Reba, I thought you in particular did a very nice job dissenting and being unjudgemental and very kind. Which is why when I mentioned karma, I winked. Knowing that Amy has such a good heart, I have no doubt that she should be the ricipient of very good karma! I hope that didn't strike you as a dig. It was not my intention. Some of the posts, did indeed take Amy's situation persoanally as was pointed out. It is quite natural. I have sisters. I know how that is. My crack about co-dependancy was born the idea that Amy's sister desperately needed Amy's houses and would suffer dreadfully if Am could not be convinced of that. I do not believe that to be true obviously. I think Amy would regret being pressed to do something her heart tells her not to. I also took exception to the idea that Amy's sister should never speak to her again should she say no. I have a big, often dysfuncitonal family, inclined enabling and up until recently we have all managed to conflict and remain close knit and on speaking terms. I won't go into that but I feel very deeply that under no circumstances, barring the extreme, do families ever need to break off commnications over such matters. Good communications and boundaries ensure that.

I apologize to you if I made you feel I was directing my comments at you. I admittedly have a very big mouth but it was not my intention to hurt your feelings. I thought your posts were nice and you do not stike me as judgemtal or presumtuous. You were very clear that you would do it differently and mentioned you sister directly. I thought of few of the posts had a nasty tone. Yours did not!
Edited to say: Rereading, I feel I should have clairified that you from the start, that I was not directing my comments to you, Reba. The fact that you came back, worried that you had offended speaks volumes. Again, you did not.

Please forgive me if I seemed to be giving you a hard time.
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