My nine year old daughter's good friend lost her mother to cancer yesterday. A former music teacher, this dear lady has been fighting brain cancer for the past 5 years. She has two children, ages 9 and 11 and was only 41. After many tears yesterday, I got to thinking about all the time we waste on trivialities and little annoyances, like messy bedrooms and scattered toys. Most of these childrens' memories of their mother include hospital rooms and nausea. It was very sobering to me when I realized how unfocused I can become on what really matters in life! So what if the laundry goes untouched for a few days? So what if I skip a Cathe workout and play Candyland instead? Right now, I just want to hug my kids like there's no tomorrow.
Hug Your Children Lots
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merrybaker
Cathlete
Oh I'm so sorry for your daughters friend and her family . You are so right too . Life is short .Take care I'm sure your daughter will be full of questions ,just hang in there mom . Hugs to you too.
My heart just broke reading your post. I'm so sorry for that little girl's loss. Being a single mom, my girls and I are so close but with working FT, I still don't feel like I spend enough time with them. You're so right - who cares about the dishes when you can spend some quality time with your kids - those are the moments they will remember forever....not how clean the house was.
Hugs,
Angie
Hugs,
Angie
DebbieH
Cathlete
How sad! Thank you for the reminder! We just sold our place this past Monday and have to be out in THREE weeks and our new place will not be done til end of April/beginning of May! I have been freaking BIGTIME and didn't sleep a wink last night. Thanks for the reminder that our lil' trivial things will pass. I will certainly give both my kids and my grandkids a big hug when I see them. Give your daughter a hug from us!
Your-Friend-In-Fitness, DebbieH (AKA "Den Mother Debbie")http://www.handykult.de/plaudersmilies.de/wavey.gif[/img] If You Get The Choice To Sit It Out Or Dance...I Hope You DANCE!!!
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We just recently found out that my SIL's breast cancer has spread to her brain. She's 42 years old and has a 6 year old daughter. We're devastated, but this has really changed the way that I view life - I just don't let little things get to me anymore. Life is too short and uncertain.
Erica
Erica
wendymin72
Cathlete
I just hate to hear about tragedies like that...makes you realize your own mortality...any one of us could be gone tomorrow...can't take life for granted...
Have a great work out!
~Wendy~
I smoked my last cigarette on March 17, 2004 at 10:00 pm!
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Have a great work out!
~Wendy~
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banslug
Cathlete
YES! Absolutely! If I may, I'd like to throw my situation in here real quick...just to back up what you are saying.
My DH passed away this passed September after battling leukemia for over 14 months. We have 2 boys, ages 7 and 4. It has been 6 months since he passed away and although we have settled back into a normal routine again, every once in a while I just need to look at his picture to remind myself that the soda Zach just spilled on the floor is minor...that Jacob overturning the recliner chair is FUNNY! I have learned, thru his ordeal, to live life NOW. We've made some changes since the, including planning family vacation, me changes jobs to spend more time with my boys, etc.
I get scared when I think of HOW CLOSE it hit home. It could have just as easily been ME and not DH, but it wasn't.
It's an eye-opener and I hope NONE of you EVER have to experience first hand.
Take the message to heart and HUG YOUR CHILDREN LOTS!
Gayle
My DH passed away this passed September after battling leukemia for over 14 months. We have 2 boys, ages 7 and 4. It has been 6 months since he passed away and although we have settled back into a normal routine again, every once in a while I just need to look at his picture to remind myself that the soda Zach just spilled on the floor is minor...that Jacob overturning the recliner chair is FUNNY! I have learned, thru his ordeal, to live life NOW. We've made some changes since the, including planning family vacation, me changes jobs to spend more time with my boys, etc.
I get scared when I think of HOW CLOSE it hit home. It could have just as easily been ME and not DH, but it wasn't.
It's an eye-opener and I hope NONE of you EVER have to experience first hand.
Take the message to heart and HUG YOUR CHILDREN LOTS!
Gayle
DebbieH
Cathlete
Erica!
I am also sorry to hear about your SIL. It sure is hitting those close to us, isn't it? Lost my brother to cancer five years ago. Big, big hugs to you and those beautiful four children of yours.
Your-Friend-In-Fitness, DebbieH (AKA "Den Mother Debbie")http://www.handykult.de/plaudersmilies.de/wavey.gif[/img] If You Get The Choice To Sit It Out Or Dance...I Hope You DANCE!!!
I am also sorry to hear about your SIL. It sure is hitting those close to us, isn't it? Lost my brother to cancer five years ago. Big, big hugs to you and those beautiful four children of yours.
Your-Friend-In-Fitness, DebbieH (AKA "Den Mother Debbie")http://www.handykult.de/plaudersmilies.de/wavey.gif[/img] If You Get The Choice To Sit It Out Or Dance...I Hope You DANCE!!!
MSJ
Cathlete
Saranhiva-I'm sorry for your daughter's friend's loss. To lose a mother is so hard. I lost my mom to cancer, but I was 25 when she died. It was enormously painful, but I was an adult. I can't imagine how hard it would be for small children, who are so much more needy.
Erica-I'm sad for your SIL and her little daughter also.
Gayle-what a loss. My husband is my best friend. Life without him would be so hard--for my kids also, who are extremely close to their dad.
Your stories brought tears to my eyes and I'm sending up a prayer to my dear heavenly Father for you all.
(((hugs)))
Maggie
Erica-I'm sad for your SIL and her little daughter also.
Gayle-what a loss. My husband is my best friend. Life without him would be so hard--for my kids also, who are extremely close to their dad.
Your stories brought tears to my eyes and I'm sending up a prayer to my dear heavenly Father for you all.
(((hugs)))
Maggie
Debbie...
Thanks, Debbie. I actually think about you a lot as we are going through this with my SIL. I remember when your brother died from cancer - I think he was 47 and had liver cancer? I apologize if I'm wrong about that, but I do remember when he died. I think I share the same birthday as him also - 9/3.
Erica
Thanks, Debbie. I actually think about you a lot as we are going through this with my SIL. I remember when your brother died from cancer - I think he was 47 and had liver cancer? I apologize if I'm wrong about that, but I do remember when he died. I think I share the same birthday as him also - 9/3.
Erica
Gayle, Erica, Sarah, I am so sorry to hear this sad news.
My childhood friend that I have known my entire life died last October of breast cancer. She was 31. She left two children behind. It is heartbreaking. Life is short and oh so precious. It really helps not "to sweat the small stuff".
Warm regards to all,
Lori
My childhood friend that I have known my entire life died last October of breast cancer. She was 31. She left two children behind. It is heartbreaking. Life is short and oh so precious. It really helps not "to sweat the small stuff".
Warm regards to all,
Lori
Thanks to all of you for reminding me what's of the upmost importance. Isn't it just absolutely crazy some of the things I (we) worry about? And yes, I've been playing games with my girls the past week, and not getting as much done at home, but they sure seem happy.
God bless to all...
Sam
God bless to all...
Sam
Imafitnessfreak
Cathlete
I am very sorry to hear of the losses postd above, my heart goes out to you.
Just today I was on the phone with DH saying "...and Brooks is tired and whining non stop but I need to shut my mouth because that's not a real problem."
Not a day goes by that I do not look at both of my children when they are "acting up" and think to myself "There are so many moms (and dads) out there who would give the world to hear their child whining, crying, pitching a fit but they never will due to some horrible loss.
I know you guys are talking loss of adults/parents but the loss of a child would be a horrible road. Just another reason to hug those babies even more!
AGAIN, so sorry for your losses.
Just today I was on the phone with DH saying "...and Brooks is tired and whining non stop but I need to shut my mouth because that's not a real problem."
Not a day goes by that I do not look at both of my children when they are "acting up" and think to myself "There are so many moms (and dads) out there who would give the world to hear their child whining, crying, pitching a fit but they never will due to some horrible loss.
I know you guys are talking loss of adults/parents but the loss of a child would be a horrible road. Just another reason to hug those babies even more!
AGAIN, so sorry for your losses.
I am so sorry for your daughters friend loss. Thanks for the reminder. I do thank God every day for my 2 little blessings. I agree Candyland is much more fun than picking up toys anyday! Your post brought tears to my eyes. I was reminded why I sat on the floor this evening and played with my two darlings versus clean up the toys and laundry. I wouldn't trade their hugs for a clean house ever!
God bless!
God bless!
