I need help with potty training my toddler

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luvmylabs

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My son is 2 years old ( he will be 3 in Jan.), by the time my DD was this age she was already potty trained. I can put him in Pull-Ups, or little underwear, it does not matter, he will still go potty in them, when I say to him "let's go to the potty" he says NO!, only sometimes will he go.
He seems comfortable in diapers, and pull-ups.. Any advice would be very helpful!!! PLEASE!!!! :)

Thank you!!
 
Luvmylabs

From what I have heard, boys are harder to train than girls. My first son was not trained until he was 3 and 1/2. He finally decided one day that he wanted to be a big boy. We did try to push him and it back fired. With our second son who will be 3 in December, we are just taking our time with him. He will go sometimes (usually before a bath) but that is about it. Any other time I ask him he will say no. So we are not going to push it. I say don't worry about it too much. He is not going to go to college in diapers (hoepfully :+ ).

Lea
 
I had a son that was very comfortable with diapers also. Fortunately we lived in Hawaii at the time where the weather is almost always good. He would play in the yard everyday and about that time everyday, I ran out of diapers;-) and made him put on underwear. It didn't take long until he was day-time potty trained. It took another year before he was night-time trained.
 
Hi, there is a book you can get in the library Potty Training in less than a day. I used in on all 6 of my children. One day. It really works. Good luck.
 
I have 3 (girls) and the 2 older ones we made such a big deal about potty training and it was useless. I would get so frustrated and now it seems so silly. My youngest daughter just decided one day when she just turned 2 that she didn't want to wear diapers anymore and potty trained herself. My sister has a boy who was 3 and was loving his diapers she simply told him she would cut "it" off if he didn't use the toilet and he never put another diaper on. It seems silly now thinking about how worked up we got ourselves over the whole deal. It will come. Let them do it at their own pace, but a little encouragement isn't bad.
 
I have also heard that boys are harder than girls. I guess I will be finding out in the next year if that is true. LOL DS, who is now 4, was a little over 3 when he was finally potty trained, even though the daycare had been working with him since he was 2 months shy of 2. Your DS will tell you when he is ready. My DS would go through the motions of sitting on the potty like the other kids because it was expected of all the kids, but he would not use it. Instead he would hold his urine in until naptime when they would put a pull-up on the kids and then he would always wet the bed due to holding it for so long. It is okay for him to be 3 or 3 1/2 when he is potty trained. Every child is different and when they are ready it will be the right time. I think as a society it is frowned upon if our kids are not potty trained at the age of 2, but most kids are not ready at that age. The only time you may have a problem is if he is 5 years old and starting kindergarten without being potty trained! ;-) LOL Be patient and he will be ready before you know it. Then you will wonder why you even cared how long it took him to get to this point. Good luck!
 
I agree with the posts about letting your son decide when he is ready w/a little encouragement. I stressed myself out trying to get first DD to not pee and with second just laid off and knew accidents would happen. I have many friends w/boys who didn't have any desire until about 3 1/2 y/o and then went from diapers day and night to underwear day and night! That is amazing - they were ready! My 5 y/o DD still needs me or daddy to wake her up and go potty at night. That is just her and her body.

Try and relax about it otherwise you drive yourself nutty! :)

Mary
 
My son was completely potty trained by 28 months. He was in daycare at the time and each time one of the children would use the potty they would get a stamp on their hand. This was really an incentive for him. I bought stampers and we used them at home. I think that he had an early interest in the potty though. I think my 14-month old son is going to be a challenge.

Good luck!
 
Hi, Luvmylabs,

I agree with benandmary. I about drove myself nuts trying to potty train my first (a DS)! With all my encouraging, he would go potty... sometimes. Then, suddenly, 2 days before his 3rd birthday, he was done with diapers. My second (a DD) kept her diaper dry months before she turned 2 with much less influence from me. I DON'T EVEN REMEMBER when my third (another DS) was potty trained! By then, I figured I had little influence and didn't stress over it. Hope it all goes well for you.

bhappy
 
Hi Luvmylabs,
Definitely I agree with posters who say it's takes longer for boys -- but then once they get it, the fun of peeing at a target is there for life (LOL).

Speaking of targets, there used to be something called "Piddlers" which were sponge targets to throw in the potty to add to the fun feeling of "aiming" for boys. Or other items that don't instantly melt, work well, too.

But definitely don't rush it, IMO. When the light goes on for a boy, and it happens later for boys than girls, it'll work. The fun of standing up like Dad does is a great bonding thing for boys.

If your son doesn't like the idea now, you can keep trying to have your DH work on it in a fun way. Don't be discouraged!!

-Barb
:)
 
Oh I'm right there with you. Ack! My son was 2.5 in October. I KNOW pushing him is not going to get anything accomplished. I am just trying to get him more and more used to the potty. Best time with him is right before bath. I asked him to get up on it and he did by himself. He doesn't want to "go" yet but it's where we start I guess ;) Not to worry. Boys do in general take a bit longer & remember you want him to be trained not the other way around..hehe.


Debbie


My grandmother started walking five miles a day when she was sixty. She's ninety-seven now, and we don't know where the hell she is.
--Ellen Degeneres
 
I have three boys and in my experience waiting is best. I pushed my first real hard and he didn't train until after 3. I didn't want history to repeat itself, so I waited until my 2nd was 3 to start. It still wasn't easy, but we got it done in about 2 weeks. I plan on doing the same for my third. Boys mature later than girls, so they say, and it will become a power struggle and men love power, so they say! Anyway, my sister-in-law pushed her son so hard he started "withholding" his BM's and wound up in the hospital with an impacted colon. That is the extreme, but it goes to show some boys just have an iron will! Good luck, give it time!

Sally
 
Honestly, I know it's hard, but he'll do it when he's ready. Both of my boys were 3. Some of my friends were looking at me aghast BUT when they were ready, they were ready. I think we may have had a total of 3 accidents between them once they came out of diapers.

Good luck!
Marie

ETA - boys love to use Cheerios as targets in the toilet. :)
 
I have 4 kids - 3 boys and a girl. My oldest had absolutely NO desire to get out of diapers. Everyone told me to wait until he was ready - well, this kid was NEVER going to be ready. Ever. When he was four years and 3 months old, we finally told him that was it. If he wanted to wear diapers, fine, but he needed to stay in the bathroom as long as he was wearing a diaper. We said that 4 year olds were too big to use diapers and feces belonged in the bathroom so if he was going to poop in his pants, he had to stay in the bathroom. We were very matter of fact about it so that he wouldn't think he was being punished. He was potty trained in one day - he didn't want to stay in the bathroom.

My twin boys were easy, but they also trained later. One trained himself at 3 years old. The other boy had motor delays and we were told to wait with him. When he was 4, we just said no more diapers and put him in underwear. He figured it out very quickly. He was like my oldest, though, in the sense that he was never going to make that decision on his own. He was perfectly comfortable in diapers.

My youngest (dd) was easy, but I didn't wait for her to decide. I knew she was ready when she was 2 1/2 and I just told her she was a big girl and too big for diapers. She trained very quickly and I'm glad that I didn't wait with her. I think she probably would have been like her brothers that were very content with their diapers.

Your son is still young enough that you don't need to worry, but I just wanted to say that my experience is not that kids will decide when the time is right.

Sorry so long. Good luck!

Erica
 
The best thing I can tell you is don't push him. I know it's frustrating, but boys do take longer. My son was 3 when we started and almost 4 when he was fully trained. It was easy though--he pretty near training himself to get out of diapers.
:)
 
Funny thing luvmylabs...my sister's son, my nephew will be 3 in January too!!! She just told me this morning he's sometimes potty trained...so I think your little one is probably right on track and good things will come. I have no experience with boys...my daughter is 21 and I can't even remember that long ago!

Another tip my sister was told...was to let him go without a diaper for a few hours with the instruction to come get her when he had to use the toilet. She said that worked well for no.1, but laughed when she found a little pile of poop in her kitchen this morning.

Good luck with that....Amber
 
You guys have no idea how much better I feel about this... my mom keeps making comments about how my son should already be trained, every time I talk to her, she makes those comments to me, "He is too smart not to be trained already".. "Why is he not trained?".. "You were potty trained before you were 2, what are you waiting on to train him?"... I was beginning to think I was doing something wrong here... Thank you all so much for you comments.. Who cares what my mom thinks!!!!:) :)
 
When you figure this out you let me know.
My GSon wants to poop in his trucks . The other day he did it on his Thomas tracks then was running trains through it.
(He lost his trains for a few days)punishment. He will lock his bedroom door and do this, so he knows. He is almost 3...

Anne
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My little girl is almost 2 and a half. Very early on, we got her trained to go "poopie" on the potty - she doesn't like going in her pants. So she's been partly potty trained since she was 18 months old. In the last couple of months, she is telling us when she has to go and we take her to the potty, but it's not consistent. We're letting her decide when she's ready. Pretty soon, she won't like the feeling of running around in a heavy wet diaper.
But my DD loves to wash her hands afterward. Loves the soap dispenser! That could be incentive to go to the potty right there!

Charlene
 
I have three children - two girls and a boy. All three potty trained at the same age - 3 - regardless of my level of involvement. My son was easiest - I set up his potty (step stool and potty seat on the toilet) every day, then let him decide what he wanted to do. He trained himself in just a week or two. It was that easy.
 
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