I have been working out with my DH this past year at the gym. Our membership is up for renewal and I really don't want to go back. I get better results just working with Cathe. I have tried the "saving money" excuse but he is really hurt and says I motivate him when we w/o together. I feel it's a waste of money for my membership because I don't put my all into it there. In my basement I can huff and puff all I want, but at the "meat market" I feel out of place:-( I do enjoy the time together without the kids but I feel we are doing more catching up than working out. Any advice you all have is much appreciated;-) Have a great day!
How to break up with your gym partner
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janiejoey
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Tell your DH what you told us and figure it out from there.
He may want to do Cathe also and still be motivated by working out with you. Hey, he may even enjoy Cathe, she is addicting.
Janie
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He may want to do Cathe also and still be motivated by working out with you. Hey, he may even enjoy Cathe, she is addicting.
Janie
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Hmmm...this is a toughie. It's so nice that your DH wants you there with him and finds you motivating. Could you two find something else to do together so that the time you spend with each other is beneficial both emotionally and physically (wow, the solution seems so obvious}( Okay, I'll get my head out of the gutter). Maybe you could spend the time walking or playing tennis or something. Maybe you could negotiate a part-time membership or something, and go with him only once or twice a week?
I guess you could ask yourself these questions:
Is it worth it to be his motivation to workout and get himself healthy?
Is it worth it to spend some together-time and catch up with each other without the kids?
Just some thoughts! Good luck!
I guess you could ask yourself these questions:
Is it worth it to be his motivation to workout and get himself healthy?
Is it worth it to spend some together-time and catch up with each other without the kids?
Just some thoughts! Good luck!
Not wanting to "break up your act" but is there another guy or something your DH would work out with?
When I was in the Navy there was this Marine on my ship and we'd run together. The rivalry between services, not to mention testosterone we'd kill each other with competition. We once ran 10 miles in under an hour in Ashdod, Israel in the freakin' desert, it was over a 100 degrees, no water etc etc
When I was in the Navy there was this Marine on my ship and we'd run together. The rivalry between services, not to mention testosterone we'd kill each other with competition. We once ran 10 miles in under an hour in Ashdod, Israel in the freakin' desert, it was over a 100 degrees, no water etc etc
I find it complimenting that he finds me motivating and I do like the time alone. We are new to the area and don't have family to watch the kids. I like the questions to ask myself though. I do like that he is staying healthy and going only a couple of days wouldn't be too bad. I'm just torn. I have to figure out something soon. I guess I could look at it as $65 a month for daycare and time alone with my DH;-)
dogs2birds
Cathlete
Wow, I know it's not a great idea to give relationship advice when you don't know someone, but...I've gotta say I hear so often from women that their DH's don't want to spend time with them and when people have kids they have no time together and I hear other women say they can't get their DH's to work out at all and on and on it goes. It sounds like you have such a great situation here. It's not the perfect one for you, but it sounds so much better than what so many women talk about. Just something to think about.
ETA: Maybe you can set some gym rules so that you get more of a workout and less "catching up" so that you feel like it's worth your while to be there.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
Suz
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ETA: Maybe you can set some gym rules so that you get more of a workout and less "catching up" so that you feel like it's worth your while to be there.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
Suz
"Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawakened." - Anatole France
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Thanks for all the replies guys and gals. I guess I never saw it the way I'm seeing now, through your eyes. I am kind of lucky that my DH wants to spend time with me that much and keep healthy at the same time. And you know what, we went to the gym tonight and we had a great workout. I guess I just felt out of place there since I'm not a hardbody and my weights are light ones compared to the heavy barbells that everyone uses. We'll have our off days and I'm going to have to force him to do cardio
but the time alone is worth it And the working out together does have its benefits}( Thanks to all for waking me up to appreciate what I have;-)
but the time alone is worth it And the working out together does have its benefits}( Thanks to all for waking me up to appreciate what I have;-)