Hello again, Tallchick,
I definitely would not assert that my problems are equal in severity to yours. It sounds like you have more years of dealing with it that I did. However, my history was that as a child, I had some bladder issues and because of that, I started drinking less water, so that I wouldn't have to go as much. Due to that, I had a few other problems. When I got married, the problems became pretty severe (constant pain, constant urgency, frequent UTIs, ongoing infection, reduced bladder lining often bloody, thus blood tinged urine) for about 2 years. After that, I found this book. My problems were reduced in about 3 months time and over the course of the next year or so, they lessened to the point of not really being a problem. Since then, I have been pregnant 4 times. Any time a flare-up was threatening, I would refer back to the book and it never reached a crisis again. After all the pregnancies, I opted for a surgery to fix a couple of things, which included a repositioning of the bladder to tack it up a little bit higher, which decreased the frequency of the urge to void. Now, the only problems that I have are that about the half the time, I have to get up once during the night and most every workout requires a bathroom break, but otherwise, I would say I am "normal" and I am so thankful for that. I can make it through meetings and church and even road trips. I wish that it were a fixable problem for everyone because I know how much it affects your life, and hopefully you will get some improvement at the least.
Amy