need help

[stayfit]

I need help. I feel unhappy because I have started in a new job this monday and I do not like it. I have changed my work to go to this new job because I thought there will be a good ambients betewen the work partners but my two work partners talk about the other very bad. I have a job with responsability but my boss does not help me teaching me what I have and how I have to do my work. I am feeling so depreesived that I am always thinking about to eat ice creams and junkie food. This habit, eat when you are sad, maked me be an overweight person two years ago. Help me, I do not want to come back to be overweight again.I had so much hopes in this job. Now I gain more money in this job but I want to cry.

 

[Kathy02]

Well, IMO, I think that maybe you need to give the job a little more time. Maybe the partners are just having a bad week and that they will get over the negative stuff.
As far as teaching goes, maybe you need to sit down with you boss and explain politely, of course, that you need their help to learn what it is that you have to do or you can't do your job as well as you would like to.
As far as wanting to eat ice cream all the time, maybe you could just do KPC and kick the crap out of the air in your living room. That always makes me feel better! Or maybe just vent to some of your friends about the bad day that you had. I know that I have to do that from time to time.
Maybe if you're that frustrated after a couple more weeks start searching around for another job. Of course, maybe not on your computer at work, but at home when you are done with work you can do a search on the web and see what's out there that you might be interested in.
Good luck to you!

Kathy

 

[stayfit]

Thank you I am very thankful for your counsel.I am a public official in my country and tht is the reason because I will always have a safe job. I can come back to the job I have left before this. I am going to follow your counsel. I am going to try to talk with my boss and wait two week. Maybe the situation will change but if the situation won't change I am going to think about to come back to my previous job. Thank you very much.

 

[faiza]

Hi Stayfit!

I'm a little late in responding to this since I have been away from the forums for some time.

I know how you feel! I would definitely suggest keeping lines of communication open between you and your new boss. Let him know that you want to give your job a 100% effort (like your Cathe workouts ;-)) but that you cannot do it without his help. If that doesn't work then just start looking for another job; something suitable will come up though it might take a while.

As far as junk food cravings & bingeing, they are quite normal for many individuals (me included ) during high stress and can really take a toll on your energy reserves which in turn impact your ability to manage the stress you are under. I suggest using your workouts (Cathe workouts preferred }() to sweat the stress off instead of letting it make you feel down and causing you to inhale the contents of your refrigerator. I used to overeat whenever a stressful event hit home and packed on a lot of pounds from doing so but have learned over the last couple of years that whatever is bothering me remains unchanged even after I have consumed a thousand empty calories. Except after the binge, I still have the stressor in my life and clothes that won't fit! And all the excess sugar or salt from typically favorite binge foods like ice cream, chips, or pizza would leave me feeling moody and irritable. But exercise does wonders for stress. An intense workout helps me feel more grounded and I find myself dealing with rough times with a more positive attitude and better focus.

Hope this helps!

Take good care
Faiza

 

[CathydsRNA]

Hi Stayfit,
Any change can be stressful. Realize that changing a job involves not only new responsibilities and new learning curves but new relationships and new environments. That's alot of adjusting to do. You might be interpreting this stress as depression. Try to remain positive and focus on your job and your goals and accomplishments. As one of the posters above stated...maybe the complaining co-worker had a stressful week. Try not to get sucked into any negative conversations. Give your job at least a month before you come to any conclusions. One ice cream won't hurt!!! Celebrate your new job and new attidtude to your job and then go kick some butt with KPC. Good luck and keep us posted.

 

[stayfit]

Thank you. All of you are a big help to me. The cathe forums are full of awesome people very positive and with sincere desires to help when somebody needs suport.Thank you very much.

 

[stayfit]

Thank you very much Faiza you are so right. Today I have done the bonus of the dvd with ME and bootcamp and I feel better.cathe is incredible. I was so depressived during all this week, The week I have started in the new job, and Cathe has maked me smiled.cathe is the best antidote against the sadness. I am sure Cathe will be so proud if she would know the good she does.you said the truth when you say the junky food is not going to help. I can not allow this makes me to lose the control. Faiza you have been very sincere and tender. Thank you very much.

 

[faiza]

Hello again Stayfit!

You are most welcome; it was my pleasure!

I am so happy you are feeling better. And you said it best. . . .Cathe truly is the best antidote for feeling down. I feel so lucky to have her as my personal trainer (on DVD ). Every so often I forget how wonderful and powerful and strong I feel after I workout with her and then I find myself more enabled to deal with things that are not going my way.

And yes, you are right, she must feel proud for being such a healthy and positive influence in our lives.

Take good care and keep smiling ;-)
Faiza-

 

[stayfit]

Thank you Faiza you are an angel.See my smile.