I know I'm old-fashioned but...

[sparrow]

Isn't Lorrie entitled to her point of view/opinion as well? (And, for the record, I don't share that opinion).

Sparrow

Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming ‘Wow - what a ride!’ — Peter Sage

 

[autumn]

I probably wouldn't send a gift based on the relationship with the cousin.

Autumn

 

[L Sass]

Actually the cousin doesn't know what I think of him, because despite my YEARS of providing him and my aunt with free legal services every single time he has drunk or drugged himself into oblivion, auto accidents, and jail, I have NEVER let on how I feel - because in my family you simply suck it up and do what family does. And I believe this is just another example of what we're "supposed to do" - which is why I came here to ask you all for your thoughts.

I think if my cousin or aunt were inclined to have any involvement with this child after she's born it would be different - but they're not. Not to mention the fact that it's a 3 hour drive to this "blessed event". But thank you all for sharing your input.

Lorrie

 

[rjroubi]

>Isn't Lorrie entitled to her point of view/opinion as well?
> (And, for the record, I don't share that opinion).
>

Of course, I was only expressing my agreement on Marie's point of view... which I believe I'm just as entitled to express

Robin

ETA: Good luck with your decision Lorrie. I'm sure you will do the right thing.

 

[babybird]

Maybe she is trying to get to know you and rest of his side of family. She might have also invited you so she would not hurt your feeling if you found out you were not invited.

 

[Conni]

I agree with you 100 pct. You are not oldfashioned. You have morals and a conscience.

Now, having said that, if you really feel the need to "help" this girl, then send a small gift with a note wishing her and the baby well.
This way you have not condoned the behavior, yet you would show that you are also a class act by expressing good wishes for the baby.

 

[Imafitnessfreak]

I am with babybird...maybe she just didn't want to hurt your feelings by not inviting you. She very well may have felt obligated to invite you...just a thought.

 

[dianet]

I agree - she may have just felt obligated to invite you. I just got married in October certain people I invited because they were family and I felt obligated to invite them, even though I never see them. I did not invite them to get some extra gift out of them, but just because it is polite. Some of them gave gifts, some of them even came, but I didn't really expect anything from them.