I'm in shock!!!!!!!

Miss Lee

Miss Lee

Cathlete
I just got off the phone with the receptionist at my hair salon. They needed to change my appointment for tomorrow because one of their stylists, I guy I know and love, committed suicide. Absolutely no one saw it coming. He was such a wonderful person and he has left a void in many lives. I'm feeling so many emotions right now. Why did this have to happen? I wish I could ask him.

Michele
 
I'm so sorry Michele, this really is sad. I had a co-worker do this many years ago, and it still makes me feel badly when I think about it.

I have been taking a Crisis Intervention training class for the past two months. Thankfully, I am nearly finished with it as this is a tough course to get through. We had 3 hours last week on suicide prevention and one thing stuck out so strongly....this is a permanant solution to a temporary problem. I am just so sad that there was no one available to this man at the moment he felt the most hopeless....every life is so precious!
 
This is very sad:-( There are so many people that are troubled in the world and no one even knows until it is to late. Its so sad that they think this is the only way out.
Lori
 
I'm sorry, Michele :(. Suicide is so painful, because you just don't understand why or how they felt the way they did. I wish you the best.

Sara
 
My daughter suffers from depression, she tried suicide at 10 y/o.
She is now 17 and seems to be on an even keel.

A man who had lost his brother to suicide tried to put things in perspective for me. Depression is a terminal disease. Like any other terminal disease it may kill you or it can remain in remission and you live long enough to die from something else. Not much comfort in any case.

I'm sorry for your loss.

Dave
 
Thank you all for your kind words. I'm still reeling from the news. I still can't believe it!

I've tried to think if there were any signs to indicate that he was thinking of committing suicide, and there weren't. I saw him every 4 weeks for years and he was always happy and smiling. He had hopes and dreams and he talked often about things he planned to do. He bought a house a couple of years ago and has been working on renovations. He was quite a skilled carpenter and did all the work himself. He was so proud of it and always had pictures of the progress. He just bought a new car. He went on a cruise recently and talked about what a great time he had. He had a dry sense of humor--he was seriously funny. We used to laugh and joke around like crazy.

I just can't make any sense of this at all. I guess I never will. :-(

Michele
 
Michele,
I lost a very dear friend to suicide. The week before his "planned date" he came to my home to say "good-bye"(of course, I didn't know what he was doing at the time). In his eyes, I guess I choose my husband over him and I could never think of him more then a dear and wonderful friend. Over lunch ......he told me how empty his life was without someone in it....how he felt his body was failing him as he got older. He tried to kiss me as he left. If I had known it was the last kiss I would ever receive from him, in retrospect, I know I would have allowed it. I've always felt if I loved him instead of my husband he would be alive today. Although this is over 10 years ago, I still live with this guilt and pain I will always carry it with me. I miss him dearly.

Robin
 
Dave,

I can't imagine what you and your wife have gone through. I'll lift your daughter up in prayer, that she will remain in "remission"--forever!!

My DH and I tried for years to have children, but sometimes I think we've been spared another kind of heartbreak. Take good care. My best to your wife as well.

Michele
 
>I've always felt if I loved him instead of my
>husband he would be alive today. Although this is over 10
>years ago, I still live with this guilt and pain I will always
>carry it with me. I miss him dearly.
>
Oh Robin,

I'm so sorry. Of course, there is no way you can know if he would still be alive had you chosen him. I think you made a wise choice.

I wonder if the people who take their own lives can look upon the loved ones they've left behind and if they regret their decision? Do they wish they could undo what they've done? I agree with the poster that said suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. I couldn't have put it better myself.

Michele
 
Oh my, that is so sad. :( I am sorry to hear that this happened and my heart goes out to him and his family & friends. It must be so hard to feel that desparate and sad. :(
 
>I wonder if the people who take their own lives can look upon the >loved ones they've left behind and if they regret their decision? >Do they wish they could undo what they've done? I agree with the >poster that said suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary >problem.

I totally agree. I also believe people who commit suicide are "unknowingly" thinking only of themselves at the time. They are only looking for a way out of their own pain. It really is a very "selfish" permanent decision that hurts so many people around them....forever.

JMHO,
Robin
 
It makes me very sad when I hear news like this. I'm sorry you're going through this Michele. I lost two friends a couple of years ago (not to suicide) and it was really hard for me to get over those losses. I still think about them.
 
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