Lost without my DH

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Ok, so here I sit, four hours after my DH left for a trip back home and I already miss him horrible. A WHOLE WEEK without him. It is sure going to be pure torture. Gonna have to talk with the cats alot.

Anyhoo.....got me thinking how horrible my life would be without DH. How much we sometimes take them for granted. Take for granted having someone to come hom and just complain to...to tell about your day....to watch Deal or No Deal with...to watch TV and make fun of the stars...to laugh with....to nag...EVERYTHING.

I know there are those out there who don't have a SO or are in a miserable one. I feel for them. There is nothing in life better than having a soulmate. I am so lucky.

My husband is in law enforcement and at times like this it really hits home that he could possibly not come home one day. Very scary.

Anyway, just wanted to post that. It is husband appreciation day!:D
 
Mine is packing for a 2 week trip right now. He's also leaving for work. I'm going to miss him terribly. I know what you mean about missing the everyday things. I am going to miss having someone to talk about my day with, watch TV with, just everyday stuff. Hang in there!
 
I tell my DH almost daily how much I appreciate him. I can relate how you feel, Janice. I despise when my husband goes on business trips. Thank goodness it's not often.
 
I told DH I'll be 10 pounds lighter when he gets back. He does all the cooking and I will workout more to help pass the time.
 
My husband leaves because of work and the house is so quiet. I hate it. I, to, work out a lot to pass the time. It gets pretty lonely.
 
Janice -

A far away "thank you" to your husband because he chooses to do a high risk job to keep the rest of us safe.

Susan L.G.
 
My BF is gone this week in CA for a business trip. We don't even live together but I am dying without him!
 
I know how you guys feel about your husbands being gone for a few days. I am a Navy Wife and my husband is gone for 6 months at a time. Don't get me wrong, I do miss him when he is gone, he was gone for 6 months this year from Jan. to July...In my opinion, it does not get easier, but I love him, and he knows that I will be here when he gets back. He has been gone for holidays, birthdays, wedding anniversaries, I have become much stronger knowing that I can take care of myself and my household while he is away, While we do miss each other, it is easier on him while he is away knowing that I am strong and can take care of everything while he is away, so Ladies, be happy that your husbands are only gone for a few days, or 2 weeks, because when my husband is gone, he is gone for 180 days at a time..;( . and yes, it makes me appreciate the time that we do have together even more.
 
Luvmylabs, thank you to your husband for defending our great country and to you for letting him defend this country. The wifes that are at home give up just as much as their SOs.
God Bless you
Heather
 
My dh is gone like this ALL the time. He leaves for a week and sometimes 2. For an entire year, I only seen him on the weekends before we relocated. My hubby is on the plane all the time and I could sit and worry myself silly, but I try not to think about it and just go on with things. Talk to the walls, the cat, the dogs...whatever it takes when you have those days when you really need to talk to him and he is not here.

Charlotte~~
 
Talk to the walls,
>the cat, the dogs...whatever it takes when you have those days
>when you really need to talk to him and he is not here.


This made me laugh. My ex-bf was deployed for 18 months in the Army and I swear, I spoke to my dogs more than a human during that time! ha ha ha!
 
Marine's wife here, know how you feel, it does get easier, though, absence makes the heart grow fonder is a very true expression.

I happened to start writing when my dh had to leave, and guess what, have been published twice. Turns out I do my best work when he's gone, and it seemed he respected me more as well as respect for myself increasing. I love him and miss him, but found I needed an identity in addition to being his partner. It was something just for me. Besides, he was not only gone for work, but was also having a good time with co-workers/buddies. Take this time to reflect on your likes and dislikes, and find a hobby. Believe, time will pass by faster than you realize. Live in the now, not what has been or what will be.



I hope there's been no offense taken here. Just my 2 cents.


Carrie

Also, Janice, your profile in the corner says male for gender...Is this correct?
 
I'll join you in DH Appreciation Day, but from a VERY DIFFERENT perspective. A few of you know that I lost my DH to leukemia...2 years ago this past September. My point....ENJOY DH APPRECIATION DAY EVERY SINGLE DAY that you can.

Gayle
 
Janice,

Thanks for declaring a DH appreciation day. :) My DH is also in law enforcement and the whole first half of our marriage (we've been married almost 14 years) he worked shift work and I didn't. After he got off of shift work I took a job traveling to Europe all the time. Needless to say, now that I'm not doing that anymore, we LOVE our time together. He'll be gone for 3 months next year ( :( ) so our dogs and birds will be my entertainment. Poor things!

To those of you with husbands in the military - please let them know how much they are appreciated.

Gayle, I do remember your story and am just so sorry.

Suz

"Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawakened." - Anatole France

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>Janice -
>
>A far away "thank you" to your husband because he chooses to
>do a high risk job to keep the rest of us safe.
>
>Susan L.G.

Awwww...thank you! Those sentiments apply to other DH's here apparantly too! Thank you to all of them!
 
Janice I know exactly what you are feelng. When my dh was gone for a year I pretty much did not watch television. When I did not have family around I wanted to just sleep and get the day over. If weekends came I usually invited family members over to fill in the void. It is hard when your other half is gone. And yes it is scary knowing that you could lose them at any time. Alls I can say is find a household project or something I painted some rooms and turned up the stereo when it was too quiet:)
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I know how you guys feel about your husbands being gone for a few days. I am a Army wife for 23 years and counting. In Germany eight month out of the year my DH was gone. Not counting the wars he was in over a year at a time.Everybody makes choices in life. Your DH has an admirble profession, and provides a great service to this country.The sacrifices we make as spouses is what they expect from us, as hard as it can be.

So enjoy all the times he is at home because many are not as fortunates as you to miss him for only a week.

Belinda ;-)
 
I enjoy my DH being home, but I enjoy him just as much when he is gone. He is a truck driver and drives to California every week. He is home usually one day a week. I find it much easier to have him gone that home. I have my routine with the kids and things just get done in a more timely manner without him there to step over. ha ha. I love him dearly, but in all honesty, I would not want to have him home on a daily basis. It is just too much work. We have been married for 16 years and together 18. It works for us. This way there is very little time to argue and we get along great. I take care of the business, the household, the kids and also work full time, etc. If he is home for more than a couple of days, I let him know that it is time for him to go as I need my space back. lol
 
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