My Next Door Neighbour!

lorihart

Cathlete
Everyone thnking that I am in a fight with my neighbour? Nope not that case.I have been thinking about her alot over the last 24 hours, mainly b/c I know that she is very depressed and overweight.
They moved next door about 2 years ago, and she is a very big lady.She looks like she may be getting bigger.Her and her husband have only been married for a couple of years (if that).She is a very friendly lady and can chat up a storm.But it saddens me to know how many people are so sad inside but they never betray it outside.What ever happens behind closed doors, we are better off not knowing.
She recently started college and my bosses daugther is in her class.Which is great b/c I think she found a friend. She tells Jill about how she thinks her MIL doesn't like her and she even thinks that her husband doesn't like her.I think she is a very insecure person b/c she thinks no one likes her.She called Jill last night crying and she wanted to go out for coffee.
Bottom line....she is a very big women,Im thinking 300+,her husband is not happy with her recent weight gain (she was always big but never like this)neither is she and she doesn't know where to start.I feel so bad for her b/c she probably feels like the whole world is against her and no doubt she turns to food for comfort.
I would love to be able to help her but I wouldn't know how to go about it.And if nothing else,it seems like she needs some friends.
Its just so sad!
Lori
 
Why don't you knock on her door and invite her for coffee? She may jsut need some general support and friendship to get started. Once you become more friendly with her, you can then educate her on your fitness experiences or maybe even offer to go walking with her or something!

I remember when I was overweight (100+ lost 8 years ago) and it was not a very happy time in my life. It is hard. Nothing fits, clothes are ugly, self esteem declines, etc. The more you think the people around you are annoyed or don't care, the worse it seems. She might not have the inner strength to do it alone or might just need to be reminded that someone out there (someone tangible, like her neighbor or friend) was successful!

Christine
 
Lori,

I think it's wonderful that you have such compassion for this woman and I think the advice you've been given so far is very good. Just keep in mind that morbid obesity of this magnitude usually stems from more than just overeating and not exercising. It could be she is suffering from an emotional trauma and her weight issues are a symptom. At any rate, offering friendship should help.:)
 
I can't see why anyone would think you're fighting with your neighbor, Lori. Sounds to me like you're very concerned about her and want to help her out. And you've been given the best advice on that, invite her over for a cup of coffee and hopefully you two will be able to strike up something...she needs someone not just to get her out for a walk. She needs someone who cares...I'm with the poster (I'm sorry, I don't recall your name) who mentioned morbid obesity. This lady's very life is on the line and she needs a good friend...and I think she lives next door (Lori!).

Good luck and let us know how things go.
 

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