Hi Maximus, I've never seen your photos but I have read some of your comments and you've always sounded very informed and as though you know what your doing and what your talking about. Don't let this person kill your confidence in your healthy, strong and I'm sure very nice looking body. You know the other day on the Oprah show they were talking about young girls and they're images of themselves. Something that stuck with me was "Shame does not bring Change." I thought, you that's right you can't shame anyone into making long lasting good changes about themselves and I'm not saying that you need to. Like I said you probably look great!! But this guy needs to change his tactic if he wants to get clients. He was just looking for your money. His ego must be huge!
Mean trainers
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Mrsscififanec
Cathlete
Hi Maximus,i dont post that often but really had to on this one,you break my heart,ive seen your pictures and your awesome,why on earth would you allow your self esteem to go by what another person says about you ? You are a beautiful women in the prime of her life ,people can only hurt you if you let them,dont let them.It saddens me when i hear women letting someone else determine how they feel about themselves,it really is ok to not care what others say or think of you,it doesnt make you a bad or mean person it just means you are in charge of your own self worth and thats a good thing !I got over the whole i have to please everyone and worrying what everyone else thinks thing a long time ago .Its not that i dont care about people ,i do, but i am honest with myself and try to be the best that i can be both mentally and physically and thats all i can do so if some one doesn't like me they should feel free to go away,if they dont like the way i look they can feel free to turn their heads and if they want to be disrespectful i feel free to not give a damn then laugh at them and tell them to get a life,its very liberating,try it,because seriuosly do you really care what a mean person you probably dont even like thinks about you ? Think about.
Mrsscififanec
Mrsscififanec
Maximus:
from what I saw in your two pictures, you don't need this trainer. You are doing superbly just as you are. You are well muscled and your abs look fab!
And I love your hair. I'm so jealous!
I really can't think why this guy approached you at all. You are so obviously a walking advertisement for the fitness regimen you already pursue.
Clare
from what I saw in your two pictures, you don't need this trainer. You are doing superbly just as you are. You are well muscled and your abs look fab!
And I love your hair. I'm so jealous!
I really can't think why this guy approached you at all. You are so obviously a walking advertisement for the fitness regimen you already pursue.
Clare
CathydsRNA
Cathlete
Also, perhaps he approached you because you looked like you were serious about fitness, (ie. you looked cut) and hence might be more likely to take him on as a trainer. You know what kind of shape you are in. Don't let a moron undermine your self image.
Timber99
Cathlete
>Also, perhaps he approached you because you looked like you
>were serious about fitness, (ie. you looked cut) and hence
>might be more likely to take him on as a trainer.
That's a really good point. I had a guy approach me today in the gym and he tried to throw down his sales pitch. He was a tad bit nicer than your guy but basically he was saying, "hey you look great and you are obviously into fitness but I can make you better." And of course...he was shocked when I revealed that today was the first time in YEARS that I used weights at the gym (opposed to my home weight workouts).
>were serious about fitness, (ie. you looked cut) and hence
>might be more likely to take him on as a trainer.
That's a really good point. I had a guy approach me today in the gym and he tried to throw down his sales pitch. He was a tad bit nicer than your guy but basically he was saying, "hey you look great and you are obviously into fitness but I can make you better." And of course...he was shocked when I revealed that today was the first time in YEARS that I used weights at the gym (opposed to my home weight workouts).
He was probably cutting you down in order to make you feel exactly the way you feel so that you would be motivated to lay out the cash on lessons to "look better". He was being an unethical salesman, nothing more. He was giving you a sales pitch to try to make you think that you needed what he was selling...but you don't. Save your money; he can't do much more for you than you're already doing. I've never seen a personal trainer that is as tough and creative as Cathe, so if you're following her tips, you're doing just fine without him.
67firecracker
Cathlete
Oh where's a come back when you need it.
"You're telling me it would only cost me $520 a month to spend time with a guy like you!!! Ummm, yah...No thanks."
Trish
"You're telling me it would only cost me $520 a month to spend time with a guy like you!!! Ummm, yah...No thanks."
Trish
Dear Maximus,
I feel your pain. Why some people feel as if they have a right or why they would think of presenting their feelings in such a fashion is actually sad. You know how hard you work out and it sounds like he caught you by surprise. We are all human after all w/ feelings and for another person to have to look for business in that manner shows his lack of security, confidence and compassion. It seems to me as if your the one who could teach him a thing or two. Don't let your anger trigger negetive energy- instead let it remind you of your dedication, strength & determination.
Smiles,
Kim
I feel your pain. Why some people feel as if they have a right or why they would think of presenting their feelings in such a fashion is actually sad. You know how hard you work out and it sounds like he caught you by surprise. We are all human after all w/ feelings and for another person to have to look for business in that manner shows his lack of security, confidence and compassion. It seems to me as if your the one who could teach him a thing or two. Don't let your anger trigger negetive energy- instead let it remind you of your dedication, strength & determination.
Smiles,
Kim
Maximus - bully for you for not curling up and dying right there. You are a class act. I don't blame you for having hurt feelings and having that cut to the quick. He is clearly not a very professional trainer if that is his approach - he obviously doesn't have very many clients and never will.
You are a very, very hard worker and probably could have kicked his butt had you chose to take it outside girl.
You go girl. Do your thing your way - you are doing great.
melissa
You are a very, very hard worker and probably could have kicked his butt had you chose to take it outside girl.
You go girl. Do your thing your way - you are doing great.
melissa