Internet safety and posting pics

janie1234

Cathlete
Is there anyone else who fears posting their family's pictures on the internet. It seems that with facebook, twitter, forums, and blogs, . . it is just common place to post a pic. Maybe I'm to paranoid from some of the things I've heard on the news not to mention this article.
http://familyinternet.about.com/od/computingsafetyprivacy/a/Safe_to_post_photos_of_kids_online.htm
I go back and forth. I'm sure that the chances are super rare that anything would happen. I like to believe that MOST people are good. Of course it doesn't help that I hate having my picture taken and that I think I have the worst drivers license picture in the universe of the world. I just don't photograph well at all, . .but I guess even if I did photograph well I'd still be to shy to have my pic up for all to see. :(
 
Lesson learned, it did happen to us!

Holy crap I was going to write about what happened to our family with Facebook!!! If you think it doesn't happen, think again. I'm one of those people that got the shock of their life a couple of weeks ago and its directly linked to my son having a Facebook account.

We got a phone call very early in the morning from my husband's mother who is 85 years old. She says: "I want you to be strong, but I just got a phone call from Danny, he's in jail in Canada". All I heard was my husband saying: "our son, our Danny" in disbelief. Of course being a mother the first thing I thought was our son was hurt at Bootcamp. The stress of being separated from him was huge and the anxiety was starting to weigh on me, which greatly influenced my reaction to this phone call. I thought the worst had happened.

Background - my son enlisted for the United States Navy and was at bootcamp for 9-10 weeks. Before Danny left he wrote on his Facebook that he enlisted and would be gone for several months, etc. His grandparents are also on his Facebook. I don't know what my son has for privacy settings, but it was very easy to now find his grandparents who are listed in the telephone book. And if you saw the pictures of his grandparents you would understand they are sweet and gentle looking and along in years.

So...this sweet grandmother gets a call from my *son* who says to her: Grandma, I'm in trouble, we are out on leave and one of the guys had drugs and we were pulled over for speeding, and now I'm in jail up here in Canada." Grandma says: Danny, did you call your parents and why do you sound funny, are you okay?" My *son* says, its because I'm in a holding cell and I'm afraid, and I don't want to call my parents because they would be very angry." I know I would have recognized my son's voice in a nano-second, and his grandmother had her doubts, but she told us he was whispering and sounded very afraid and she was nearly in tears. This makes me SO angry, think about your own elderly parents, I'm surprised she didn't have a heart attack!

This fake Danny now tells her to avoid becoming AWOL with the Navy, he needs $7,500 wired so he can have a hearing and post bail. Grandma is now completely overwhelmed and withdraws the money from her checking account and is ready to wire it, then decides to call us to inform us what is going on. Fast forward now to us still in bed with my husband taking down this information as fast as he can. We are now calling this number, which is located in Hudson, Canada and sure enough, they inform my husband our son is in jail and will not be processed until they receive this money. I'm thinking...this can't be happening, its a farce and at the same time I'm going crazy thinking about my son is somewhere I can't get to. When my husband hangs up with the wire information, I told him we have to call the Naval Base immediately. Amazing how quickly they got us in touch with his Unit Commander and how seriously they took it, because not 10 minutes later we were assured our son was exactly where he should be at that very moment and no recruit was ever allowed off base for that 9 weeks of training.

Yes, vast relief, and we also figured out exactly where these people were on Google Earth through their telephone number, right down to the street address, called Secret Service and the proper channels of the US Government and gave them that information. We were also told this happens constantly and to be thankful we didn't fall for it.

To end this, I think you have to be very careful when answering any plea for money. These @ssholes had a good answer for every one we asked, such as where is our son, why can't we talk to him, why do you need this money. Being involved in banking for a long time, I realized when I heard *wire* and *money* my antenna was going up with each second. But his grandmother already had the money to wire and was just seconds away from falling for it. I hope everyone reading this will realize it can happen and anytime its a plea for help in the form of MONEY, pay very close attention who you are really talking to.
 
DirtDiva, it's disgusting what people will do isn't it?? :mad: It sounds like your son needs to check the security settings on his Facebook account. You can lock them so only "friends" can see his personal info. Or better yet, don't post anything (info, photos) etc. you wouldn't want other people to see. I have a FB page with my settings "locked" so only people I friend can see my info and I don't friend anyone I don't know personally (some people from this site who are on Cathe's FB page have tried to friend me but if I don't know you personally...sorry). I have my caller ID set on my phone and if the caller is a person or number I don't know or it says "caller unknown" I let the machine get it. And it goes without saying NEVER EVER give a stranger on the phone or the internet any personal info no matter who they say they are.
Sadly in this day and age you HAVE to take precautions to protect yourself online if you're going to join a forum like this one or a social network like FB.
 
Great advice indeed. I've also checked my daughter's FB to make sure the settings are friends only too. That mistake isn't going to happen again.
 
I guess I'm just really paranoid. I'm hesitant to share a lot of personal information on the 'net that could identify me, my family, or my activities (i.e. when I will be out of town). It's a real shame that it has to be that way. Most people are honest (IMO), but you hear a story like DirtDiva's and it scares the pants off you in a hurry. That was a close call! Thank heaven your MIL called you before sending the money! We have finally convinced our daughter to make her My Space page private after a lot of years of encouraging (read: nagging).
 
In addition to setting FB for just friends, if you haven't already done so, I got this message the other day.

Please pass this around to all your friends. Facebook has agreed to let a third party advertiser use your posted pictures without your permission. Click on SETTINGS up where you see the log out link. Select PRIVACY SETTINGS. Select NEWS FEEDS AND WALL. Select the tab that reads FACE BOOK ADS. There is a drop down box, select NO ONE. Save your changes. BUT you do NOT get to share $$$-
 
Janie, I have been leary to post any pictures of my kids online too. By the way, I think you look great in your avatar! I wouldn't change a thing. Melissa
 
Great lesson to be learned here. Too bad some people can be so cruel.:mad:

So, DirtDiva, please say there was a happy ending to this story and that the authorities nailed these jerks!
 
So much spam, and evil people, so little time...I am SO GLAD that you are ok, and hopefully these people get caught.

I use a yahoo email 'junk' account for all public forums (including this one, yes), I would never use my picture as my avatar (please don't flame me for saying this), and try never ever to use my real name. Paranoid you say? You betcha.

I also regularly perform virus scans, cleanses, run hijack detection programs, run malware detection, and disable any "phone home" functionality in programs and have a firewall. Even so, I never check my bank account OR order stuff with a credit card on my wireless connection and make sure that I delete any stored credit card information after ordering. I probably missed some things, but it only takes a few extra seconds before logging off, or you run your detection programs and walk away.

All necessary in today's world.
 
Holy Moly Dirt Diva!!!! Okay now I'm really freaked out!! I just started this thread because I just started this whole face book thing, . . . and all my friends keep asking me to post pic's but I'm to freaked out to do it. :(
 

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