wendymin72
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DH and I both tend to do a little of everything in our house....although he DOES tend to need to be reminded to take care of things at times ; )
For those who are married or living with an SO...how are the housework/yard work/childcare responsib
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wendymin72
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RE: For those who are married or living with an SO...ho...
Sorry, the question got cut off and the edit option was giving me a problem, so here's the question again....
For those who are married or living with an SO...how are the housework/yard work/childcare responsibilities divided in your home?
Have a great work out!
~Wendy~
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Sorry, the question got cut off and the edit option was giving me a problem, so here's the question again....
For those who are married or living with an SO...how are the housework/yard work/childcare responsibilities divided in your home?
Have a great work out!
~Wendy~
I smoked my last cigarette on March 17, 2004 at 10:00 pm!
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candi
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RE: For those who are married or living with an SO...ho...
DH and I have a traditional sort of thing going on. I do most of the cleaning. If I want him to help I just ask him and he is happy to do whatever I ask.
He does all the repairs and the big maintenance work and takes out the trash. He also does the yard work.
Edited to say he does change and wash the linens and make the bed back up once a week. I don't even have to remind him
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DH and I have a traditional sort of thing going on. I do most of the cleaning. If I want him to help I just ask him and he is happy to do whatever I ask.
He does all the repairs and the big maintenance work and takes out the trash. He also does the yard work.
Edited to say he does change and wash the linens and make the bed back up once a week. I don't even have to remind him
.wendymin72
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RE: For those who are married or living with an SO...ho...
>DH and I have a traditional sort of thing going on. I do
>most of the cleaning. If I want him to help I just ask him
>and he is happy to do whatever I ask.
That is nice, Candi. My dh is the same way....he has things he does in the house on a regular basis (ie-washing dishes after dinner and vacuuming) but beyond that, he is more than willing to help if I ask him to do something that is not his responsibility normally.
Have a great work out!
~Wendy~
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>DH and I have a traditional sort of thing going on. I do
>most of the cleaning. If I want him to help I just ask him
>and he is happy to do whatever I ask.
That is nice, Candi. My dh is the same way....he has things he does in the house on a regular basis (ie-washing dishes after dinner and vacuuming) but beyond that, he is more than willing to help if I ask him to do something that is not his responsibility normally.
Have a great work out!
~Wendy~
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RE: For those who are married or living with an SO...how are the housework/yard work/childcare responsibilities divided in your home?
We're pretty traditional - no yardwork (we live in an apartment) or kids, but I do the housework. It's more because he's working insane hours and I'm not, so I have time for laundry, grocery, paying bills, running errands, etc.
We're pretty traditional - no yardwork (we live in an apartment) or kids, but I do the housework. It's more because he's working insane hours and I'm not, so I have time for laundry, grocery, paying bills, running errands, etc.
RE: For those who are married or living with an SO...ho...
My DH will help with whatever needs to be done in the house and I will help with the things outside the house. We both cook. Some days I do laundry and some days he does laundry. We are like this with everything. Works well for us.
My DH will help with whatever needs to be done in the house and I will help with the things outside the house. We both cook. Some days I do laundry and some days he does laundry. We are like this with everything. Works well for us.
candi
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RE: For those who are married or living with an SO...ho...
Wendy,
Sounds like your DH will be a great Dad. You know, the diaper changing thing .
LOL!
P.S. My DH is so funny about that. He has been a volunteer Fireman and Paramedic but he smells a bad diaper and has to walk away. LOL! We don't have children but DB and SIL are due on May 21. We've offered to babysit. I love babies. It will be interesting to see if DH will change a diaper.
Wendy,
Sounds like your DH will be a great Dad
. You know, the diaper changing thing . LOL!
P.S. My DH is so funny about that. He has been a volunteer Fireman and Paramedic but he smells a bad diaper and has to walk away. LOL! We don't have children but DB and SIL are due on May 21. We've offered to babysit. I love babies. It will be interesting to see if DH will change a diaper.
wendymin72
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Candi-
Your SIL is due only 2 days after me. How cool! I get so excited when I hear about others that are due around the same time as me! Hope her pregnancy is going well!
My Dh has changed his niece/nephew's diapers and claims he is not against doing the same for his own children...we shall see if that holds true! lol I walk away from smelly or really gross looking diapers myself! I guess I am in trouble, huh? :+
Have a great work out!
~Wendy~
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Candi-
Your SIL is due only 2 days after me. How cool! I get so excited when I hear about others that are due around the same time as me! Hope her pregnancy is going well!
My Dh has changed his niece/nephew's diapers and claims he is not against doing the same for his own children...we shall see if that holds true! lol I walk away from smelly or really gross looking diapers myself! I guess I am in trouble, huh? :+
Have a great work out!
~Wendy~
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FitnessGoddess
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RE: For those who are married or living with an SO...how are the housework/yard work/childcare responsibilities divided in your home?
Mostly we share all of the responsibilites but there are some things that are "man's work" and some that are "woman's work." For example, I REFUSE to take out the trash & REFUSE to let him do the laundry.
Mostly we share all of the responsibilites but there are some things that are "man's work" and some that are "woman's work." For example, I REFUSE to take out the trash & REFUSE to let him do the laundry.
RE: For those who are married or living with an SO...how are the housework/yard work/childcare responsibilities divided in your home?
My DH is just wonderful!!!!! He helps around the house. We share the responsibilities with the kids. Like FitnessGoddess, there are some things I don't want to do (mow, clean the garage, work on the cars, etc.) as well as things I don't want him doing (laundry, thorough house cleaning, etc.).
We are a team! Even with the kids. He gets up with the baby... feeds him... chagnes him... bathes him. We even take turns sleeping late on the weekends... he gets Saturday and I get Sunday. When I was nursing and he couldn't feed Jordan (or Sydney when she was a babe), he would go get the baby, change the diaper, and bring the baby to me. We even alternate reading to DD. Wow, I think I'll go show the man some love!
OH, and he NEVER, EVER "babysits" his own children. He is their father!
Autumn
My DH is just wonderful!!!!! He helps around the house. We share the responsibilities with the kids. Like FitnessGoddess, there are some things I don't want to do (mow, clean the garage, work on the cars, etc.) as well as things I don't want him doing (laundry, thorough house cleaning, etc.).
We are a team! Even with the kids. He gets up with the baby... feeds him... chagnes him... bathes him. We even take turns sleeping late on the weekends... he gets Saturday and I get Sunday. When I was nursing and he couldn't feed Jordan (or Sydney when she was a babe), he would go get the baby, change the diaper, and bring the baby to me. We even alternate reading to DD. Wow, I think I'll go show the man some love!
OH, and he NEVER, EVER "babysits" his own children.
He is their father! Autumn
RE: For those who are married or living with an SO...how are the housework/yard work/childcare responsibilities divided in your home?
My husband is great with sharing child care duties. As for housecleaning......black mold would have to be growing on the floor before he would even think to clean it!! My husbands idea of yardwork is to write a check out for the gardener!
My husband is great with sharing child care duties. As for housecleaning......black mold would have to be growing on the floor before he would even think to clean it!! My husbands idea of yardwork is to write a check out for the gardener!
RE: For those who are married or living with an SO...how are the housework/yard work/childcare responsibilities divided in your home?
I work insane hours; he doesn't. So he does all the cooking, the laundry, the grocery shopping, errand running. I help wash the dishes, but he will do it, too, if I ask. Actually, he'll do any chore if I ask him to--just have to tell him what I need done. He also vacuums, takes out the garbage, fixes anythign that needs fixing...I do the bathrooms. We both dust and straighten up. I feel really lucky, too, because he doesn't make an issue out of my asking him to do chores.
I work insane hours; he doesn't. So he does all the cooking, the laundry, the grocery shopping, errand running. I help wash the dishes, but he will do it, too, if I ask. Actually, he'll do any chore if I ask him to--just have to tell him what I need done. He also vacuums, takes out the garbage, fixes anythign that needs fixing...I do the bathrooms. We both dust and straighten up. I feel really lucky, too, because he doesn't make an issue out of my asking him to do chores.
RE: For those who are married or living with an SO...how are the housework/yard work/childcare responsibilities divided in your home?
i do everything. yard, trash, laudrey, cooking, cleaning, shopping dog care.......he works alot though. i don't mind it and he's a slob, so there ya go!
jes
i do everything. yard, trash, laudrey, cooking, cleaning, shopping dog care.......he works alot though. i don't mind it and he's a slob, so there ya go!
jes
Mckmain
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RE: For those who are married or living with an SO...how are the housework/yard work/childcare responsibilities divided in your home?
Jes...our DH's could be brothers!!! I refer to my DH as "Pigpen" from Charlie Brown as the mess just seems to follow him around...He will do trash, dishes, sometimes cook, oh yes...mow the lawn on his riding lawnmower......but getting him to do other things...x( So you ladies that have alot of help..please for me...feel blessed...:+ :7 ...Carole
Jes...our DH's could be brothers!!! I refer to my DH as "Pigpen" from Charlie Brown as the mess just seems to follow him around...He will do trash, dishes, sometimes cook, oh yes...mow the lawn on his riding lawnmower...
...but getting him to do other things...x( So you ladies that have alot of help..please for me...feel blessed...:+ :7 ...Carole
dss62467
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RE: For those who are married or living with an SO...how are the housework/yard work/childcare responsibilities divided in your home?
I just had a conversation about this with a woman I work with yesterday. She's newly married (in the last year) to my old boyfriend from about 13 years ago(weird, huh?). We were talking about shovelling snow and she was saying how she thought she would have to do the snowblowing when she got home. I thought that was kind of stinky that she's got a husband and she was the one who was going to snowblow. So she said his philosophy is "why bother snowblowing? We both have 4 wheel drive." I had to laugh because I totally remember him with that attitude, but I try not to let her know because I don't want her getting all weirded out about how well I used to know her husband.
So then I told her how my husband will expect me to help him shovel the driveway, or if I'm home on my day off and it snows, he'll mention that I can shovel if I get around to it. Now...I clean the house, do the laundry, go grocery shopping and spend quality time with our daughter on my day off. I also do 95% of the cooking, clean the kitchen after dinner and give our daughter all of her baths.
His only jobs around the house seem to be mowing the lawn in the summer (we have a John Deere tracker - so big whoop! You sit and drive around the yard for an hour), watering the plants, taking the garbage out to the curb and bringing the firewood in from outside. If you count how much time it takes to do the jobs that are done all year (watering plants and taking out the trash), it adds up to probably less than an hour a week. I'm sorry...but I don't think that him doing ALL of the snow shovelling should be too much to ask.
Our driveway hasn't been shovelled in at least a month. And the last time the entire thing was shovelled...I did it. He's a foot taller than me and is definitely stronger (even though I work out and he doesn't.)
This is a sore subject for me, can't you tell?
I just had a conversation about this with a woman I work with yesterday. She's newly married (in the last year) to my old boyfriend from about 13 years ago(weird, huh?). We were talking about shovelling snow and she was saying how she thought she would have to do the snowblowing when she got home. I thought that was kind of stinky that she's got a husband and she was the one who was going to snowblow. So she said his philosophy is "why bother snowblowing? We both have 4 wheel drive." I had to laugh because I totally remember him with that attitude, but I try not to let her know because I don't want her getting all weirded out about how well I used to know her husband.
So then I told her how my husband will expect me to help him shovel the driveway, or if I'm home on my day off and it snows, he'll mention that I can shovel if I get around to it. Now...I clean the house, do the laundry, go grocery shopping and spend quality time with our daughter on my day off. I also do 95% of the cooking, clean the kitchen after dinner and give our daughter all of her baths.
His only jobs around the house seem to be mowing the lawn in the summer (we have a John Deere tracker - so big whoop! You sit and drive around the yard for an hour), watering the plants, taking the garbage out to the curb and bringing the firewood in from outside. If you count how much time it takes to do the jobs that are done all year (watering plants and taking out the trash), it adds up to probably less than an hour a week. I'm sorry...but I don't think that him doing ALL of the snow shovelling should be too much to ask.
Our driveway hasn't been shovelled in at least a month. And the last time the entire thing was shovelled...I did it. He's a foot taller than me and is definitely stronger (even though I work out and he doesn't.)
This is a sore subject for me, can't you tell?
dss62467
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Candi - it's funny, but when the poop is your own child's, it's not quite so nasty. I was never bothered by messy diapers. Even if her poop got on my hands while I was changing it, I washed it off, but never got freaked. I also don't get bothered about her snot if it gets on me. Oh...and as far as getting your husband to change a diaper, you'll pretty much have to nudge him. Seems that most of them just drag their heels on doing it so that you get so sick of waiting, you do it yourself.
My BIL is an exception to this. He's very involved in the mundane parts of being a father. Maybe it's because he and my SIL had so much trouble getting their children (they had to do it through in-vitro on both boys), so he's been very involved from before they were born.
MY DH would be more involved in a lot of the stuff with our daughter if she would let him. If I'm around, she wants me to take care of her. She won't let him give her a bath, even though he's way better at it than I am. He plays with her while she's bathing. I clean the sink, do my nails, read a book...I suppose if he had to do it every time, he'd get as bored with it as I do.
Candi - it's funny, but when the poop is your own child's, it's not quite so nasty. I was never bothered by messy diapers. Even if her poop got on my hands while I was changing it, I washed it off, but never got freaked. I also don't get bothered about her snot if it gets on me. Oh...and as far as getting your husband to change a diaper, you'll pretty much have to nudge him. Seems that most of them just drag their heels on doing it so that you get so sick of waiting, you do it yourself.
My BIL is an exception to this. He's very involved in the mundane parts of being a father. Maybe it's because he and my SIL had so much trouble getting their children (they had to do it through in-vitro on both boys), so he's been very involved from before they were born.
MY DH would be more involved in a lot of the stuff with our daughter if she would let him. If I'm around, she wants me to take care of her. She won't let him give her a bath, even though he's way better at it than I am. He plays with her while she's bathing. I clean the sink, do my nails, read a book...I suppose if he had to do it every time, he'd get as bored with it as I do.
RE: For those who are married or living with an SO...how are the housework/yard work/childcare responsibilities divided in your home?
I voted other because first it depends on the time of year. Snowing -he plows and does most of the shoveling (occasionally I will go shovel). Summer - I get out there and mow grass and he cleans the swimming pool. Duties in the house is mostly me but he will lend a hand. He does most of the maintenance and repair jobs and I will help when and if I can.
Rhonda
I voted other because first it depends on the time of year. Snowing -he plows and does most of the shoveling (occasionally I will go shovel). Summer - I get out there and mow grass and he cleans the swimming pool. Duties in the house is mostly me but he will lend a hand. He does most of the maintenance and repair jobs and I will help when and if I can.
Rhonda
candi
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So, DH asks if he can help with dinner last night. We were having fish so I told him he could help with that and please get out the pan and put the fish in, season it, yadda, yadda. He knows the drill. Five minutes later I notice the pan, with the fish in it is sitting on top of the oven and not in the oven. I asked him why the fish wasn't cooking and he said, "Well, you didn't tell me to do that." Gotta love him. I guess he really does listen to me.
So, DH asks if he can help with dinner last night. We were having fish so I told him he could help with that and please get out the pan and put the fish in, season it, yadda, yadda. He knows the drill. Five minutes later I notice the pan, with the fish in it is sitting on top of the oven and not in the oven. I asked him why the fish wasn't cooking and he said, "Well, you didn't tell me to do that." Gotta love him. I guess he really does listen to me.
RE: For those who are married or living with an SO...how are the housework/yard work/childcare responsibilities divided in your home?
My husband travels so much for his job I have to take care of most things or all of the things around the house. He will occasionally get a "honey do" list and has no problems with that. We have a partnership. He works a "regular" job and brings home the paycheck and I stay home being a domestic engineer, goddess, kids taxi driver, spend the money, etc. It works for us!
Jen
This way he doesn't know how many Cathe videos I buy!!!
My husband travels so much for his job I have to take care of most things or all of the things around the house. He will occasionally get a "honey do" list and has no problems with that. We have a partnership. He works a "regular" job and brings home the paycheck and I stay home being a domestic engineer, goddess, kids taxi driver, spend the money, etc. It works for us!
Jen
This way he doesn't know how many Cathe videos I buy!!!