Timber99
Cathlete
...help your friend move in next door to you! Argh...so upset today b/c my good friend moved in next door about two months and I am wondering if this is going to kill our friendship! It seemed like a great idea at the time, although I saw the potential issues but basically, I am really worried now that our friendship will never be the same.
I feel like she is not doing things that are only fair to expect. (ie I asked her to please pick up her used cigarettes from the yard).
She feels like I am being controlling. (ie there were several occassions that I was upset that she used my BBQ - w/permission - and didn't clean it. Well, she said that she did but it was not cleaned.) These are only two examples, but I am trying to give you an idea.
Well, last night I asked them a question (I was upset but when they said that it was not them, I took their answer as truth and left) and it started an all out war. It was a QUESTION!!!!! Then she then told me that "its one thing after another" w/me, her husband is livid, and that they are trying to be good neighbors. Then she proceeded to list about 6 things that I have supposedly been mad about, 3 or so of which I either was NOT mad about at all or I wasn't even sure what she was talking about!! I suggested that we talk rather than text mail (how productive is text mail?) and she agreed that we would talk later b/c she had a terrible headache.
ETA - I don't think that I am being unreasonable in anything that I have spoken to them about (and BF told me that he agrees) and I do think that there were some things that they have pegged me for being a witch about that I never was upset about at all. I guess I can see that they woudl think that I have asked them to do a few things but I just didn't see it as "witchy" as they apparently have.
...and now I called her twice today and she is not taking my calls. I don't want to lose my friend. I don't want to argue with my neighbor. I thought that other than a few things, it was going well. Also I was shocked to see that she sees issues in things that I thought were going extremely well (ie working our dogs in the yard that we share without conflict)!
So what do I do now?
I feel like she is not doing things that are only fair to expect. (ie I asked her to please pick up her used cigarettes from the yard).
She feels like I am being controlling. (ie there were several occassions that I was upset that she used my BBQ - w/permission - and didn't clean it. Well, she said that she did but it was not cleaned.) These are only two examples, but I am trying to give you an idea.
Well, last night I asked them a question (I was upset but when they said that it was not them, I took their answer as truth and left) and it started an all out war. It was a QUESTION!!!!! Then she then told me that "its one thing after another" w/me, her husband is livid, and that they are trying to be good neighbors. Then she proceeded to list about 6 things that I have supposedly been mad about, 3 or so of which I either was NOT mad about at all or I wasn't even sure what she was talking about!! I suggested that we talk rather than text mail (how productive is text mail?) and she agreed that we would talk later b/c she had a terrible headache.
ETA - I don't think that I am being unreasonable in anything that I have spoken to them about (and BF told me that he agrees) and I do think that there were some things that they have pegged me for being a witch about that I never was upset about at all. I guess I can see that they woudl think that I have asked them to do a few things but I just didn't see it as "witchy" as they apparently have.
...and now I called her twice today and she is not taking my calls. I don't want to lose my friend. I don't want to argue with my neighbor. I thought that other than a few things, it was going well. Also I was shocked to see that she sees issues in things that I thought were going extremely well (ie working our dogs in the yard that we share without conflict)!
So what do I do now?
