Going to make someone angry at this post but...

Dela

Dela

Cathlete
I'm getting disappointed every time I come to the board and almost half of it is taken up with Happy Birthdays. I really do know it's a very nice gesture, and I must sound like such a scrooge for posting this, but the boards have not been as active lately, but I still come back looking for some good stuff to read or reply to, and it's all 'Happy Birthday' posts. So I'm not sure my issue is so much with the actual Happy Birthday posts, but that not enough people are posting to mix it up. I hope some new people find these boards soon to help pick up the activity level, or maybe just the return of some past regulars.

I am also going to apologize now to Bayerngirl, as it really is a very nice gesture from you.
 
It is dissappointing that there isn't more activity on this board. I also noticed that some days I come here and there is more activity around the Happy B'day messages than anything else.

Like you - I'm not saying the B'day messages should go away, just that I wish there was more of the other stuff too.
 
I understand what you're saying.
I also think that by posting birthday greetings for some people (but not all) it can make some feel left out (not that I'm suggesting every member's birthday gets a thread.. that would really clog up the forums. But maybe have an "October birthdays" thread, or something like that, for each month?)
 
Well... if it makes you feel better, I used to get really annoyed about all the birthday celebrations in the office. Gotta go stand around and sing for someone I really don't know, and then eat bland cake. Glad that tradition stopped here.
 
MidgetDogg said:
Well... if it makes you feel better, I used to get really annoyed about all the birthday celebrations in the office. Gotta go stand around and sing for someone I really don't know, and then eat bland cake. Glad that tradition stopped here.
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OMG we do that here in my office. I can't stand it so I know how you feel. :rolleyes:
 
I agree with all the posters. Dela, I think what happens most here is that there are a lot of 'groups' meaning, a lot of gals who know each other really well, live near each other ,and probably go to all of the Road Trips together etc, so those of us who are 'trying' to get to know others may be left out of some of the 'group' posts. Which is not a bad thing. This is why I am on here, to get to know people.
( if they let me that is ! )
There have been many times where I have posted questions, ideas ( work out related ) and did not recieve one reply. That is the way it goes sometimes.

Re: Birthdays: One gripe I DO have is that fact that B-days always have to revolve around food . Why is this ? Like what MidgetDogg said about the 'office' cakes or like my birthday for example. dam near every person in my family wants to 'take me out to eat' and I end up going out to eat like 12 times in a row. Very frustrating. I think if I had my choice I would rather have my family take me to a Cathe Road trip for my Birthday than out to eat all the time
( uh,,,,who else is sick of Applebees ?? ) ;)
Morgs
 
I haven't been on this forum long and I love coming here and looking at posts to get ideas. I have even posted a few questions and gotten a few responses which is really nice. It was really active here over the summer months it seemed but I don't know if people are busier now with kids in school or what but the activity level has decreased.

I am kind of in the same boat as Morgs about the groups. Being new, there doesn't seem like a good place to go to work your way into a group. Part of me wants to join a check-in group but 1) I am not sure how to do that, 2) I am not sure what one would fit my needs or have people that have similar interests as me and 3) most of them have been going on for so long, I would feel like a party crasher by just posting on one without knowing anyone. (Maybe it is just me being overly shy and I just need to get over it.)

I also have thought how much fun it would be to go on a Road Trip (if Cathe ever visits my neck of the cornfields :p) but then again, I would feel isolated since I don't know very many people in this community (although I am sure if I went people wouldn't ignore me).

As far as the birthday issue, I like Kathryn's idea about a monthly birthday post or something similar (monthly, weekly, daily, whatever) since sending individuals do take up space and can make some people feel left out (which I am sure is not the intent).
 
I like Kathryn's monthly birthday thread idea a lot.

Regarding the dumb office celebrations, ITA!!! I can't stand them, I am so happy I work from home now :D even if for that reason alone. And I never ate that cake, was just never "worth the calories".

I often have a hard time fitting in, anywhere, I'm not sure what it is with me, but part of it is I feel like I have a "different" life than the people around me, and have a hard time connecting sometimes. My (few) best friends are the kind of people who seem to have a tolerance for all types of people :eek:

On the boards, I try to be helpful and do my best to express myself correctly, I get so much great info from here, I would have never known about this world of workout dvds if not for these boards. I did make one good friend here that I even visited while on vacation twice, but we have drifted, and she's not posting here any longer.

Well here's to hoping people's schedules lighten up a little so we can get these boards rolling again! :D
 
I also second Kathryn's suggestion, either the once a month birthday post or the once a week.

If anyone wants to do a special birthday shout out to any particular member, they can always email them or pm them, right? Because yes, those of us who never get mentioned do feel left out.

Clare
 
There have always been BDay posts. I have been on this forum for four years, it has had its ups and downs. One thing that I have never seen or done personally is be upset when members have greetings or well wishes, or anything else that they wish to discuss for that matter. There are many posts that I too disagree with, but they are obviously important to the person posting. I personally believe that a greeting or Happy thought is much more relevant than many of the other conversations that have absolutely nothing to do with Fitness or the support for it.

There are many on this forum for which this is our only knowledge of each other, and all of us have many other things going on. So this forum for me is where I go to to discuss fitness and acknowledge significant events of others. It is not my intent to leave anyone out, however, I do not plan to change how I do this.

No offense was taken by me of others comments, so please take none in return. We all have opinions.

Have a wonderful day, everyone!
Belinda
 
To join a check-in group just post that you would like to join or create a new one, give yourself some sort of group name. My group is called the jogglers as a play on words because all of us like to jog or run. But, of course you could give it any name.
 
And some of us don't even run or jog and still check in. ;) The jogglers already existed before I joined them and I have to say they were VERY welcoming! I suspect most check in groups are.
 
you might try reading/following a few of the check ins that might work for you. getting to know people. some of us are losing, maintaining, training for races. you might look for a group, if you decide to join, that has similar interests, goals, or you are good friends with one or more of the members. that last one is how i chose my group, and had a catchy name.
we became friends when i read her blog. new to the boards and having a hard time (july), we pmed back and forth. i liked her blog, we had lots in common.

generally, thats the feeling/intension i get from members. helpful, friendly, interested in fitness, hard workers...to name a few.

i say, as you read members' posts, just send them a pm. start that conversation. just as you might if you were in a class together and they sat next to you. we all have something in common. we love fitness and cathe. size 0 or size 22, almost all of us have the same struggles with food and exercise. or daily stresses. well anyway, have alot in common. so if you think about it, we are all. already friends. we just don't know it yet lol.
 
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