need some advice

[lesliemarie]

We had this kitten for two weeks. my daughter came home from school, came through the garage door. She shut the door and came in the house, the last thing she knew was the kitten was on the steps by the kitchen door, I went out about half hour later and saw the kitten smashed in the door and dead. she went postal and screamed and cried and yelled that she hated her self, I told her it was just an accident. She is calming down some but very depressed about it.
My question is this, should I get another kitten to help ease her pain?

 

[Maximus]

Oh Leslie that is just horrible! Maybe a different pet? Like a puppy or a hamster? So it wouldn't be a reminder..........

 

[kimmie2191]

I would wait a little while before I gave her another kitten. Not because your daughter would not take care of it but because she needs to get her grieve about this kitten out of her system so to speak. Then ask her if she would like another kitten and then let her choose one.

Hope things get better soon.

Kim

 

[jdoll]

OMG! i don't have any advice, but i am so sorry that happend. i hope your daughter feels better soon.



jes

 

[MarlaGaz]

Oh my gosh, LeslieMarie! How awful! I'm SO SORRY that happened. Your poor daughter.

Have you brought up the idea of a new kitten to your her?

 

[merrybaker]

Oh I'm so sorry . We are a pet family .Our Cat of 11 years died last x-mas. Anyhow no new kitten here yet., I'm grieving still.. But I say grieve for a short time as you only had the kitty a short time !!! Like I think maybe The Easter Bunny could bring one since he heard about the sad story Hint Hint

 

[MarlaGaz]

I met a guy recently (while on vacation) who had a 9-week old black lab puppy. Naturally, I asked if I could please pet his little puppy -- she was SO adorable.

He told me he had just gotten her because his 10-month old black lab had been bitten by a snake and died. He and his wife were absolutely devastated. He said their home had a huge hole in it and he couldn't take it, so they went in search of another ... and this little puppy sure lifted their spirits. OMG! SO cute!

I know this is a tricky situation, but perhaps getting a little furball soon would really help.

I hope she's okay soon.

 

[Bobbi]

I think it would help too. My daughter lost her cat to an owl and she was heart-broken so we went and adopted a new one.
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[dlavie]

On a different side...

You need to get that garage door repaired if it's an automatic. there's supposed to be a reverse switch that stops things like this. Next time it might be a person.

Dave

 

[lorajc]

My opinion is to get her another one. Whenever I lose one of my cats, it really helps ease my pain. I also grieve for the loss of my prior pet, but it really helps bring new found joy into the home and take your mind off of it. I am so sorry this happened.

 

[JAFitMama]

I agree with getting a new kitten, but ask your daughter.

Our cat was run over by a hit and run driver and we didn't know for two days. On the day we found out i called DH to let him know and he came home with two black kittens. They helped ease our sadness. We will always remember our first Bella Gato though.
Judy
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[toastythemosty]

Getting her another one would really make her feel better. I know when our dog of 10 years died, we felt so much better when we got a new puppy. It just help so much with our grieving. JMHO.

Charlotte~~

 

[kathryn]

I would wait for a while before gettiing a new kitten. Depending on your daughter's age. If she's young, getting one too quicklyn might give her the impression that cats are just interchangeable.

First, get that garage door addition that someone else mentioned. I'd hate to have this happen to another animal.

Meanwhile, maybe you could go with your daughter to a local animal shelter and get to know some animals there (I don't know how your shelter is set up, but mine is great: there are three different cat rooms--one for adults, one for "juvies" and one for kittens--and you can go in and interact with the animals.)

 

[ZT27]

Or you could get an "older" kitten where she can see the kitten better? Little kittens are hard to spot at times. See if you can get 6 months or older. Might work better. I agree with Kathryn, I'd wait on it and fix the door, etc first.

 

[candi]

I think Kathryn's advice is outstanding.

 

[67firecracker]

That's just nasty. It never ceases to amaze me how some animals can live through almost anything and some go so easily. That's really sad.
I'd ask her and let her decide. She'll know whether she wants to risk another kitten now or in a bit or whether a guinea pig or a guppy or whatever would be better.
I read this last night and you and your daughter came to my mind several times during the evening and night - it's a terrible thing to have happened.

Trish

 

[lesliemarie]

My daughter is a little better, at least she smiled this morning, was so good to see that, she was so hysterical when it happened, and then she went kind of catatonic there for awhile, had me so worried.
I am going to hold off till she feels ready for another kitten. I got her to play with her hamster and then play fetch with the dog but was so uninterested in playing with animals last night.
I had hubby fix the door so something like this doesn't happen again. She said she was so worried because I had my show dog in the back yard because I was breeding her and didn't want to breed her that day, and she didn't want her to get out, and she saw the kitten on the step and thought she was still there. I just wish I would have gone out earlier to throw away trash and I might have saved the kittens life, I am so kicking myself for this accident.

 

[LaGuapa]

Ugh, how horrible. It brings back my worst memory ever - I had a three month old kitten that I loved so much when I was 12 years old. We lived out in the country and I was mowing the lawn with our huge sit-down lawnmower. Well, you can guess what happened. I can't even write about it without getting upset.

I was traumatized and guilt ridden. It just took time to get over it. My parents were so supportive, which helped immensely. I didn't want another cat for a long time. I knew it was an accident, but I felt terrible.

Of course, I got another cat a couple of years later and my neighbor ran him over when he was 6 months old. That was it for me and cats!

Anyway, your daughter will be ok. After awhile it will fade into a bad memory. Just keep telling her that it was an accident, but don't make light of her guilt. Tell her it's natural to feel that way, but that accidents happen and that it doesn't make her a bad person.

I feel so sorry for her.