I think that this is going a little overboard
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fitnessangel
Cathlete
Absoulutely ridiculous! My children can't even play contact sports at school... including Ring Around the Rosie or Red Rover. Come on. How can the schools take these things out of context?
MadnNatsmom
Cathlete
>I'm trying to think of a way to sue my DS...4 years old,
>obssessed with my belly...he calls it "rubbing my belly" and
>while standing in the check out line today, he said I was
>pretty, then kissed my leg!!
The nerve!!!!
Reminds me of MY DS who loves to fondle the soft mushiness of my triceps!
>obssessed with my belly...he calls it "rubbing my belly" and
>while standing in the check out line today, he said I was
>pretty, then kissed my leg!!
The nerve!!!!
Reminds me of MY DS who loves to fondle the soft mushiness of my triceps!
maddiesmum
Cathlete
Why on earth are we punishing kids, 4 year olds for god's sake, for expresssing affection for their caregivers?!?!?! Totally ludicrous. If the teacher's aide wishes to avoid physical contact with kids, may I suggest she change jobs, effective immediately?
And no, burying his face in her boobs is not odd at all. For him, as you say Kathryn, it is not at all sexual, and it may just be that he is curious about the woman's body, that's all. If his own mother is flat chested, I can well imagine why he would find this woman's body and chest quite comforting. He's still young enough to have subconscious memories of breast feeding I would imagine.
My own daughter did something similar with a caregiver once: I barely scrape up to a 34 A, the caregiver must have been a 38 DDDDDDDDDD! Of course she was curious!
Clare
And no, burying his face in her boobs is not odd at all. For him, as you say Kathryn, it is not at all sexual, and it may just be that he is curious about the woman's body, that's all. If his own mother is flat chested, I can well imagine why he would find this woman's body and chest quite comforting. He's still young enough to have subconscious memories of breast feeding I would imagine.
My own daughter did something similar with a caregiver once: I barely scrape up to a 34 A, the caregiver must have been a 38 DDDDDDDDDD! Of course she was curious!
Clare
This just saddens me so...Today is my "Room Mother" day in DD's Kidnergarten Class. Almost everyone of those children hug me. They are so sweet & innocent at that age. I would hate to feel 'inappropriate' in my role there.
For some of those kids, the teacher & I are the most attention they will receive that day. I'm not a professional, but I would think even if that child was doing something inappropriate, he did not have the capacity to really understand his actions. Though I certainly would not argue that he shouldn't be taught the difference. Typically it would be a cry for attention? Just MHO.
I don't post here much, usually lurk, but this just touched me.
Regards,
Kim
For some of those kids, the teacher & I are the most attention they will receive that day. I'm not a professional, but I would think even if that child was doing something inappropriate, he did not have the capacity to really understand his actions. Though I certainly would not argue that he shouldn't be taught the difference. Typically it would be a cry for attention? Just MHO.
I don't post here much, usually lurk, but this just touched me.
Regards,
Kim
pink_fortitude
Banned
Hmmm... Though I don't really think that it is "appropriate", I wonder why he has to be suspended for something he really doesn't understand. Why couldn't the teacher just tell him that she doesn't feel comfortable when he does that? What if his mom has big breasts and cuddles him? Something like this could affect him for the rest of his life, and he doesn't even know why this is happening... I mean, how on Earth could he understand?
I just had a thought.... If she doesn't want children to rub their faces in her boobs then maybe she shouldn't hug them so her boobs are in their faces. Again, it is just a thought.
Missy
I just had a thought.... If she doesn't want children to rub their faces in her boobs then maybe she shouldn't hug them so her boobs are in their faces. Again, it is just a thought.
Missy
toastythemosty
Cathlete
What is the world coming to? The woman is sick in my opinion to even think such things about a 4 year old child. She doesn't even sound human. Humans need to be touched, hugged and express love and kindness. What is her problem? Freak!
Charlotte~~
Charlotte~~
candi
Cathlete
IMHO, one of the roles of a parent is to teach a child appropriate behavior. All a parent would have to say to their child is "You know, it's okay to touch Mommy this way but not your teacher", or something like that. In effect, it's the same thing as teaching your child to wash their hands after they use the bathroom.
Humans need to be touched but in an appropriate manner. Quite frankly, if a child was to come up and hug me, I would hug them back and like that they felt compelled to do it. If they were to rub their face in my boobs, I would wonder what this child has been taught or not taught at home
Humans need to be touched but in an appropriate manner. Quite frankly, if a child was to come up and hug me, I would hug them back and like that they felt compelled to do it. If they were to rub their face in my boobs, I would wonder what this child has been taught or not taught at home
melodygirl
Cathlete
By all means, let's raise the children to believe that genuine affection and love are completely inappropriate. How dare anyone love and appreciate another human being. We want the world to become a hard, cold uncaring place where humans never ever have affectionate contact or exhibit a spirit of love. Geez...
darli ann
Cathlete
<If the teacher didn't like that kind of touching, she needs to teach him what he should do, not run it right up the chain of command as if it is a real grown-up dangerous situation.>
This was my first thought too. Sure, it was inappropriate behavior, which is often what 4-year-olds do best. So "be a teacher" if you're going to work at a school and correct the kid, tell him why it's wrong, TEACH him for crying out loud. Seems pretty simple to me.
This was my first thought too. Sure, it was inappropriate behavior, which is often what 4-year-olds do best. So "be a teacher" if you're going to work at a school and correct the kid, tell him why it's wrong, TEACH him for crying out loud. Seems pretty simple to me.
Another example of a "zero tolerance" society. We pay administrators of schools to use their judgement and then tell them what to use and how to punish.
Not too long ago an straight A student, Eagle Scout was suspended 10 days because inside his locked car in the parking lot was an ax, mind you so was the rest of his camping gear.
A conference with the student, parents and teachers would have been more appropriate.
Not too long ago an straight A student, Eagle Scout was suspended 10 days because inside his locked car in the parking lot was an ax, mind you so was the rest of his camping gear.
A conference with the student, parents and teachers would have been more appropriate.
maddiesmum
Cathlete
Exactly.
Clare
Clare
When my DD was in first grade, one of her classmates was reprimanded for kissing the back of her coat. The teacher saw him do it and it turned into a huge fiasco. I felt awful because it was all just innocent, but the principal and teacher made a huge deal about it even thoguh I asked them not to. I guess they have to protect themselves from liability.
Political correctness is going to ruin us all..........
"A Drug is a substance which, when injected into a Rat, produces a SCIENTIFIC REPORT."
Political correctness is going to ruin us all..........
"A Drug is a substance which, when injected into a Rat, produces a SCIENTIFIC REPORT."
Imafitnessfreak
Cathlete
So am I begging for trouble when I tell my kids "Give her a hug and a kiss and tell her your sorry"??? Sounds like it!!
I have a problem with the "head in the breast" thing. I wasn't there so I can't testify but when I hear that, I think of a smal child cuddling up to the lady. I don't think he was sticking his head between her breasts and shaking his head around in a "Benny hill" kind of way...which would justify being offended. Again, I wasn't there so the pictures I am forming in my head are based on what my 4 year old would do and there is nothing offensive or perverse about it.
I have a problem with the "head in the breast" thing. I wasn't there so I can't testify but when I hear that, I think of a smal child cuddling up to the lady. I don't think he was sticking his head between her breasts and shaking his head around in a "Benny hill" kind of way...which would justify being offended. Again, I wasn't there so the pictures I am forming in my head are based on what my 4 year old would do and there is nothing offensive or perverse about it.
MadnNatsmom
Cathlete
It's very difficult for me to fathom the thought that a 4-year old burying his face in a woman's bosom is sexually inappropriate.
I still bathe with my 7 year old DD. She likes to fondle what little boobies I have and I told her that she couldn't do that anymore because she was a big girl and those were my private parts.
She said "But, didn't I used to drink milk from them?"
A 4-year old has not sexualized female breasts yet. But, he'll definitely learn and forget their primary purpose.
My goodness -
I still bathe with my 7 year old DD. She likes to fondle what little boobies I have and I told her that she couldn't do that anymore because she was a big girl and those were my private parts.
She said "But, didn't I used to drink milk from them?"
A 4-year old has not sexualized female breasts yet. But, he'll definitely learn and forget their primary purpose.
My goodness -
Imafitnessfreak
Cathlete
I think that by instict, the womans breasts are for nourishment and a sense of security...the whole reason why they are on our body to begin with! It's later in life that they become a "sexual part".