I do allow for low fat low sugar granola bars
apples
grapes
any fruit, really
string cheese
any cheese, really
My son just asked me for smores. The answer was simple. "Sorry honey, that requires grahm crackers, chocolate and marshmellows and we don't have any of it".
The same would happen if he asked for cookies.
Sometimes my youngest will pitch a fit...one in a blue moon...wanting a junk food. I finally tell him "If you can find it in the kitchen, then it's all yours! Help yourself! Knock yourself out!"
We cannot control what they eat when they are sitting in the cafeteria and a classmate offers to bring in extra licorice for our kids, but we can certainly control what is in our home.