How do I DEAL WITH THE NEW GUY at work???

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Cathlete
He is the boss's son. Started working back in spring fulltime here - small office of six people. However, he just started putting in actual hours in the office recently- don't ask me what he was getting paid to do before.

1. He talks out loud all day long
2. Talks about S*xual things he is missing now that gf left him or how he needs to get hooked up with someone
3. Jokes constantly
4. Up and down from desk like five million times a day
5. Actually asked me if I was going home for a nooner?? HOW RUDE! I was meeting my hubby for lunch - just a lunch and none of his business.
6. Always comes in late and leaves early -
7. Takes an average of closer to hour and half for lunch


I am ignoring, but is there anything else I can do? I was so happy in the office environment overall until now????
 
He's the boss's son, so there probably isn't much you can do. I would, however, make it absolutely clear to him that you won't tolerate the sexual comments.
 
your right - the s*xual jokes and comments - come on -!!! He is old enough to be my dad too! Makes it much worse bc then its like "GROW UP!"
 
Um, Yikes.
Regardless of whether or not he's the boss's son, this is unacceptable. Is there any other supervisor in the office? I am actually the "boss's daughter" at my father's company and if I even THOUGHT about acting like that, I'd be out of here faster than I could blink.

There are several other supervisor's in my office and I don't doubt for a second that if I acted like this guy is, the other workers would bring it to their attention and I would be reprimanded severely.

Of course, he may just think he's being funny....

Allison
 
Perhaps you could make him listen to Brittany Spears all day. He won't return to work because he'll have flung himself into traffic.
 
Wait a minute! How old is this guy? I thought you were talking about some twenty-year old (no offense to any 20-somethings out there). That's ridiculous. Next time he makes a comment, just look at him and tell him it's inappropriate. Sounds like a complete loser.
 
- he thinks he is being funny -

I am 27 - and my dad is 52 - he is only a few years younger......

the other part time gal is bothered by the jokes as well, but she is really good at changing the subject on him quickly.....me I am just speechless and dumbfounded completely!

One of these days I will probably end up throwing a shoe at him if he doesn't stop - or maybe I will just act all "valley girl and talk about brittany like beavs says" maybe that would make him pipe down over there.......hehehe

ok back later...we will see what others have to say...

tough situation for sure! grrr
 
What a moron this guy is. Tell him to cut the crap or you'll wip out some moves from KPC. He won't think he's so funny after that. ;)

Allison
 
Absolutely unacceptable! The fact that he's the boss's son has no bearing here. If anything it means he should be held to a higher standard than the rest of the staff, not be allowed to behave like a jacka$$.

Truthfully if it were me I'd document it for a couple of weeks & then go to my boss (be it his father or a different supervisor). Follow the right chain of command here, keep notes including dates & time, then make your case. If nothing is done contact a lawyer.

This is disgusting & the exact type of thing we're supposed to be eliminating in the work place. I almost had to do it myself except the guy harassing me lost his job.
 
I'd print out the polcies on sexual harrassment and office behavior (there have got to be some, right? If not for this office, in general?) and leave the copy on his desk.
 
I'd print out the polcies on sexual harrassment and office behavior (there have got to be some, right? If not for this office, in general?) and leave the copy on his desk.
 
I'd have to agree with LauraMax. His behavior is unacceptable at ANY age, but at the age he is at? Pitiful.
 
I would have thought he would be held to higher standards as well, but instead he is like the "golden" child finally returning from being away for years...

ex: of joke

Part time gal says something like - "hey want not get a kitty for your cat, he just sounds like he is lonely or not adjusting to the change" response: "I need a kitty but not that kind."

x( x( must every conversation be turned into something referencing s*x?? grrrr....

I am going to ignore and then if its too much - I will tell him to cut the crap - if that doesn't work - then I will bring it up in meetings in front of everyone to try and keep offhand jokes and comments quiet.

I am an extremely tolerable person, but the constant comments is annoying and they are not funny at all either
 
YUK!
I agree with you documenting his comments and talking with someone in authority. I wouldn't worry about complaining about his hours, just his nastiness. You should not be subjected to his crude sense of humor. Keep us posted.
 
I agree that it's unacceptable. How is your boss? Is he pretty by-the-book? Does he see his son acting this way? He may be mortified to know that his son is saying such things and behaving in such a way. I'd be very embarrassed if I gave my son a job and he acted this way. Maybe you should tell him about it. If that's out of the question, then I'd fight fire with fire. The only way to react to immaturity is to totally ignore him. If he's anything like my 5 and 2 year old boys, that will humble him. Keep us posted!
 
I would question why at 50 this guy is suddenly working for his dad. Do you know what he was doing before he came to work there? He may have lost his job because of his behavior, his dad may already know what type of person he is and hopes that no one complains about him because he is the boss's son.

Diane
 
It's a family business, and you may be better off getting another job. I've been in a similar situation, and ended up quitting. I would say cut your losses and start to look elsewhere for work.
 
I think I enjoyed the last suggestion best! ;)

My boss is the nicest most honorable person I have ever worked for, so i think I will definitely ignore completely and also talk to the part time girl and see if she will do the same - if we both ignore his comments completely, I am guessing they will stop!
 
As some here have suggested:

We in one area of Human Resources, refer to a "kitty" as an attorney.

Tell him he may need a kitty, "not that kind" if he doesn't stop his harassing behavior.

But then again, I also work for a company owned business and many times even though the owner/top dog is nice, the relatives still get away with too much.

Just have to decide what choices you want to make.

Good luck - I know the exact position you are in . . . x(
 
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