I am so angry!!!!!

C

cookiebaby

Cathlete
Hi everybody, I need to vent. I'm so angry at three of my friends and they think I have no right to be mad at them. Let me tell you the situation and let me know what you think. My three best friends are all doing the Body for Life system and I think that is great for them. They are all getting good results. I tried Body for Life and found it didn't suit me. I just don't like it. I bought the Pure Strength Series and the Cross Trainer Series. I have been doing them and eating well, I'm a vegan. I have gotten good results but you know those times that everyone goes through when you feel hopeless no matter what. I was feeling like that so I invited them over to have some company and they wanted to cheer me up. All they did was say that Cathe was a waste of time and BFL is the only to get in shape and I should get rid of my tapes and so forth. I told them how I felt and after a little argument, we decided to go out. Two of them and I went to the car, while the third one said she needed to use the bathroom and would be right out. Well, I drank a little and had a buzz so I went right to bed when they dropped me off. The next morning I realized my Cathe tapes were missing. So I went crazy looking for them and couldn't find my tapes anywhere. I called my friend and she confessed that while she was in the "bathroom", she slipped my tapes into her purse (which is the size of a backpack so I didn't notice) and went to the dump that morning and threw them out!!!!!! She said that they just did it for my welfare and now I can do Body for Life and not be depressed. What do you think?!
 
OMgosh! I can't believe she would really do that! There is 2 things you can do. She owes your for those tapes, money that is. If you force her to pay, your friendship would probably end.( which may not be worth it) Or you can let it go and replace the tapes yourself and keep them from her claws. I would tell her she had no right doing that though.

The day someone trys to take my Cathes from me is the day pigs fly.
 
What kind of friend would do that? It shouldn't matter what fitness program they're doing and what you're doing... No one has a right to steal your belongings and dispose of them. That's a friendship breaker if you ask me!
 
They got rid off your PS and CTX workouts???!!! Those are like the best ones! I still haven't got the complete CTX series and they just dumped yours? Those things are priceless.
 
You have a right to be angry. They owe you money for your tapes.
If they're not willing to purchase new Cathe tapes for your,
you could (and should take them to small claims court) and sue
for the amount of the tapes, s & h and sales tax. (Judge Judy, Judge Mathis or your local magistrate.) You must prove your case, (taped phone conversations, may be necessary because it would be your word against their.) One did admit to trashing your
tapes but could change her story.
Also, they are not friends if they can't accept and respect your approach for fitness.
I tried the BLF system and i'ts good, but I need
the exercise structure of videos and I do need a good stretch
that yoga provides and is sorely lacking the BLF method.
 
[font size="1" color="#FF0000"]LAST EDITED ON Dec-12-02 AT 02:27AM (Est)[/font][p]I'm seeing red right now just thinking about it. I'm so sorry that happened to you. If I ever caught someone trying to steal my Cathe tapes, I'd be like Dirty Harry when he asked that sleazebag creep "Do you feel lucky, punk?!" :-mad

My DH loves Clint Eastwood, especially the Dirty Harry movies. So I know many of those lines by heart.

Martina
 
Hi Cookiebaby

I told my non Cathe, non BFL sister this yesterday. She was completely outraged and said this women is obviously not your friend and such an action was "criminal"

Babs
 
I would be very angry myself.

I would demand that they replace them. I wouldn't want them back after the tapes have been dumped. I would also file criminal charges and press them, BIG TIME! I would also promise that I would take them to court and sue if they didn't replace the tapes.

I would so end the friendship, your welfare, yeh right!

No one, not even my own family members would get near my tapes. That is one of the things that is a well known no no. I get very incensed when people with other views than mine interfere with my own choices and decisions. I don’t interfere with their ability to make the decision, why in the heck would they do that to me?

I’m rattling …
 
Friends or not, that was totally disrespectful of you and your things!!! I can attest to the fact that BFL is not for everyone. I did the whole 12 weeks back in 2001 and had some results, but it was too much to keep up with. I quit. Then in 2002 I joined ww and got all of Cathe's workouts. I lost 21 lbs. and am more cut and muscular than ever!!!! Your friends need to realize that all people and bodies respond to different things. I don't blame you for being furious, and hurt!!! Please keep us informed as to how this turns out.

Hang in there!
Lynn
 
This is incredible! You have every right to be angry. I watch Judge Judy before I go to work, and I'd love to see her give some @$$ to that so-called "friend" of yours. From what she said, it makes it sound like she was doing some kind of "intervention"---that's really whacked! Were all three of the friends involved, or was she just speaking for herself?
 
OMG!!! I am a longtime lurker but this drove me right out of lurker mode! This is shocking! I cannot believe the nerve...the gall...and the total lack of respect for YOU! I agree with the others who said you should insist that they replace the tapes. I can't even conceive of someone doing this and the huge ego it must take to do such a thing. I'm so sorry that this happened to you....
Karen
 
Ooooh, I can't believe this!! Are you actually saying ALL THREE OF THEM agree that you shouldn't be mad at them? And these are your 3 best friends? I am so shocked ... (I have been registered here for a long time but never posted before ... I just can't keep quiet about this ... your story has me absolutely bug eyed and my jaw is hanging open).

What your friend did is blatant theft and it doesn't matter WHAT she stole ... Cathe tapes or anything else of yours ... it is thievery, and then she actually threw them out!! SHOCKING!! And your other 2 friends don't see anything wrong?

Well they are obviously BFL-cultists and have brainwashed themselves into thinking they know best for everyone and somehow have a "right" to steal other people's videotapes and throw them out ...

I'm not a litigious type and what I would do in your situation would be to explain as calmly as I could to my friend that what she did was absolutely wrong and that she MUST pay me back for the tapes. But if she refused, I would simply have nothing more to do with her (that type of behavior is a HUGE affront and you should never just let it slide). If she "woke up" and did pay you back & apologize, I wouldn't break off the friendship BUT I would not involve her in any fitness discussions or allow her near my tapes (I probably wouldn't let her back in my house for awhile, but it all depends on her behavior).

I'm hoping this was temporary insanity on her part and she'll wake up (and the other 2 who seem to think this is acceptable!)

Really, this is shocking ... absolutely atrocious!!
 
That is so horrible!! Someone who could do that to you is no friend! A friend is someone who is there for you, and not someone who imposes on your right to make up your own decisions. Maybe she is just jealous of you. Maybe...she is truly NOT happy with BFL like she says, and she is jealous of how well you are doing with a good diet and Cathe videos. Anyway, that is horribly wrong. She owes you big time, not only money, but a heck of a lot of making up to do if she wants to remain your friend. Honestly, I think she doesn't even deserve to be your friend anymore. I'm sorry this happened to you cookiebaby =(
 
This behaviour sounds like something people in cults do....
The cost of filing a small claims suit is probably prohibitive given the lost value of the property, but to prove a point it certainly would be effective if that's where you need to go with this....
I absolutely support you that this behaviour is violative of your friendship and you are being rational by being upset. (It's not like they flushed a secret heroine stash, LOL!)
All I can say is that chances are you want to keep these people in your life based on your post- but I would consider telling them in calm, forceful terms why they violated you--your trust, your love, your wishes--and until they (1) understand and acknowledge that (whether they believe it or not is irrelevant, if they are your friends they need to respect your wishes)and (2) make it right by reimbursing your money, your friendship needs to be put on hold. :)
I'm so sorry! People just continue to surprise every day of my life, I swear. I hope it works out for you.

:) HUGS
Kristina
 
Hi cookiebaby!!
My god, my mouth dropped to the floor when I read that. The first thing I have to say is she is obviously not your friend. I don't care what you are doing to get in shape or what they are doing; it is absolutely rude and disrespectful. You need to dump her as your friend if you haven't already. I think her motive was pure jealousy. I am truly sorry.
Kristy
 
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