This might sound silly, but doesn't preparation H supposed to help? Oh, and when you are lifting, try this...if you are familiar with kegels, its kinda the same thing, squeeze your sphincter muscles in really tight with the exertion and your pelvic floor muscles..I know, I know, so gross, but I know for a fact it works...I used to leg press over 800 pounds when I was bodybuilding, and never had the 'roids cause I did this...OMG, I cannot believe I am posting this...I hope this makes sense to you guys...*blushes furiously*