Worknprogress...thank you for your very thoughtful response. You are absolutely right and it's something I work on everyday. I've heard this so much...that you just have to love yourself. I just don't know HOW to click on that feeling and be confident in an overweight body. I have a friend named Deb who is so confident and happy in her skin, despite her weight. I just look at her and want to feel that way.
But I've been overweight most of my life...and teased about it most of my life. And you know, physically...it's hard to feel your best when you're carrying around excess weight. BUT...it is a fat self image that keeps me coming back to fat even after losing weight. And that is the image I want to change.
I see the young, beautiful girls at my school talk about how fat they are (when they are so perfect in every way) and wish I could teach them what I haven't taught myself.
I know there must be some other people who struggle with body image...and confidence. Are there books? Classes? Is it a spirituality issue? I don't know. But thanks for your response...really!
Warmest,
Elizabeth
Don't do it! You are a beatiful woman and don't need to do that. I've never seen anyone who looked good or real with lip injections. There are so many fun and wonderful lip products out there to try--I really like buxom lip gloss from Bare essentuals, also MAC lipglass.
Having been obese a lot of my life, I completely understand where you are coming from. First, I have to say that even though you think those girls might be "perfect in every way," we all struggle with something and believe me, they are not perfect. You never know what lies beneath the surface.
Am I happier now that I've lost 100 pounds? Yes and no. No because I am the same person, I have health issues, work, relationship and family concerns just like before. Those things don't change when you lose weight. There's some magical delusion that everything will be perfect once you lose weight and that is not the case!
I think the reason that I AM happier lies in the fact that I worked hard to deal with the mental and emotional reasons that I was obese to begin with. I learned A LOT about myself along the journey and I have made so many positive changes in so many aspects of my life, not just weight and fitness. I think it's interesting that most people want quick weight loss, and want to skip the hard part of working through issues. But if you don't do the internal work it takes to keep the changes, it won't matter. One book I highly recommend is The Beck Diet Solution by Judith Beck. This book deals with the emotional/psychological issues we all face with weight.
Now I am in control, I am more confident, more outgoing and take more chances in life. My life is not perfect by any means...but someone looking from the outside might think so. We simply cannot judge anyone from the outside when we don't know their story.
Take the time to do the internal work and it will happen. You just have to be patient and kind to yourself along the way.
