga before--even Susanne Deason's Stress Relief Yoga was too much). I think Kundalini Yoga would be terrific for her needs, but she can't begin to follow my Ravi/Ana DVDs. Also, anything mystical or new-agey will be a total turn-off. She can barely bend her knees while seated on the floor and is very inflexible. Her walking pace is slow, but her endurance is improving with activity. The two DVDs I found at the library to try were Gaiam's Mayo Clinic Arthritis with a yoga section by Rodney Yee, and Natural Journey's Stop Back Pain Now. She seemed to be able to handle those. I noticed that Leslie Sansone had a seniors workout. Could anyone review that one?

Again, sorry about the lengthy post. Any and all recommendations will be greatly appreciated.

elsie
 
Honestly? I'd be extremely nervous about someone that age beginning any kind of exercise routine without professional supervision. I think once she's been doing it for a few months it'd be OK for her to do it at home, but initially she really should be working w/a personal trainer. Do you have a yoga studio nearby? Maybe with a limited weekend membership or something to start her slowly & inexpensively?

Sorry, hope I'm not throwing a wet towel on your very excellent intentions. I'd just really hate to see her give it a try & end up in traction! :eek:

ETA: maybe your local YMCA has some senior yoga classes. Or your town's recreation center. Just a few more ideas.........
 
My suggestion would be Leslie Sansone. She is ultra-easy to follow. Start her off with an easy one-mile walk. Leslie also has a workout for seniors. There are workout dvd's for seniors that have them sitting in a chair. You can find them either on Amazon or Collage Video. Maybe get her little weights. If even that is too much or unacceptable to your mom, have her use soup cans.

Good luck taking care of mom...both physically and mentally.

ETA: I am with Laura for the yoga. I think a lot of yoga would be waaay too much for a 78 year old who has not been active. My local why has a group called the Silver Sneakers. It is made up of seniors who get together and exercise in classes. Your mom could also try swimming. That is easy on the joints.

Carrie
 
I would recommend

Debbie Sieber's has a new program out called:

Total Body Solution™ DVDLearn how fitness trainer Debbie Siebers, creator of Slim in 6®, recovers from her own aches, pains, and injuries. In Total Body Solution™ she'll show you how the right exercises can prevent and help heal injuries.

My Mom has been using them for a week now and told me she LOVES them! She also loves Debbie Siebers. She has the Slim in 6 and Slim Series workouts and they are great for her. She is 56 and has Fibroymyalgia.


Good luck to your Mom! How great of you to help her out!

Take care!
 
Hi Elsie,

Check out Peggy Cappy, "Yoga for the Rest of Us", for some info. http://www.peggycappy.com/

I haven't seen her DVD's, but I've seen a couple of shows on PBS about her and her classes. She does a lot with senior citizens, and the shows included interviews with them and how much yoga improved the quality of their lives.

Kudos to you for being so good to your Mom. :)

ETA - Cappy uses a lot of modifications in her classes for seniors. Yoga can be VERY accessible.
 
You're absolutely right, Laura. I just don't know if I can get her to go to a "class." I had to drag her protesting all the way to physical therapy last year, and she utterly refused to do any of the exercises. A few years ago, we had her in with a personal trainer, but that didn't last very long. But I'll check out the Community Center here. I just wish she'd consent to visit my other sister--she's a certified Yoga/Pilates instructor and teaches a Silver Sneakers class. Oh well!

Thanks for your replies, guys. Keep 'em coming. I'll concentrate on something like Leslie Sansone and more gentle stretching than yoga.

Elsie
 
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LOL! I have a dad who's the same way. But when he found out he could meet people, expand his horizons a little & have some fun he gradually came around. Maybe if you present it as a social occasion instead of physical activity it'll be more appealing to her? :)

Good luck--you're right to make the effort, it's so important on so many levels, & a really nice way to show your mom how much you care.
 
Gosh, I'm with Laura on this one. My mother in law is 78 and was just diagnoised with lung cancer (terminal). Before the diagnoisis she would take walks and just do some swimming in the pool. Honestly, if she's to tired I wouldn't push her. I say the best thing you could do is take her on a daily walk and cook for her so she can eat right. Maybe even stock her fridge or yours if she's living with you with only healthy food. Maybe get a dog, . .so she can have some companionship and take walks everyday. Walking counts as excersize it doesn't have to be a class or video and it will give the both of you a chance to get to talk to each other and just hang out.
 
I wonder if you sent an email to Collage Video or if you called them they might give you some better ideas than we can come up with?

I have the Yoga Zone's Stretching for Flexibility http://www.amazon.com/Yoga-Zone-Str..._bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=dvd&qid=1223313664&sr=8-1 which moves relatively slowly. It looks like Yoga Zone has a few other beginner workouts.

I also bought "Power Yoga for Every Body" about a year ago and watched it once; it has loads of modifications but I didn't enjoy it. Wonder if your mom might. They have the modifiers using a chair so it doesn't seem like the "power yoga" will necessarily involve supporting her entire body weight. http://www.amazon.com/Power-Every-W...ef=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=dvd&qid=1223313771&sr=1-1

If you're going to try more DVDs, though, I suggest calling Collage and seeing what they have to say. HTH
 
Gosh, I'm with Laura on this one. My mother in law is 78 and was just diagnoised with lung cancer (terminal). Before the diagnoisis she would take walks and just do some swimming in the pool. Honestly, if she's to tired I wouldn't push her. I say the best thing you could do is take her on a daily walk and cook for her so she can eat right. Maybe even stock her fridge or yours if she's living with you with only healthy food. Maybe get a dog, . .so she can have some companionship and take walks everyday. Walking counts as excersize it doesn't have to be a class or video and it will give the both of you a chance to get to talk to each other and just hang out.

I agree with every word of this!

When my mother was 73, she moved into a new condo after a lifetime in a house. She was getting depressed and was completely unmotivated to get out and meet people. I got her a dog( knowing I could end up with the dog in my own home). The dog changed my mother's life. My mother complained a little at first, but when I offered to take the dog back, she wouldn't give her up. The dog was someone to care for and walk. Someone depended on her and my mother needed that.

As it turned out the dog was great for my mother and her aging neighbors. Her next door neighbor was 90 years old, knocked on my mother's door one day asking if she could take her dog(Lacey) for a walk. My mom met so many friends walking her dog. When my mother passed, one of the women in her condo begged me to let her keep my mother's dog. I did:)
I'm always amazed by the power of healing an animal can bring.
 
Another idea

I recommend the Conductorcise workouts. They are workouts led by David Dworkin, a classical conductor. You wave your arms around in time to classical music. You can do them seated or standing, and can add more energy depending on how energetic you feel, bouncing or even adding little jumps if you like. The class behind him has both seniors and younger people of various shapes and sizes. The music is enjoyable and it doesn't feel like a hardcore workout. This might appeal to your mother.

There are three DVDs available. You can get more info at http://www.conductorcise.com/, or collage has the first two DVDs. (Remember that you can return them within 30 days at Collage if you don't like them.)

I bought this for my MIL and my grandmother, and they both really liked it. I watched it myself, and it seems like fun. You can even buy a baton at the conductorcise website (click on "marketplace")

Hope that helps...good luck with helping your mother. (I wish I could help mine....she refuses to do any activity at all, even walking!) You are doing a wonderful thing for her!
 

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