I've got a bit of a problem.....

[Miss Lee]

I don't think any of the comments I've seen are "nasty" really. I think when people post very personal, intimate things on a public forum full of total strangers, that perhaps they want you to give them what for. It's much easier IMO to lay it open in a forum where you don't have to look anybody in the eye. Sometimes people want to be hit with the truth in all it's harsh reality and I have no problem with any of the comments here.

People aren't expressing hatred or intolerance. A situation has been laid out and opinions were asked for. If you're going to do that then you need to be prepared for whatever comes.

I look upon these boards as a body. We have a head, arms, legs, hands, etc. Each member has a different function, a different way of doing things, a different set of beliefs and values, etc, that we bring to the table. We come together, each one, and give our portion and together it makes a whole--it renders an entire picture. I love it!

Michele

 

[Kirsten]

As many have said... you need to quit seeing this boy. Is losing your daughter worth whatever you feel? Could you IMAGINE being in her shoes if this materialized????

And if your DD has broken up with him do you really find it appropriate that you continue to see him? I may be wrong but put in the same situation I would feel that my family was supporting ex-DBF and not me. Again, just my opinion.

And remember, if your DD did the breaking up there is a reason. Why do we as people feel that we must put things like this back together? You may be be very fond of him but she obviously feels differently.

 

[gidget1978]

I thought the same thing and still think there may be something fishy here.She hasn't checked in since as she? And I may be totally wrong.Either way, I still have my 2 cents.
Lori

 

[Little Angel]

Hi! I don't think you are asking what you should do, or whether or not to pursue this attraction. You are well aware that it would be unwise to proceed! You question was, how to shut it off?

Respect daughter's decision to break up with him. Surely she had some good reasons! And probably you'll never hear the whole story from her. (You are Mom, after all -- what 20 year old tells her mom EVERYTHING??) This was between her and him and now it's over. She wants to move on. To try to intervene in any way is an act of disrespect to her!

She is your blood. If you live long enough, she may choose your nursing home! For her sake, drop it. And if she does choose to get back with him, again, respect that decision.

Like any mom, you have no doubt sacrificed much so that your children could come first. Now you have another opportunity to do it again! With a smile and with love, consider the issue closed.

And set up a great seduction scene for hubby. You've had your libido stoked a bit, so let him put out the fire for you! Good luck.

 

[Ann Marie]

Well, I don't think there were any nasty comments, mine included. This person needs to talk to someone, and get a grip! PPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPLEASE.